Whats wrong with me?

Question

I just dont understand why I keep attracting the wrong sort of men. All they seem to want from me is sex. I cant seem to meet a nice guy who will take me out on a date and not expect anything after. Am i sending out signals and dont even realise it. Im quite a quiet shy person so i dont understand why i keep meeting these men

I meet most of them at clubs or pubs. Im 26 and only go out about once a month i only recently started going out cause my friend said i had to get over my shyness and meet people.

Answer 1

try dressing more conservatively and engaging your peers in academic pasttimes

Answer 2

Studies show that women gravitate to bad boys or the manly man, and then complain that they get stuck with the wrong guys. So you may be looking for these guys and don't realize it. The other part of the studies found that most younger woman get bored with the nice guy. I'm not going to say that's your situation but it's worth thinking about. I can bet you are a very attractive woman and you are like the flame to a moth, that's another part, Nice guys probably are intimidated with the guys you attract. As a registered nice guy, that's how i am described by women I know.We're out here, but we're invisible to you most the time.

Answer 3

Good question katie but really I'm sure your the only one who can answer the question.

If your shy i wonder if you are a little more vulnerable than most and some guys might see you coming, if you know what i mean.

Some guys, alot of guys really are after one thing but your self respect is the most important thing here so i would really try and make sure the next guy has a very good heart and before you get anywhere serious with them.

Be patient, he will come along when you least expect and sweep you off your feet.

Good luck

Answer 4

Nothing is wrong with you. OK. But, when you meet someone, make it clear that you are not that sort of girl and go out on a few dates before you do anything. Maybe you look a little slutty? That would send out the wrong message. I don't mean to sound horrible but it's a sad fact. I think all women should be able to look as slutty as they like without men expecting anything but we don't live ib that kind of world. It's like when you see a group of men getting really drunk and are loud and dirty, it's a turn off and you wouldn't be bad for thinking that they are a bunch of wankers....

Answer 5

im in the same boat as you and the same age as you, after thinking about this for a bit i realised that all my relationships were based on sex because 1, i meet them in bars and clubs where the most of people who go here to meet people are under the influence of drink and so you can never be sure of what your getting, plus they are mainly out for sex and 2, i sleep with people before really knowing them i dont mean that night but maybe a week later this is to soon

ps if you have any ideas on where to meet decent blokes then let me know!!

Answer 6

It is because you are shy that they are attracted to you. Those types of men sense shyness as stupidity and try to take advantage of the situation. You need to find a way to break out of your shell and shine and those men will be too intimidated, usually, to try to take advantage. The right men will then be attracted to you as you will show yourself as a more confident woman. Hold your head up when you walk. Make eye contact when talking to others. Don't be afraid to smile and laugh. The most important thing is to not be afraid to use the word NO. Be polite but matter of fact when you turn someone down. I hope this helps.

Answer 7

Honey, I have one word for you--perves. Perverted men are just a fact of life--just like idiots and mean bosses. I have an idea that seems to work for me: don't date. I haven't dated a single guy yet, and I'm a sophomore. The other reason you might have a problem is mabye because your school just doesn't have a whole lot of nice, not-touched-in-the-head guys. Sorry. Just ignore the ones that ask, and keep trying or not. Your call.

Answer 8

I totally know what you are talking about, its not like you are doing anything to try to attract these creeps they are just all seeming to be like weird. Anyways, just take your time. Dont look for someone. The guys are looking for someone like you that isnt very out spoken cause they dont think you would tell them exactly what you want. Dont give in to their little childish games. You are worth more then that. I know cause I have been there and regret it. Just be yourself. You dont have to have a man... or better yet boy. Wait for that 1 MAN that actually respects what you want. I hope this helps.

Answer 9

Im sure nothing is, they have the problem. From this question you seem like a really nice girl who respects herself. Keep trying, its just a pity some guys are pricks basically.

Im 15 though so I guess you dont what love advice from me lol.

Answer 10

Hang on... I'm gonna put my Jeremy Kyle hat on...

Maybe you've built up a reputation with these shallow men, that they tell others about. BUT... if you DIDN'T sleep with these guys early on then they would know then, that you're a keeper. I made my hubby wait a month before I slept with him, and I thought that was me being cheap lol. He respected me for that. We've been together 14 years now, so can't be bad.

Answer 11

for all you know youve found the guy who just wants YOU not SEX but you dont know it but anyways what im saying is, if you like some one dont rush into it until youve spent enough time to know what they want and there still interested after that time no what i mean? cos if you wait 4 months and the guys still interested he obviously likes you and its not bout sex.... plus make sure you keep your eyes on all sorts of guys not just one type, like a guy with good looks sometimes you haf to go with the average guy for a chance