help me and my mom!!!?

Question

i am 14 and i am at the age of when i like everything organized and clean. my mom is the complete opposite. every day i just want to come home to a clean house but i come home to a fithy one. i try to tell my mom how much this is rewuing my life because i cant even have friends over and she doesnt listen. i have even tryed to give her a list of things to do each day before i go to school and she still just doesnt do it. i have this little job of when i organized things for other people but now i dont want to do it because i just think why organize somone elses house when i want to organize mine. i have tried talking to her and i just need some ideas of what to do. please help!!! also if you have any organizing ideas for my house please tell me. thanks so much for taking your time to read this:)

Answer 1

Hey sweetie. It has been my experience that people are either clean freaks or not and its almost impossible to become one if your not!

I give you kudos for wanting to keep your environment clean and tidy! I am the same way. It is a very important quality.

I guess my advice is that you are not going to change your grown adult mother into some who is neat and tidy if she is a messy person. I would not stress yourself out by trying to change her, it probably won't work.

Soon you will be able to have more control over the environment you live in and you won't have to deal with unwanted clutter. I would make your bedroom your haven and keep it just how you like things and try to spend most of your time there if the other parts of the house just flip you out.

One good tip for organization though is BASKETS. Nice baskets for things that seem to accumulate in certain areas etc. Also, one big laundry type basket for quick cleanups when you know guests are coming by. Just grab the basket and throw all the clutter in there and deal with it after your guests depart.

I wish you the best of lucky honey. You sound like a very sweet person and I admire you trying to make your home a better place.

Answer 2

Your choices are either to accept or do. If you would like a clean house then start cleaning. You cannot control anyone but yourself, and if you keep trying to change your mother you will probably go nuts. Do what you can, I know your schedule is busy with school and all, but your at the age you can do most, if not all, the cleaning needed in your home. Finding the time will be the biggest issue. The bigger problem is the feeling of resentment, so be careful, your relationship with your mom is more important than a clean home.

Answer 3

You have to take matters into your own hands and clean and organize the house yourself and just keep doing it if you want it kept that way. Also spend a weekend and do some spring cleaning with her together. My mom was the same way and still is all these years. Never could get her to change and you usually can't when they are that age. So you either have to do it or live with it for another few years.

Answer 4

Your mom could have mental problems. Some people are obsessive compulsive pack rats and they cannot stand to throw anything away. They have to hang onto everything.
Offer to help her clean up and organize everything. You can get plastic bins and wicker baskets at KMart or other stores. Do you have any relatives you can talk to about it? They might be able to get her to clean it up.

If your house is really filthy, call Child Welfare Services. They will come out and inspect it and make her clean it up. It could be a health hazard.
I hope you can get out of this environment when you are 18.

Answer 5

Well, I'm sorry, but you can't really leave a list of things for your mom to do. She won't like doing 'chores' that her daughter assigned to her, even if that's not how you mean it. I'm afraid if you want the house clean, you might just have to do it yourself. Maybe once you show her how nice the house is when it's clean and organized, and how easy it is to find things, your mom will be more willing to pitch in.

Answer 6

She is in all risk having a foul day, if she is like this all of the time perhaps you may desire to objective assisting her out some around the domicile you be conscious of do a load of cloths and fold them,sweep the floor,vacume or airborne dirt and mud in basic terms take 10 min out of the day to do some thing efficient she would be grateful i be conscious of im a mom and a spouse my young ones are youthful so as that dont complication me that they dont help out reason they cant yet my hubby is lazy i might like it if he might in basic terms flow do the dishes and sweep the floor and do a competent activity at it you be conscious of no longer 0.5 a*s! good luck with your mom

Answer 7

wow, when can you move in? actually our house is pretty good & my son is like you he likes things tidy most of the time.
however your problem....hhhmmmm
why?
does your mum work?
does she socialise?
does she have any hobbies/interests?
i'm getting a bit of a feeling that your mum might be a bit depressed? if this is the case, you have to help her with that first & then she will be able to help you with your cleaning thing.
however its nice to have things in their place, but you don't want to live in a museum, you want to live in a home, so it has to have some things out of place for have that homey feel & that visitors will be comfy too.
good luck sweetie

Answer 8

do she have a husband or boyfriend.i dont know if this will help, but if she dont tell her to fine one and maybe when she do fine one she would start cleaning to invite him over. thats the only time my sister cleans is when her boyfriend comes over. ITS A STAR.

Answer 9

maybe your mum is feeling overwheelmed, try helping by doing some of the chores for her. my 15yr old needs to be encouraged but she does her fair share around here.

dont complain just get in there and do what needs to be done

Answer 10

wow..its different to see this situation switched around.

I would suggest creating a chore chart for the both of you.

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