i have a 7 year old step son with autisim(ASD,highfunctioning), he dosent listen to me at all, anything i say, or do, he completely ignores, he will only listen to men, he isnt fond of women, im not sure if this is because his mother abandoned him at the age of 5 (him and his sister) but i am at the end of my rope, the worst part is that he is cohersing his sister into doing bad things aswell.....his father and i have an 18 month old together and i am terrified of him learning these behaviours as well....any advice?
2007-10-25 13:49:39 · 8 answers · asked by meryl m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Be consistent!!!!
Let him know that you care for him and you are not leaving him. Write a social story stating how much you love him and how he is such an important part of you life.
Implement the 1-2-3 plan. FOLLOW THROUGH even when it is difficult.
NEVER be slack on your discipline because of the disability.
If he was abandoned he needs help learning to deal with it. Children with Autism learn differently. Find out his special ways of learning and dealing.
SOCIAL STORIES work wonders for my daughter. She is such an amazing person with such an amazing personality.
2007-10-25 15:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i have advice.
If the child lost his mother two years ago, has he had counseling? You know, he already has a disability, and that needs attended to... he still is an emotional being, and he may be suffering a lot of distress.
If you and your husband want to get a handle on this, figure out if he is suffering emotionally, then talk with a therapist. You might get good, sound direction and advice for dealing with the child, and he might get some emotional support.
never know until you try. i'm sure you're a good stepmom... and i hope things work out well.
2007-10-25 21:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the whole family for professional help. It may open the eyes of other family members that don't really understand what is going on between you and the children, and it may help the children that aren't autistic to stop behaving like they were. I have to give you a star. I could never take on such a responsibility and keep my brains in order.
2007-10-25 21:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was diagnosed as autistic at that age.
My mother was able to make me behave by spanking me when I needed it.I didnt like it then and even hated her for it at times, but when I saw the brats of other parents going to jail in my teen yrs and understood WHY my parents spanked me, I was grateful, because I WAS A CHILD and THOUGHT like a child.That was the ONLY recourse I left them at times.
2007-10-25 22:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Similar to the other responces...
Research the illness more and get medical advice.
I think you really need to be patient with him because he isn't used to females
I don't think there is a quick solution, just give him time
2007-10-25 21:30:56 · answer #5 · answered by Max J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the person above me. start taking him to a psychologist/therapist to help. remember though, he is autistic so you probably won't be able to do much. good luck.
ps: don't be hard on him I'm sure its alot more rough for him then you think.
2007-10-25 21:08:39 · answer #6 · answered by royal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get some professional help. You can't solve this problem by yourself.
2007-10-25 21:39:26 · answer #7 · answered by ange_chrissy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get help from a psychologist...really ..this is a serious issue
2007-10-25 20:56:56 · answer #8 · answered by Erika-Zola 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋