I have been going out with this girl for about 8 months now, things are really great between us. I want to marry this girl, however I am trying to get a good job so that I can be financially stable. The problem is that the type of work I enjoy is on the other side of the country, corporate airline stuff, but she has built a life for herself here. I am torn, I want to tell her I am looking for jobs in other states, but we are so happy with our situation now, and I feel I would only be ruining the relationship. I hope she would come with me but she is successful here. Please help!!!
2007-10-25 13:54:39 · 5 answers · asked by jamesl91 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Eight months is a long time but not excessively long. For now focus on your career and get your self settled. Talk to her about how you feel and let her know that you want her included in your future. Talk about the LDR idea because in order for it to work both of you have to be willing to put the effort into it. I've been in one for 4 years now and we are doing okay. I live in the U.S and he lives in Germany. I want to do nursing and well....nursing isn't exactly the same in every country so right now we are trying to decide if i can work over there or not. Anyway, you have be honest with her and see how she feels. She may be willing to move, it won't hurt to ask. Good luck and i hope everything works out :)
2007-10-25 14:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by Isabella20 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
decide what is more important her or your job --- for me after so many years of trying to make a career number one --- i go for the relationship --- a job is just something to do to allow you to live ---- a relationship may last 4 - 5 times longer than any job you have ---- sit down and talk to her --- tell her what you want from the relationship and what she would like from the relationship ---- maybe you should stay there and find something --- you never know it may be something better for both of you than you thought you would get elsewhere ---- best wishes
2007-10-25 21:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to choose one or the other. You can ask and see if she will move with you. But if she doesn't then you have to pick your job or her. I was in a long distance relationship and it doesn't work! It's very hard! But if you love her and want to marry her then it should be easy for you to give up your job for her.
2007-10-25 21:02:52 · answer #3 · answered by LaRae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a very difficult situation. it matters if you see each other in your own future. if you believe what you have is strong.. then you can work through anything. you each will have to put forth into the relationship and keep up your own part of the deal.. like honesty, loyalty, trust, etc. just tell her.. this is one thing that you really want for yourself.. and if you want her to be apart of it... tell her that you see her in your future to though. you have to talk to her about it.
2007-10-25 20:59:24 · answer #4 · answered by staryeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your dreams. Concentrate on your career. If she follows you, fine, but maximize your income.
BTW, long distance releationships NEVER work.
2007-10-25 20:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋