Have you ever felt unloved?

Question

I think I angered the Yahoo Gods, I have been unable to post for a few days. But, I must be holding my face right again because I am back. So, as for my Q. Have you ever felt unloved, misunderstood, & basically discounted? Why do you think that was? Did you find yourself wanting to sell a part of yourself to make this change? How did it resolve for you? I am asking the Q. for all levels, human & spiritual. I am excited about the prospect & direction the answers may take. Please, be as open & honest as possible & answer from what ever level you find yourself. Thank you all who care to share this fragile part of yourself with me. L the N

Just to clarify, I do not currently feel unloved. I have people in my life who love me unconditionaly & feel so very blessed for it has not always been the case. I guess the Q. comes from those times that we feel anothers hostitly or misunderstanding & the sadness we feel over it.

Daewan, I think your right.

FC, Yes! I had to learn this also.

JB thanks for the star. I have had many such self revelations also, Ouch! I do understand!

Prairie Crone, I have had to learn this also, thankfully!

Ennoae, I agree. Sometimes it may be that as empaths we can feel anothers confusion between real love & need! Love is what we are, but it gets covered a lot by ego needs.

Incognito, yes the law love your neighbor as your self was really saying how it works, you can only love another to the degree you love yourself. We are one.

Answer 1

I had no idea what real love was for years, sometimes I thought I knew but this real love doesn't need to be thought, it just is. I was fortunate and open enough to be initiated by someone into this great mystery. ~ : )

Answer 2

I have to answer this based on my latest Aha!
We all feel unloved from time to time it is the human condition.
I just realized recently that empaths seldom feel love from other people.
The reason for this is our rejection of God as a species is the rejection of love.
Some think it’s fine to never tell others that they love them because they should know.
People don’t and can’t know the love of others unless expressed.
I can feel hate or frustration even sadness and guilt from other people even if they show no outward sign.
Sometimes people express love so well it reduces me to tears but unless they express their love I’ll never feel it.
This inability to empathize love adds credibility to accusations when we malign each other.
I think there may be an awareness level where you will feel the love of others but it’s hard for me to grasp such a level of awareness because I’m not there yet.
This matter is complicated by the fact that love isn't always a feeling, sometimes its just a selfless drive to treat people well.
Yes I love and strive to love even more but I think I’ll be much better of if I get to the place where I can do two things.
The first is of course pick up love by empathy.
The second is control my dreams but that’s an answer for another question.

Answer 3

Methinks the first answerer has felt this emotion judging from his violent response....

Yes, I have, and I don't think it's really a rational thing, because if it was, no one would feel unloved or unwanted! Someone somewhere loves us, even if we don't know it. Those of us who are blessed with friends and family can be much more certain sometimes. One thing I had to remember was this: God loves me. No matter what I do or don't do, no matter how much I fail or fall short, He is always there for me. Now I never feel unloved.

I would never have sold part of myself - at least I preserved that dignity and sense of right. The first place to start is by loving yourself, and if you don't do that the world is an empty place indeed! You will never feel loved or be able to love...

Answer 4

No. Perhaps because I was always aware of others needing validation and acceptance, and my own autonomy - lack of needing it. Rather I see 'love' as what we are, and relationships a matter of choice related to karma and ultimately purpose.

Because I cannot recall experiencing this, it probably has been lifetimes ago, and it is difficult imagining ever experiencing such a feeling or need in a future life.

Answer 5

Yes, I felt unloved when I had a disability hit me when I was 22 years old. I lost a lot of friends that I had, family members even put me on the back burner so to speak.I am over the disability now somewhat. I made up for what I lost by a hobby I have, woodworking . I donated lots of things I made to the hospital I was in, I even hand delivered Items to little kids that were admitted there and it made me feel loved when they gave me hugs and thank yous. I was sent lots of letters from parents, kids, and even hospital staff for what I done so yes it was like I sold myself to make it change and it was worth it.

Answer 6

Hi Neophyte,
I think one thing humans have in common is the desire to feel loved, appreciated, validated for who they are. I went through extreme insecurity in my teens, jumped into a losing relationship with a man incapable of giving as he was more needy than I was. From various childhood traumas, I felt unworthy of being loved, and that is most likely why I picked the man I did.. Then one fine day, a friend said to me, "You better learn to love yourself just in case nobody else ever does." That one statement lead me to begin some very hard work at undoing my past conditioning. I began the life long practice of love for my planet of creatures, great and small. It seems so easy to hate, but love takes practice, nurturing to keep it growing.
Peace..........

Answer 7

Yes. Now that you mention it, I believe I am unloved, and I suppose I always have been. Now before I begin, I must say that I have never ever thought about myself in that way before. I think it's because I'm quite formidable to look at and I have a temper to match, People tend to agree with me I believe, not because they agree with me, if you know what I mean, but because they don't want to upset me, and that is what upsets me, and I get angry with them, and they tend to give me a body swerve from then on in. Yet, it in no way affects me, I just accept that they cant handle themselves if they have to cut and run. I just wait for the next poor bugger to come along. Yes, I 'm beginning to think I may have a bit of a problem with my social relations. Thanks for that, have a star. J B.

Answer 8

I have and am by some who should know better. Their lack of understanding disregards my need. If I go to a well for water and discover that it's dry, I go to another source. I don't have to understand why in order to acquire relief but simply drink deeply from an abundant source. Love springs are eternal and I am immortal in seeking them.

Answer 9

yes, somehow, i do. I'm surrounded by friends all day, so many, i cannot count, but none of them are someone i can call a best friend... teachers, they seem to be looking for my mistakes in everything. sometimes i wonder what it is for people to dislike me so much, & i try to be my best, but no one seems to be paying attention at all.
also, sometimes, in Yahoo answers, i have something very important to answer about & i give my biggest effort on trying to make it as honest and helpful as i can, but end up with a -1 rating on it :( ... but yahoo's not the only place, everywhere, my thinking is so much different from everyone... it's great, yes, but sometimes, people just want to fit in with everyone.
haha, once, someone told me, that instead of me trying to be as everyone else, people should be more like me and try to fit in with me... :P

erm... i dont know if i kinda' went through another road answering this question, but i tried to stay as honest as i could...

good luck!

Answer 10

I think it's largely a DIY job, isn't it?

One has to be one's own Best Friend I think, sometimes.

Good times & bad times come & go, but you've got to be constant to yourself, as far as your able.

When that's the case, others cannot help but...

Hmmm...

I've also heard: "To have a friend, you've got to be a friend"...

... and that it's important to choose your friends wisely.

Mind you, what do I know - am just a silly swan... :-)

For me, maintaining thoughts / perceptions of love (-ing kindness), helps me get through the tough times.

I've heard (today): "The only remedy for Love, is to love more"... :-)

Good day to you, Neo.

Arj