Hi, I met a childhood friend on facebook and we met up to catch up. We are 25. He has my #, but he emailed thru facebook for 2nd date "are u free this sat? wanna meet up?" which is impersonal. y didn't he call instead? He is not shy. So far, we have not talked bout sex. In his profile, it says looking for friends. On 1st date, he asked me few questions but not a lot & it didn't seem like he was trying to impress me. He was blunt about his lack of college degree and when i said everyone has diff pace in life, he said "yea right, 7 yr difference in pace." He said his last 7 yrs was partying. So I said u must've gotten it out of your system by now, but he bluntly said nope. It seemed like he didn't want me to see any good qualities in him. But, y ask a 2nd date? I replied "what you have in mind for sat?" he said i'm up for anything, we can do lunch?" How do I get to call instead of sending impersonal emails to me. I hate it so much.
2007-10-25 10:18:51 · 10 answers · asked by Ashley K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he is emailing because he has a gf, or wife, always becareful of that, if they choose not to call. He is already showing red flags. He made his choices, even if he regrets that he isn't further along in life, its not ur fault, he should be confident, and take pride in himself. Sounds like he has baggage and issues, and still parties. Is that what you are thinking of dating. a guy who has not progressed in life, bitter about it, but does nothing about it and still continues to party which is why he is where he is in life now. Trust me, you would end up picking up his pieces, while he resents your independance.
2007-10-25 10:30:46 · answer #1 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to just call him with your response. He wont call unless you do it first. Is it a date or just hanging out? If he is considering it a date and has been rather open about still being in the party scene, he may just be looking for a friendly hookup. Honestly its hard to call it. If he is really on you during the second date then you will know if he is just looking for sex. If he is still casual, then just friends.
2007-10-25 17:26:56 · answer #2 · answered by kitty10185 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just find it easier to communicate through e-mail or maybe he lost your number. It may not mean anything. If you want him to call then tell him to call so you can figure out what you'd like to do on Saturday. Does he just want sex? You'll have to see him a few times to know what he has in mind.
2007-10-25 17:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by kirk1500 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you prefer a phone call over the emails when you are being asked out.
2007-10-25 17:26:48 · answer #4 · answered by shellshell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a jokingly way you could say; " I'll go on another date with you, if you call me and ask..."
or just say something like "let me check my calender tomorrow, so call me then."
or if you want to be straight up and front, you could just say will you please start calling me instead or e-mailing.. just be honest and explain that you prefer phone instead or e-mail
2007-10-25 17:24:51 · answer #5 · answered by John 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop checking your e-mails ( you'll live) for a day or two, maybe he'll realize there are other ways to communicate. If he is really interested, he'll call.
2007-10-25 17:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by Mandy Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are looking for a different relationship than he is. He might just be looking for fun and you seem to be looking for something more serious.
2007-10-25 17:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's unrealistic to start expecting him to change anything after one date. Take it as it is or not at all. Bob H.
2007-10-25 17:27:47 · answer #8 · answered by Bob H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a looser forget him. Any man 25 and partying is all he is intrested in is a looser and a user.
2007-10-25 17:29:24 · answer #9 · answered by lakerunner696 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think he is after nothing at all.
2007-10-25 17:25:24 · answer #10 · answered by shoya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋