My brother pays $100 per month for child support. legally, thats all he has to pay. but is ex gf is on welfare so she doesnt get the money bc it is taken out of her welfare. she never lets us see my neice bc she thinks he is a deadbeat dad. she doesnt understand the situation. i miss my niece i havent seen her since she was 2 years old in the summer time and now she is 3 and i miss and love her. her mom is an idiot and my neice sstill wers diaperss and is on the bottle and her mom sux wud do i do?
2007-10-25 16:03:54 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if i am in your case,I will appeal to the court to have some right to the child such as to see her even twice a month or not satisfied is twice a week.Why not besides your brother support the child by giving financially and your brother has the right too ,to see her daughter. Discussing with them about your rights to the child and if the family of the girl is so stubborn,just make a deal with it .
2007-10-25 16:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. $100 isn't much. I know of people that pay $1200 a month per child, and it is very difficult for a child's needs to be accommodated with only $100.
2. Is there a parental order in place? If so, he would be seeing his daughter.
3. Some kids do stay on diapers until they are 3. Others are finished earlier than 2. Every child is different and I don't think it is fair to judge the mother based on a bitter biased view of her. As for the bottle part, I have witnessed kids still being breastfed at 3, even though I would be graduating a kid onto a cup at that age. That's my preference, anyhow.
4. It is understandable that you are hurt, despite there is not much you can do about it since you are not one of the parents. However, if your brother ever does have a chance to see her once papers are in place, ask to tag along during the visit so that you can see her too.
Take care...
2007-10-25 16:18:23 · answer #2 · answered by cherryblossom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only way you are going to see your niece is if your brother gets legal visitation. It is worth the money spent in court to ensure this occurs.
As for the mom, apparently she didn't read the paperwork when she assigned rights to support over to the state when she went on assistance. However, the state can only keep what it paid out to her in assistance, anything above that amount is sent to the mother. But judging by the $100 support order, I doubt that will happen because the assistance amount is likely greater than $100.
The only choice you have is to encourage your brother to go back to court and get visitation. If he already has visitation and she is not complying, go back to court and file contempt charges. Every father must be involved in their child's life!
2007-10-26 01:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by Reece Judicata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids both wore diapers at two years old, and i did too. It's not a crime to wear diapers at two...
Besides that's not the issue, so why bring it up at all? And her mother is an idiot because she is your brother's EX... and other reasons which make absolutely no sense at all....
If she doesn't understand how the system works, and that her child support is being included in her monthly check, it's a shame that she doesn't have the intelligence to find out. Being dim doesn't make one a bad person.
If you want to see your neice, why not make amends with this woman, stay out of the middle of her ex relationship with your brother, and ask if you could visit your neice. Maybe she will agree...
2007-10-25 16:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋