My boyfriend and i have just got back together almost a month ago after he left me and our son just after new year.This was the 2nd time, the first being during the summer for 6 weeks, looking back it was obvious he was always going to come back that time but the 2nd time we both thought it was for good.We had been togethet 6 years.Met when i was 17 and he was 22.
He had started seeing a girl he worked with, who is his workmates ex, i met her when we were still together and instantly hated her, they lasted 9 months and had moved in together.When he left he says he loved me but wasn`t in love with me.I was heartbroken but just when i was almost over him he wanted to come back although he said he didnt set out to do it, we were having a birthday party for our son and basically he didnt leave, i saw him in tears and he said he didnt want to be with this girl, who i dont feel in the least bit sorry for as she knew he had a family when she set out to get him and got him she did!
2007-10-25 11:40:31 · 5 answers · asked by onlyme 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Anyway after thinking about things i decided i did still have alot of feelings left for him and feel this is our last chance to be a family.
he drank heavy and stayed out all weekend when he worked in the call centre but he does now seem to have changed and admits that he wanted to live the single life along with everyone else he worked with, he has admitted that he isnt madly in love and i`m not either but we both feel 6 years is too much to just throw away, he says he`s falling back in love again and it`d be nice to believe him this time but i just dont know if i`ll ever be able to trust him again completely as he told me alot of lies in the past.
I do so want us to work this time but i admit i`m alittle scared incase it doesn`t as we`ve also got our son to think about, he promised he`d never leave us again.
Advice appreciated, thanx.
2007-10-25 11:44:50 · update #1
I actually believed that once a cheater always a cheater myself and vowed never to take him back!
But don`t we owe it to ourselves and our son to try and be a family again?Like i said he does seem to have grown up this time round and says he cant believe he left me for that girl and although he`s not one bit innocent he admits she knew what she was doing and he was too full of himself to see it, maybe because we have been together since we were young he needed to experience life with someone new to realise the grass isnt always greener, i dont want to sound like i`m making excuses for him because i`m certainly not and part of me still hates him for doing that to me.
2007-10-25 11:53:12 · update #2
id say take it real slow. like you said, you've got your son to think about, and hes the most important one in this situation. spend more time with your ex, learn to trust him again, and when your sure your ready you can try to make it work again. you really dont want to confuse your son... be sure before you get back together.
well, this happened to my aunt, she was with a guy who left her for another girl. she took him back and theyve been happily married for 15 yrs... so sure it can work again, just dont be in a hurry and keep in mind you could get hurt again.. and protect your son! maybe be discreet around him?
2007-10-25 11:49:39 · answer #1 · answered by sarahryan86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DOORMAT! So you just let him come and go. What kind of respect is that? Actually no wait you have no respect for yourself. He cheated and you took him back. I always believe once a cheater always a cheater. But it seems you already made up your mind to take him back but just remember you will always wonder if he is cheating. That suspicison will never be gone.
2007-10-25 11:48:08 · answer #2 · answered by lovelyangel3340 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once the glass is broken..its 4ever.. -u ll never b the same again- he got his chance..You ll have feelings 4 him till you find the right one..GO FORTH.. its better 4 you..n if you find ur self n b happy again, ur baby will be better off
2007-10-25 11:52:26 · answer #3 · answered by napoli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advise is to find yourself someone new, he sounds awefull i'm sorry, i really hope you find someone who cares about you properly and will look after you, forget this guy it'll be hard but u have to do it, good luck xxx
2007-10-25 11:47:42 · answer #4 · answered by ωєℓѕн 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to move on.................
2007-10-25 12:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by Zheia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋