My parents do NOT want me (18) and my boyfriend (21) to see eachother. He hasn't done anything wrong, he's so sweet and has never hurt me or my parents in any way. They don't like him because they think a 21 year old should be in college. School isn't for everyone, he has a secure and well-paying job. They are threatening to get a restraining order against him if he comes on our property or if we continue to see eachother. I still live at home, but I'm looking to move out soon. In my opinion, I'm 18 and it's my decision. Can they get a restraining order against him for no reason? I've heard they can get it for their property, but if we aren't on it, it doesn't matter. Any information??
2007-10-25 11:30:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
You know what i would do? I would move out you are 18 and although your parents just want you to be safe it's your journey and your going to have to live and learn. I was 17 when i moved out and now i am 23 just bought my first home with a well paying job and in school. As far as the age difference its really not that big of a deal. It would be like a 30 year old going on a date with a 35 year old . Maybe your parents see something that the rest of us aren't though... Believe me your parents only want what is best for you .. but girl live your life and make your mistakes its how you learn!!
2007-10-25 11:42:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They can't get a restraining order because they don't like somebody. But there home is private property and he can't come there if they don't want him to, because then it's trespassing.
All you can really do is move out. Are you sure this is what you want to do? Your parents could be forcing into a more serious relationship too early that way!
2007-10-25 11:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
AS you stated, they can prevent him from coming on their property. They own it and have the right to deny access to whomever they choose.
They can not however get a restraining order for him seeing you. At 18 you are legally adult, thus only you can have a restraining order injuncted for someone to see you.
So as long as you do not see him on their property they can not legally do anything to stop you.
However, have you tried talking to your parents and telling them how you feel.
Explain how you are legally adult now, and will be seeing who you like, but you would rather not do things behind their back. You really like this guy, and right now you want to keep seeing him, but who knows what will happen in the future.
If they try to put a restraining order on him, you will only see him without them knowing about it. But if they are cool about it you will keep them informed on your whereabouts.
If you speak to them like this without going on all irrationally yourself you may find them to be more responsive.
After all they are your parents and they want what is best for you.
Just tell them we all make mistakes and we learn from them, you just need the freedom to make them, and hope that they will always be there to pick up the pieces when you do make a mistake.
Good luck.
2007-10-25 11:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by QBeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can get a restraining order on their property. They cannot get a restraining order that would apply off their property, but considering you live with them, it's probably not a good idea for you to continue to see him off their property either.
2007-10-25 11:56:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can get a restraining order so that he has to stay away from THEM and THEIR PROPERTY - but can't keep him from being around you. That is, as long as the two of you are not on or around their property
2007-10-25 11:41:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They can't get a restraining order, but they can get a trespass order.
BTW, if your parents told him not to return to their property and he did return, he comitted the crime of trespass.
2007-10-25 18:34:27 · answer #6 · answered by Gray Wanderer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They MAY be able to geet an order to keep him off the property if, for no other reason, he keeps comming over, and is not invited. If you are an adult deemed competent, they can do nothing legaly to keep you from seeing him off their property.
2007-10-25 11:35:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
they can, it's their property and if you have that attitude maybe you should think about moving today. they are your parents and it sounds like something else is going on where he has disrespected your parents and their rules for the house. just a thought...
2007-10-25 11:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by rebel with a cause 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes they can. You might be 18, but it is their property.
2007-10-25 11:35:22 · answer #9 · answered by Bubba 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will be fine, just as long he doesn't trespass their property. So if you want to be with him go to his house.
2007-10-25 12:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by John 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋