I talked to my ex-fiance today---She actually stayed on the phone...I told her I wanted her back and that I loved her and miss her. She told me that wasn't a good enough reason to get back together. I explained to her that I had an stupidity lapse and I hope she could forgive me; she was silent. Then she said "well, I wish you well in all your endeavors"...
WTF is that!!! I'm not just a regular joe, I was your ******* fiance for pete's sake! I'm sorry but that comment threw me off...I'm pouring my heart out.....(anyways, I deserve it...but DAMN!!!)
What should I do? I'm planning on going up there this weekend to pretty much beg on my knees for her forgiveness but I'm getting frustrated.
2007-10-25 13:33:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We were together for 2 years ( 3 in the December---when we were suppose to get married) I broke up with her about 3 months ago b/c I felt trapped. Recently, dated someone else but realized that I loved my ex so much and couldn't see myself with anyone else. I know I was wrong and I just want her back.
She's usually cold on the phone but today's the 1st day she actually had a conversation with me...but it went no where. I'm just frustrated.
2007-10-25 13:36:07 · update #1
sounds like you broke her heart... i would take it slow again.. like try asking her out on a date .. not to just jump back where you left off cause that isn't just gonna happen.. definately don't go beg on your knees, but be more creative not desparate.. like sending her flowers with a note thinking of you.. if she does want you back she's gonna make you feel the pain you gave her.. like you are right now!!!! definately have to play it more cool
2007-10-25 13:42:18 · answer #1 · answered by daigle451 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you broke up with her - ended the engagement and threw her and the last 2+ years on the trash heap b/c you "felt trapped". So now that you dated someone else and you realized you are a fool - you now expect her to take you back.........notice how everything is about you.
Your stupidity lapse
Your feelings
Your actions
You felt trapped
You want her back
You chose to end the engagement rather than discuss your feelings with her.
Stop thinking about yourself for once and making it all about you you you you you you you you you you you!
Look at this from her point of view. Her heart was broken. She had a relationship she felt secure in - felt loved in - wanted to spend the rest of her life in - build a family in -- an you just dropped a heck of a hammer on her b/c of your selfishness.
She's absolutely right - you missing her - you wanting her back is a horrible reason for her taking you back.
She's not even going to remotely consider getting back to you until you make it right. That means no more talk about you you you you you. You have to validate how she feels - you have to take owner ship of your actions - not some cheesy apology. Begging on you knees is not what I'm talking about. Have you never seen a Dr. Phil episode?
Your selfish act probably gave her an insight to you that she did not have before. Why would she want to go back to you so that 2 years into the marriage you can decide that you are trapped and you either cheat on her or divorce her. Why would she go into a marriage knowing that the hammer can and probably will fall again.
Personally, I don't blame her for not wanting to have anything else to do with you. She's made it clear where she stands. I'd suggest you leave her alone. Talking to a therapist would probably do you some good too.
2007-10-25 20:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by Boots 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude if I were her, I would be too. I mean cause you were engaged then you broke it off, and now your coming back...(which isnt bad) but I can see why she was cold with you. I mean if you love this girl, you better show her....but if she doesnt want you back, you just have to understand where she is coming from. Good luck yo, and if things dont work out, theres a reason why....there is a reason for everything.
2007-10-25 20:39:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should go. If she doesn't even show any emotion on the phone and told you pretty much, "have a nice life" then she is over it. You just need to move on .
2007-10-25 20:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by sden2616 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you think that she should let you back into her life after you broke her heart? Nope. Sorry, you blew it. Move on.
2007-10-25 20:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what did u do?
2007-10-25 20:37:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋