im 15 im in the varsity soccer team girls think im hot but the problem is i dont know how to talk to them. the girlfriends i had were because they approached me. i have no idea what to say to a girl i like. right now i think this girl is really really cute and i really want to talk to her but i have no idea how. i dont know what to say to her without her thinking im a weirdo. should i go up to her and say you look pretty and walk away. i seriously have no idea what to do. i want her to like me but i dont know how to talk to a girl if she doesnt come to me first.
2007-10-25 13:48:39 · 20 answers · asked by guyintrouble 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just say hi. Tell her your name. Ask her for her name.
I wouldn't go as far to say she is pretty yet. She would probably laugh about that and make you more nervous.
2007-10-25 13:53:14 · answer #1 · answered by Your dum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want her to like you, then you must be you.
Courage is all you need I would guess.
What is the worst that could happen.
She would what. laugh no worries, she is fickle
she would walk away snooty, do you want that no, so thats fine.
She could say, Off with you, well then you would know, and if she is rude, then you are better to know now than later.
So what I am trying to tell you, the approach is all about you doing research, so what is the problem.
You say hello, and note the response, making sure you say hello back. That is fine for the first time.
Then you have a think, was there a hint of a smile, did she look at you as though she saw something she liked. See, research. If you answer these questions, and you can feel a glimmer of hope, then next time you see her, you know she is interested, you say hello, and add a few words like, how are you today, or nice day isn't it. That will give you enough time to get the impression, if she is still interested, or more interested, she will answer you, and if you can get your tongue out of your mouth, you are set, you are having a conversation with this cute girl.
So you have established relationship, from being strangers, you are now relating to each other verbally. This can continue for days if you like, and then one day, you feel, this is the day, I will ask her out.
Wait for that day, you will know when it feels right.
The best to you and your ventures in the meet and greet stakes.
May the force be with you.
2007-10-25 21:01:23 · answer #2 · answered by Astro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, dont go up to her and say youre pretty. that would most likely freak her out and she will think youre wierd and your chances will be zero.
if you know or just barely know any of her friends, maybe try an approach that way. if you think you should walk up to her, before you do, maybe find out if she likes soccer since youre on the team. but dont make it all you talk about or she will think youre obsessed with soccer.
overall, just be nice to her. become friends but not best friends or when you ask her out you will get the "oh were too good of friends" response. ask her to a movie with some friends.
2007-10-25 20:55:05 · answer #3 · answered by -mary; the one and only. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do the "You look pretty" line and walk away. I'm 15 almost 16, and if you said that to me or one of my friends, we would over analyze it to death!
In order for a relationship to be successful, you have to first and foremost be comfortable around the girl. This means getting to know her better. If you start out with the goal of being her boyfriend, it doesn't work too well.
Get to know her, start simple conversations about interests. It would definitely be a plus if she played soccer as well. If she doesn't, that's fine too. Get to know her first, then move on from there.
Good luck with the girl & I hope this helped!
2007-10-25 20:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by Hello Goodbye 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just listen to her. THat's what girls like. Ask her an open ended question about a topic she likes to talk about. You could start with "What are you doing this weekend?" Just smile and be confident that you are pretty cool, (hey, you're on Varsity and everything) and she will think you are cool too.
2007-10-25 20:53:41 · answer #5 · answered by Elena H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are friends then the following might help but if you barely know here then become friends and the following further shows that you would like to become more than friends.
Ask if they would like to go out with you for coffee, juice or for breakfast/lunch. I assume you have no problems with dates and the first HUGE hurdle is just to asking them out for something casual.
I said breakfast/lunch since it is casual enough where you don't come on too aggressive and dinner seems that way to girls most of the time. If feels like a really formal date at dinner and a lunch or breakfast feels fun and relaxed
Maybe breakfast is too early for you but you ask if she would like for you to bring her a jamba juice or ask her how she like her starbucks in the morning...its a really good way for you to show that you like her
Hope this helps
2007-10-25 20:57:55 · answer #6 · answered by Taylor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go up to her and say hey and then start a conversation. Don't say hey and walk away. Then they will think you are weird. Just go up and say hey and then if it is cold or hot you can say something like it is so hot out here or it is so cold and they will start a conversation usually. When I want to talk to somebody I just say hey and where are you from and they start talking. Then we end up in a long conversation and end it with our phone numbers.
2007-10-25 20:54:44 · answer #7 · answered by Sexybrowneyes7553 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, thats cute. Well shy guys are really cute I think. You just have to get the balls to walk up to her and just start talking as friends first, then try to ask her on a date or something. It's really not that hard, just stop worrying and ask!
2007-10-25 20:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by kyblondie104 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if a girl comes up to you don't be mean or rude to her! Girls hate that! I should know lol! My boyfriend came up to me and we started being friends (he died of leukemia), any way we were just friends, and then I told him how I felt. If you tell her how you feel and take it easy, I think things we'll get really good! You just have to get over your fear and talk to the girl you like. Girls aren't that bad you know. Good Luck!
2007-10-25 20:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
K.eep I.t S.imple S.tupid , K.I.S.S. yes that's what the band name stood fore.there philosophy for there music.well it works with every thing not just music. ask this girl to sit with you at lunch and talk about a class you got in common.from there it should take off on its own,just relax and be yourself, talk to her like you would a good friend. after all, your girlfriend should be your true best friend.
2007-10-25 21:08:08 · answer #10 · answered by br549242 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋