Hi guys,
I met this girl online and we have been friends for over a year. We really got along very fine until the last two months of our "friendship". We weren't in a relationship but I really liked her but there was no way to ask her out as she lived far away. So I kept my feelings to myself. I was in school and sometimes I skipped classes and even work to talk to her(yes i did learn the hard way no to do it)
Now she's getting a little busier with her school and she says she can't even come online for at least 5 minutes to say hi to me. She knew I liked her the whole time and I did so much for her like sending her expensive gifts.
Now she knows I'm hurt a lot, but she just ignores it all. She just acts like she knows nothing about it and acts like nothing happened.
Everyone says the best way to hurt her is to ignore her. Is this the only way? I really want to hurt her emotionally. I want her to know what she did to me.
Tell me what to say the next time we talk.
2007-10-25 13:55:17 · 11 answers · asked by Sean 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She knows I went through hell like staying up at 3.00am just to talk to her. She knows I did so much for her. When I brought all these up she just said, "Well I never asked you to neither do I recommend doing those"
I may sound harsh but if you all know everything I did for her, you won't feel the same way.
2007-10-25 13:58:38 · update #1
You guys aren't getting it I guess. The point is, I just want to be friends. Well it was like we talked so much but as friends. I just want it to be that way.
We obviously had a few arguments about this. I just want to be friends with her nothing more.
2007-10-25 14:20:03 · update #2
I'm sorry, but the best thing you do is to ignore her the next time she tries to get in touch with you. That is the worst, beleive me when you ignore someone it feel very bad. Now, this should be a lesson in life for you. Never give or send a girsl expensive presents, you only do that if that girl is a dear, dear girl friend or a wife. Some girls say that you don't have to do that for them, but they love it, and the more you buy for them, the more they get used to it, most of the times they don't care nothing about you, just the gifts is what counts. Not all girls are like that, there are vrey nice girls who will like and fall in love with you for who you are. So, just learn for the next time. Life is a school and we all learn something new every day. Forget about getting back at her, she will also learn a lesson. What goes around, comes around. What she did with you, will be done to her, it always happens. You stay sweet and enjoy life and don't let a person like her bother your mind, she does not even deserve to be in your mind. She is gone and done with. The past....
2007-10-25 14:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by Esther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you can think of me what you want but do the world a favor and seriously just grow up!
First off, if you've kept your feelings to yourself then how was she to know you liked her. I personally can honestly say that its rare for me to find time to myself to get online and talk to my friends so if she says she doesn't have time, chances are she really doesn't have time. You may have sent her all of those gifts but honestly honey you cant expect to buy a girls affection. Did you ever think that she might not have as strong feelings for you as you do for her?
She may have hurt you and hey, she might even know it and be trying to ignore it, but that doesn't make it right to stoop to her level and make things worse. If you want to keep any resemblance of a friendship whatsoever, retaliating is so not the answer. And even if you don't want to keep the friendship, then fine, just ignore her and put this behind you. There are other girls out there.
2007-10-25 21:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude grow up a little, and don't be mean.
You are not going to hurt her, she sounds smart enough to just add you to her mail filter. Beside how do you know she is what she says she is. She could be a 200lb 50 old guy.
There are tons of other girls out there, real girls in the real world.
Get off your bum and go check out some cute girls in the mall or something.
2007-10-25 21:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by Heretix 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, just be friends then. And when you send someone gifts, you don't need to expect anything back because all you're doing is buying your so-called "friendship" with her. Seriously, you need a friend, physically and not cyber space! Trust me, she's not going to get hurt at all.
2007-10-25 21:25:37 · answer #4 · answered by lady hiphop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly that is kinda mean, but you know what comes around goes around, so just let carma get her.
i know you wasnt trying to hear that but, unless you want it to come all the way back on you again just ignore her.
2007-10-25 21:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by mz.flirt 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Don't hurt her, because that just creates more hate. Just ignore her. Never talk to her again. You can find someone better.
2007-10-25 21:02:51 · answer #6 · answered by asdfjkl; 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. I really don't like how much your set on "hurting" her.
Communicate to her, tell her how you FEEL. That your hurt by what she's done, you feel used.
Maybe she doesn't know.. maybe she realy IS busy.
Revenge is not the way to go about it.
2007-10-25 21:02:35 · answer #7 · answered by Kipper to the CUP! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give it up, if she had any feelings for you they are gone, most likely to some guy she met at school. and if so there is nothing you could do to get even.
besides, grow up,if we all just passed our pain around the world will just get shittier and shittier.
2007-10-25 21:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by tattoo junky 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get over it and move on with your life. You'll never hurt someone you don't know personally.
2007-10-25 21:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by E Doc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
causing someone else pain can backfire
wish her well and be happy for her
now go nurture You
2007-10-25 21:02:46 · answer #10 · answered by Agent99 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋