Church Question?

Question

I might be going to church on Sunday. I'm not Christan, and this will be my first time going for 3 or 4 years, and I'm a Freshman in high school. I've maybe been 5 times at the most my entire life. So I have a few questions...
1) : How do I tell/ask my mum that I want/if I can go?
2) : What do I wear? (last time I went, I was in GA(I now live in MD) and I went in jeans and a nice shirt with my friend and her family, I got stared at like I had lost my mind.
3) : Is there anything I should/need to know before going?

By the way, I might be going with my boyfriend and his family. Their very Christan people from what I can tell. I really don't want to screw this up.
Thanks in advance!♥

Answer 1

What to tell your mom - how about "Boyfriend has invited me to church with him on Sunday, is it okay if I go?"

With the boyfriend's family, I'd keep the "I'm not a christian" part to myself and not make a big deal of it in front of the boyfriend's family. It might put your day off to an uncomfortable start.

How to dress? NICE clothes, no jeans, something modest and respectable looking. Really, the more modest the better. No one will ever find fault with you being too modest, and it's way too easy to be immodest. Also, some christian churches expect women to wear dresses/skirts. You may want to check with the boyfriend or his mother to make sure you are appropriate.

What do you need to know? Be respectful, stand up and sit down when everyone else does. If prayers are said as a group, participate if you feel comfortable. If there is kneeling involved, kneel only if you are comfortable. Otherwise sit quietly in the seat/pew. People will recognize that you are a visitor and that's appropriate. If this is a church that serves communion, listen carefully to what the minister/priest/leader says. Different churches have different policies on who can and cannot participate in communion. Some are very open, some are NOT. To be respectful, you must follow these directions. If communion is offered and you choose to NOT take it, sit quietly in your seat until that part of the service is over. People tend to pray and such along with communion and talking in the pew would be inappropriate.

Lastly, relax, take a deep breath, and enjoy the opportunity to get to know the boyfriend's family and part of his family's culture.

Answer 2

1) Mum, is it okay if I go to church with my boyfriend on Sunday? I really want to go.

2) As your boyfriend what his mom & sisters usually wear. Then wear the same sort of thing. Jeans & a nice shirt are fine at some churches, but others expect the womenfolk to show up in dresses.

3) Your boyfriend can answer this question better. Ask him to give you a play-by-play of what happens from the moment you arrive to when you leave. Some churches have Sunday School for all ages before the service, or after the service. Some just have services. Some expect new people to introduce themselves; others don't. He knows best.

Answer 3

1. unless your mom is against church, you should just be able to ask. alternatively, you can ask permission to spend the morning with your boy-friend's family.
2. ask your guy friend. he'd know what people wear. or ask his mom. It shouldn't matter what you wear to church... but in the south they are different..
3. um, maybe what denomination he is... like is he Catholic, Lutheran, Baptist etc. Maybe ask your friend what church will be like. Because the only thing that is the same for most churches, is that 1. the bible will be read at some point, 2. you'll sing some songs. 3. an offering will be taken, there will be a prayer or two, and 4 a sermon will be preached.
you should ask before if there will be communion, which is where people eat bread and drink grape juice/wine in remembrance of Christ dying for our sins... some churches will not allow you to take communion without being a member. and since you are not a Christian, it may be wise to skip that Also, bring a dollar or two to put in the offering plate, because that is always nice.
If you like it, then you can go again!
ps, you should not worry too much, everyone should be welcomed to church. just be prepared for anything.

Answer 4

There is a lot of variation in the way people dress for church. Jeans would be fine at my church, but may not at others. If the church has a website take a look at that. There may be some photos that will help. You could also ask your boyfriend.

A modest dress or skirt and blouse should be appropriate at most churches.

As for asking your mom, just ask her.

Answer 5

1): Just say." Mummy can i go to church on sunday with panda" or " Mum i would really like to go to church with Panda." somethin like that and
2): you long skirt will be fine
3): Be on ur kindest attitude (no moodyness or fighting i kno u wnt)
You wont screw this up i mean ur not a sut u'll be fine lol i like reds response and dnt b nevouse its no big deal.
Luvz u♥

Answer 6

Sweetheart, ask your boyfriend. He'll tell you what kids your age commonly wear at his congregation and he should be able to tell you what to expect. You can ask his mum, too. I assume, since your family doesn't go to church, your mum won't mind you going with someone else. Just kindly ask like you would for permission to go anywhere else.

Answer 7

Dress with modesty and follow the the congregation, and by the way if you are old enough to date then you are old enough to go to church by your own free will.

Answer 8

1) just do it, fancy approches arent needed
2)nuthing too formal or low cut. avoid things with skulls or bands on them( i hate thate rule lol) dress preppy
3)umm dont laugh during the sermon,sit close to him or in the back. know exactly who u are going with and what they are like, dnt be nervus

Answer 9

Dress like you're going out clubbin'. Churches are quite hip these days.