Now I'm not very religious, but I know that in (Catholicism?) it's against that religion to have premarital sex. Well, what if you have sex for the first time with the person you end up marrying? They were the only person you ever had sex with and you stayed married to them. Would you still be harshly judged?
2007-10-25 14:59:22 · 15 answers · asked by ♀♥♂☮Trippy Hippie☮♂♥♀ 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
While there are success stories for people who "messed up", premarital sex is playing with fire and is likely to cause pain and suffering. The law of chastity was given by God for our benefit -- it's not some arbitrary rule. There's a great deal of happiness to be found when a man and women love and respect each other enough to control their physical appetites. Children deserve to be born in a stable family with a father and mother that are completely faithful to each other. Satan will do everything he can to disrupt the family unit and getting people to abuse the sacred powers of procreation seems to advance his goals well.
2007-10-25 15:40:14 · answer #1 · answered by Bryan Kingsford 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter you still did the dead before you were married so it's considered a sin but in all honesty with the catholic religion every time you have sex with out trying to have a baby it's a sin, even then it's a sin that's why when you are baptised original sin is washed away!.
Personally I think it is all mainly made up by alot of sexually repressed men. I wasn't into the whole sleeping around thing but I never got passed the first man so I can't judge it.
2007-10-25 15:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by finabella9 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Judged by who?
Harshly?
God acknowledges that we are all sinners... we are not going to be judged unfairly or harshly, we are going to be judged *justly*.
That being said, having sex before marriage is engaging in a pleasure of the flesh, and not of the spirit. Giving in to your desires is a sin sometimes - when we have been asked to obey and not fornicate and we do, we are sinning, plain and simple. If we end up married to the person we sexed, it doesn't mean the sin didn't happen!
So anyway, I don't think there is a way to reconcile this one. If you are a practicing believer and follower of Christ, then sex is one of those things you are expected to pass on until you are in holy wedlock.
Not that I waited, but I know better now...
2007-10-25 15:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by jane 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Under the Old Testament, if an engaged couple was found sleeping together, they could be stoned to death. So apparently God does not approve of it. The girl's father, however, had the option to accept a payment from the guy instead, but then the couple was immediately married.
The reason was because if something happened to prevent the marriage (the guy dies for example), then the girl is left "damaged" by their relationship, and could not be married to anyone else.
Today, virginity is no longer considered as important as it was in the Old Testament (though it should be). So a woman from such a relationship would probably still "marriageable" today. But she would still be bringing into the new relationship baggage from the old. The other thing God tries to avoid with his "no sex before marriage" rule.
2007-10-25 15:12:55 · answer #4 · answered by dewcoons 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
The God of the Bible says, in the Old and New testament, that pre-marital sex (fornication) is wrong. Sex is the covenant between a committed man and woman. This relationship mirrors the relationship between God and His people. It will never be broken. So living together without marriage is a counterfeit relationship to what God wants for His men and women. Socially, it hurts women more than men. I was young once and used to think as you do. But experience and wanting to do God's will has lead me to accept God's teaching on this. He made sex, He knows the best relationship for men and women. It was wrong for that pastor to call you cheap. He spoke from his own frustration, not from God.
2016-04-10 06:01:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. The whole foundation about no premarital sex is to teach young people to not be promicuous. Rather, have sex only with the person who will have a family with you, and spend the rest of your life with. In your scenario, you are doing just that, except without the government issued paper marriage. That's how I would see it. Though it's not my personal belief.
2007-10-25 15:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by Smokin' Dragon 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a good question. I think if you happen to fall to temptation with the person you ultimately marry and that's the ONLY person you've been with, then once you do it, repent your sins, and make it an objective to wait until you're married to do so. Also, I think that once you repent and try not to do it again until marriage, God will not be as harsh as they were the only one you were with and married.
2007-10-25 15:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by ~)~) 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sex is not sinful. Bringing children in to the world when you aren't ready, and not having a good mother and father for them when they are born is where the harm is.
2007-10-25 15:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The cool thing about being Catholic is that if (when) you sin, if you go to confession (reconcilliation) , perform the pennance assigned and try to do better your forgiven! I do kind of wonder about those last minute confessions of a lifetime of sin though.
2007-10-26 12:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by Tom H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uhm as a mater of fact its forbidden to have a sex before marriage even to your fiance.
but if u made a mistake then ask God for apology and God is merciful he will definitely forgive u. don't worry much about your past mistakes
2007-10-26 02:11:27 · answer #10 · answered by Eccentric 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋