We've been talking for a long while (4 months) mainly over the phone and through emails. I've seen pictures of him and he's seen pictures of me. I wouldn't say he's the most attractive person to society standards, but I find him EXTREMELY adorable and handsome.
He thinks I'm "hot/beautiful". I think I'm average looking, if not a little below average (for reasons explained in the next paragraph). I've been told that I'm pretty/cute and I always, "Thank" people for the compliment (I don't fish for compliments).
The problem is, I have really bad ACNE and weird acne scars on my face. Most of the pictures he's seen of me are in group photos or photos that are taken from a certain distance so my ACNE isn't THAT visible. The pictures of me that he's seen close up of me were photoshopped (I know, I'm so horrible because this is lying, but I photoshop all my photos and my friends know it and it doesn't bother them...)
2007-10-25 13:39:40 · 3 answers · asked by Sarah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
However, it's VERY visible if you see me in person. I'm not talking about small acne, I'm talking about HUGE ones that would take up half my face (exaggeration).
Anyways, we're planning to finally meet next week and I'm afraid that he'll turn away from me because of my ACNE. I mean, this isn't a BAD thing because I'll know he's not worth my time, but I think I'd be very heart-broken. I would also really like to avoid humiliation (I don't really need more stuff that will lower my self-esteem further).
My question is, should I tell him that I have bad acne? Some of my friends have told me that they don't even notice it until I mention it. This is part of the reason why I haven't said anything to him -- "Maybe he won't notice it," or, "I probably think it's much worse than it really is and I don't want to make a big deal out of it." AHHHH I really don't know what to do. I hate my acne... I feel so... ugly.
2007-10-25 13:39:53 · update #1
i think really you need to tell him now ---- for myself it would not change how i feel ---- to suddenly find out though is or will be a surprise and he may be hurt that you did not trust him enough to tell him ---- best wishes
2007-10-25 13:53:31 · answer #1 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look girlie, he's not gonna turn you away because of scars or acne. He obviously likes you for who you are, from what you say. And if you're getting compliments, then it can't be that bad! And honestly, when someone says they don't notice until you mention it, it just means you need a little more confidence. I know you won't take this seriously because you don't know me, and I don't know you, but I just wanted to let you know that you're probably a stunner. =]
Good luck with the meet!
2007-10-25 20:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by [[Kitty]] 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should get proactive. it works, and it works fast. so buy that kit they have, and also buy the mask cuz that works great. my cousin had acne prety bad and that's what she got and it looks soooo much better. but u could send him a regular photo of you where you can see the acne if you would feel too imbarased to tell him, but don't want to get rejected. so i hope i helped
2007-10-25 20:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by softball-luva21 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋