I'm 23 and recently left a job to seriously consider what i want to do in life and take some time out. I have a whole stash of money i saved while i was working and i'm using that to do a bit of travel for 3 weeks in Nov. I thought i would do it while i have the time, money and little commitment.
Even though i have already paid for my trip myself, my dad gave me a card last night telling me how proud he was with a cheque for $5000!!
Now i absolutely refuse to take money from my parents, no matter how much i'm struggling, I'm at the age where i feel i should be independant. I feel really ashamed that i'm even still at home. But my dad constantly tries to shove money and 'support' down my throat, everything from buying me an apartment to trying to pay me things i can easily afford!
It is tempting to take the money but i will feel so guilty and 'bludgey'. Everyone is saying i should let him help just this once, as it would make him happy. I feel tempted but bad for having it easy..
2007-10-25 15:41:43 · 7 answers · asked by Athalia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know how you feel. I would not take the money..even though if i was having trouble financialy...i just would feel like i would owe my parents something..you know... hope i helpled out!!=)
2007-10-25 15:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your father wants to give you $5,000 then accept it graciously. Apparently, he can afford it, is very generous and WANTS you to have it -- otherwise, he wouldn't bother offering.
Put the money into an account or invest it, if you don't need it right now.
It's ok to accept help from others, also. Someday your parents may be in the position where they need YOUR help -- believe me, my mother was wonderful to me, and there came a day when she got cancer -- i stayed with her for a year and did everything i could....
one hand washes the other in life.
2007-10-25 15:54:41 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just imagine if you were your dad.
We feel up set if someone rejects our gift, dont we?
Accept it to honour your dad. save it and treat him well. When he needs money, u can hgive some money to them again, right? If he doesnt need it, buy him good things or accompany him to go travelling or to do medical check up, etc
2007-10-25 17:02:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father must be riddled with guilt for past behaviour.Take the money and invest it in a IRA or something.
Tell hin you are happy to take his money but it will just be invested in your furture. thats all.
2007-10-25 16:31:24 · answer #4 · answered by jimmiv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you tell him to put the money in a savings account, tell him your doing fine at the moment and would rather stand on your own 2 feet, tell him how grateful you are but he taught you to pay your own way in life and thats what you are doing.
2007-10-26 04:24:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mum refuses to let me spend any money at all. Its so much easier just to let them do it, and then pay them back when they aren't expecting it.
2007-10-25 15:59:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the money and buy your dad something that he would
like but make sure it is a surprise.
2007-10-25 15:55:18 · answer #7 · answered by mad_1240 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋