i have really bad trust issues...i was raped wheni was a little girl by a "friend" of the family and threatened that if i ever told that he would kill me i ve been molested all my life by men i hate when married men look at me and try to talk to me for more than just trying to be friends and ive been cheated on repeatedly i have a great man now and i know hes faithful but i still have that fear that he might hurt me and i fight with him all the time but he has proven to me that hes a good guy i don't know what to do to take the fear away...i think im crazy sometimes cuz the fact that i accuse him of cheating even when i know its all in my mind but i just cant shake the thoughts loose i want to and i know i should but i can't is there anything i need to do i don't want to push him away from me even when he says im not and that he understands where im coming from but im afraid one day he will get fed up with it and leave and thats the last thing i want to happen!
2007-10-25 10:07:29 · 2 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to tell yourself that you don't want to live in the past. You want to go forward and have a life and all.(unless, of course, that is not what you want). So don't let a bad thing or two ruin your whole life. You just mentaly take it and lock it in a box.
2007-10-25 13:34:06 · answer #1 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my brother is the comparable way he has significant have faith themes and refuses to have faith that anybody is telling him the certainty while they are announcing they care you're appropriate you may desire to not have faith everybody (or absolutely everyone) because of the fact not everybody cares like they are announcing they do their intentions are not organic in spite of the incontrovertible fact that that's thoroughly as much as you in case you want to have faith people. i spotted you mentioned your mum and boyfriend did some truly terrible issues to you i don't think of what your mum did became into terrible your mum cares and merely needs what's appropriate for you and needs you to be ok enable her assist you do not push your mum away enable her be there for you as on your boyfriend he does not seem as though a robust boyfriend in any respect (no offence) why might you're taking him back in spite of each thing those god undesirable issues he mentioned to you or did to you? you should satisfied to be with somebody that truly cares for you that may not supply up on you while they sense that that's stressful and too lots to bare you deserve each and all the happiness in the international. After what your boyfriend mentioned i'm able to definitely see why you do not have faith him tbf and properly your mum she meant properly she merely needs you to sense ok and she or he thought that could desire to help you. You look depressed Valerie which could additionally impression you and it makes you sense that no one cares approximately you yet somebody consistently cares approximately you adore, you should grin and be ok and truly sense ok and or not that's actual. in case you may not have faith them sufficient to speak to them then discuss with somebody which you're feeling which you would be able to truly have faith like a instructor or a training counsellor. each thing would be very properly love you will see.
2016-12-15 09:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋