i have 1 good christain example in my life, and i never get to see him...but i have a couple of bad christain examples in my life...basically theyre hypocrites. or they get angry very easily...and i feel like when they get that kind of anger so easily they are letting the devil close to them, and they, followers of god, are upset, while me who is kinda just there, not christain, but believes in him, is happy. i wanna make the choice to follow GOD once again but i feel i will only mess up and i dont want to have to mess up, but my examples arent good, im gonna start going to church, but its still gonna be difficult...im afraid i'll give up. DO YOU HAVE ANY ADVICE?
plz no rude answers, and if i read one i WILL IGNORE it and possibly report. thankyou
2007-10-25 11:09:29 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i believe what i said was that im not christain, but i believe in him. i am not christain because i am trying to start a relationship up with him, i am not to the point where i could call myself christain.
2007-10-25 12:09:53 · update #1
first off just remember that God loves you and wants to be with you and you will find problems in the world because we are not perfect God is and if we find God the problems seam less of a problem love God, believe in him, repent, and love each other as yourself
2007-10-25 16:06:32 · answer #1 · answered by Im an energizer. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your friends know this is how you feel about them. If someone told me I was a lousy representative of Christ, and gave me a couple of examples, I would be ashamed of myself and apologize. If, however, they just get angry and chew you out, you might have a couple of non-Christians on your hands that think they are saved but aren't, having none of what Christ expects.
We all blow it and don't respond well to stress and various issues at times. That's just individual temperament, but if you perceive that these two are especially negative influences in your life, find some new friends and let these go.
You being a non-Christian is a sad state of affairs, and if your friends are just immature, yet saved, they are still in a much better place than you. At least they acknowledge the God they are supposed to serve, while you reject him outright. What's the worse crime? Eternally speaking, God can deal with doofus Christians. Unrepentant pagans live with whatever happiness they can attain until judgment. Look, you say you believe but are not Christian. This is an oxymoron. It can't be true that you really believe in him yet deny him at the same time. So, get that straightened out, find some quality Christians, and start living not just happily now, but happily ever after.
2007-10-25 11:23:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bad news is you will mess up. The good news is we all mess up. It's not only hard to get it right on your own; it's downright impossible! That's why we need God. That's why we need the saving Mercy of Jesus.
I know it's heartbreaking to look at most of the "Christians" in our world and think, Is that a Christian? If so, I certainly don't want to be one! The important thing is not to judge Christianity by the lives of so-called Christians, but to judge Christianity by Jesus Christ. He bore the brunt of the anger, malice, and mockery of justice in this world and did not lash out. He loved his tormentors and forgave them.
My advice to you would be to first find a church that suits your worship preference with a pastor who preaches the Gospel in a way that makes sense to you. Then find someone in the congregation who sets a good example of how to live and ask them if you could have coffee (or beer or ice cream or whatever) with them once a week and talk about faith, the Bible, and questions you have. You should also attend Bible study with the pastor of the church. If possible, I highly recommend forming a friendship with the pastor. I talk with mine at least once a week outside of church services. I ask him questions, we talk about fixing our houses, and sometimes he asks me what I think about certain parts of the Bible. The important thing is that you get involved in a loving church community. But remember: no person is perfect and no congregation is perfect; we all have our quirks and flaws.
2007-10-25 11:26:12 · answer #3 · answered by Jonathan 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing that ANY person (Christian or not) in this world can remember about this is that you should not be judging God by looking at humans.
We ARE supposed to live out God's love and grace and be an example and if we fail to do so we are responsible for anyone we mislead.
However, we must always remember that ultimately we look to God as the only TRULY loving, just, gracious being in the universe, not other people.
When we have those in our lives who are poor examples of what they claim to be, we can pray for them. We can remember that humans are frail and fragile and flawed. We can be an example TO THEM....and pray that the Holy Spirit will convict them of their bad behavior. In other words, perhaps you will be a better example to them than they are to you....but never forget that we are all equally valued by God and love and pray for them.
2007-10-25 11:16:48 · answer #4 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, find a church. That is the main reason God created churches. To give you friends that are trying to LIVE the same way, reaching for the same goals. Also, to learn about God's word.
Next, we are all sinners. Everyone sins. If your negative friends have a negative affect on you, you really need to stay away from them. If you can't be strong enough to stay above water, and eventually pull them up to, you do have to look out for yourself. Stay away from them if you can.
God bless you. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders.
2007-10-25 11:15:09 · answer #5 · answered by WriterMom 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Keep your eyes on the Lord. People will always let you down. Avoid angry people as much as possible. Once you find a good church and are getting some support and fellowship, things will be better. Praying for you.
2007-10-25 11:26:28 · answer #6 · answered by Cee T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you should just worship God and thank him for a new day of life everyday... you say you're not at the point of calling yourself a christening? but all these other guys who aren't trying to do good things, who use Gods name in vain, who cuz, who do all the stuff they shouldn't do but they still call themselves Christians?
Just because you haven't had any ritual or ceremony to "become a christian" doens't mean you aren't one, or that you have to belong to a church to be saved...
The definition of a Christian is: a person who believes in Jesus Christ... don't you already?
2007-10-26 03:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by Paris, je t'aime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We ALL "mess up," sweet girl. It's our natural human nature. But when we do, we are to repent and then move forward with our life.
Your friends who have a problem with anger should have it pointed out to them. They might not even be aware of it. They also need your prayers for strength and peace.
If you've found a fellowship to attend that you enjoy, just go and enjoy it and don't worry about tripping. You will be fine!
God bless you!
2007-10-25 11:18:45 · answer #8 · answered by Devoted1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An example of a good person is one that lives according to their beliefs, not their emotions. That is whether they are Christian or not.
A "good" (I'd rather say mature) Christian will be someone who considers their actions against Scripture and bases their actions according to love, as Jesus preached. Practicing this is hard at first, but gets easier as time goes on. You will be able to tell someone who is this way by their life.
2007-10-25 11:16:56 · answer #9 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
All I can really say is that your spiritual experience is a personal relationship with Christ. You do not have to approve of the way those around you act. You can disagree with them, and develop an opinion based on what they say and how they act. It all really boils down to you, and God.
You can't control other people, you can only control how you will react to their actions. Try and learn from their mistakes is the best advice I have for you, but don't take a holier than thou attitude (not even privately in your own mind).
2007-10-25 11:16:07 · answer #10 · answered by Wire Tapped 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋