What would you say to your kid if they wanted a vasectomy while still in their early 20's?

Answer 1

Good for him!

I knew I wanted a vasectomy when I was 17, and my parents knew it.

I got mine just before my 22nd birthday. I am now 41, and still thank my lucky stars that I made such a choice. Almost all my friends had kids, divorced, and are still paying child support. I don’t owe anyone anything!

Don’t listen to the crap about how you don’t need to worry because he won’t find a urologist. I can tell you that any non-profit clinic will do it if he pays cash. My buddy is 25, and he got his yesterday.

My long-term girl friend got her tubes tied at 26. Her father just married into a family where almost all the siblings did the same. My girl friend and I belong to a club called “No Kidding”. The club consists of couples that chose not to have children. So pretty much everyone I hang with chose not have children. We are proud to be “Childfree”.

You should support your son. One in five Americans will make the same choice he has made!

Answer 2

My guess is that he had a scare already and didn't like the idea at all. I would say he's an adult and can make his own decisions. Children are a blessing but a huge responsibility. Not to mention the sad fact that so many are raised in single parent households or raised by grandparents. He should consult a doctor on every aspect, physically and emotionally. Vasectomies are a minor procedure and reversible. I hope you support his decision. Good luck to you both.

Answer 3

Most physicians require that that the individual has a pre operative counseling session to make sure that they are clear on what they are doing. Ask that your son at least do that and then if he still decides it is what he wants to do, respect his decision. The worst thing in the world can be children that are accidentally born and really not wanted. He knows himself best.

Answer 4

I would tell them that, that is their choice and that you support what ever they decide to do, I mean they are in their 20's they are not a child any more, you could explain that they will not be able to have kids and everything but I would not yell at them or anything. The more you yell the worse it will be.

Answer 5

Tell him to wait, because sometime in 2008 the male brithcontrol pill is "supposedly" comming out. He can get one of those little devices implanted in his armpit, they last for around 10 years, and can be taken out so that he can have children if he decides. Also the male BC is 100% effective in the clinical trial whereas femal birth control is only 99.6%.

Answer 6

I would have him watch a procedure on the net and ask him if that is what he really wants to do. I would also let him know that the desire for a child comes later in a man, and he may regret it later.

I would remind him that he will find a hard time finding a woman who would want a long term relationship from him. Most women want babies, and find the risk of pregnancy from there love, a sign that he truly cares regardless of consequence.

Reversals are possible, but even more complicated.

Answer 7

i would say no way. although i would definately ask why they wanted one & how they came to that conclusion.
when i was mid-to late teens & well into my 20's i didn't want a kid or kids either, however life didn't go as planned & i had a kid when i was 18/19. don't get me wrong i loved him them & love him still, but i made sure i didn't have anymore, ie i used protection, every time. mind you i was also a single mum for much of that time & didn't have much faith in love or men & made sure that i was not a single mum with more than one kid. but as i got older, i thought IF i found MR RIGHT, then maybe i'd consider another kid, although i don't get clucky around most kids or babies, i'm pretty good with them but not clucky, its only the odd one or 2 that make me clucky.
now i'm in my 30's & married mr right & we are trying.
albiet that everybody is different & more so males & females.
moral of the story is, don't jump the gun, use protection & take precautions, because one just doesn't know what's around the corner or how one'll feel tomorrow.

Answer 8

i would make sure that that is what they wanted to do i mean deep down inside i would be hurt because i would get any grandchildren but would stand beside them and support their decision 100%

Answer 9

Interesting question. I dont know a man alive who would WANT one more than need one. Chances are he may run into a wall finding a reputable urologist who would do it at his age. While they are reversible, they are extraordinarily unpleasant. Bottom line is: its his choice and while you can gently object, there really is not much you can do. Good Luck

Answer 10

I'd say wait. If you don't want to have children, then use birth control and condoms.

Plus, IMO, that's messing with your bodies hormones and natural functions.

We live in a day and age where (when used correctly) birth control and condoms are extremely effective.

Also, so many people say, "I don't want kids" when they are 21 or 22. Then they hit 30 and have a new set of "life goals"