Dealing with infatuation with a girl form university?

Question

Im a 19 year old male at university and I have been infatuated with a girl at the same uni for nearly six months, she is UK born and chinese, I talk to her now and again but I dont see her too often as we are doing different courses and live further away from each other, Shes on my friends list on facebook and I talk to her through that, I kind of think its love but also dont as i hardly know her and I dont know much about her like her interest etc, but I cant stop thinking about her and looking at her facebook profile and photos, one time when drunk I messaged her and told her I love her and she is really freaked out and I jsut want to smooth things over and stop her from being scared of me. Recently I saw her at campus and she ignored me and I fealt really hurt, unloved and unwanted. Im scared to talk to her properly as I am shy and I get hurt easily when rejected or insulted etc. What ahould I do?

Answer 1

Accept that she might reject you, because you don't know her good enough to know better. Accept that, its not hard, there you go, hey your hoping I'am wrong are you not? I'm not you need to. Makes it easier in conversation, and in whatever the case maybe; her interest or not. That aside, you love her, its the nature of that wonderful primitive emotion thats job it is to excite feelings of all shapes and sizes, with emotions like anger and disgust to make things interesting. But you not talking to her CAUSED THIS!!!!!!! You've got it bad! You've also have a bad habit of being true to yourself, which makes you a prime alchie, watch that. So unless you can feel confident enough to get over the hurdle of talking honesly with her, you need to let go of the fantasies, the hope. A good little rule that MIGHT help you with this and other endavours, if they like you, you don't sound stupid, you sounds cute! They'll do what ever in their perception to make sure you don't look foolish, BUT if they don't care for you, well you never had a chance.... just the nature of it AND WHY YOU SHOULD TALK HONESTLY, ESPACIALLY BEFORE TRYING TO DRINKING YOURSELF TO A SOLUTION!!!!

Answer 2

i do no longer think of you're infatuated along with her. i think of you rather like this female plenty. She sounds like a super female and her turning down a date is a super sign on the grounds that shows that she's truthful and devoted to her relationship. I say, shop being acquaintances along with her. instruct her how loads of a super guy you're. something can take place along with her and her guy. in the event that they spoil up you will in all likelihood be the 1st guy or woman she turns to. You in no way comprehend! you in all likelihood would desire to artwork your way in via being a great buddy. you are able to desire to consistently in simple terms permit her comprehend the way you sense. it does no longer harm yet, in case you get to the element the place it hurts to even think of approximately her considering the fact which you won't be in a position to be along with her, you are able to in all likelihood quit chatting along with her. I guess there are multiple different females at your college that would desire to make a decision directly to be your learn chum!