She's a coworker of mine. She always asks me to go out with her and the others from work. I always say I can't, or I don't know if I can go. She always says that it would be good if I go. The problem is I don't really want to go out with her and the others from work. I just want to go out with her. I would go out with them, but she always ends up leaving early and then i'm stuck with a bunch of people I don't really want to be with. 1. Why does she always ask me to go, when she knows that I never go. 2. I really don't like the rest of the people that go, so am I doing the right thing by not going?
2007-10-25 09:13:06 · 24 answers · asked by mama a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I learned a long time ago, that if you want to be with someone, you will go and no matter where it is, just to enjoy their company. When they leave, there is nothing that says you have to stay. You could always go, and leave before your friend, say you have something already planned and can't stay long. She invites you out with them, because she likes your company, and doesn't want to hurt your feelings by not asking.
2007-10-25 09:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of time, when your working some place everyone wants to go out, it is there way of getting to know the real you. Not the you they see at work everyday. She probably always invites you because she was able to get to know you, and she either just wants to have you there too; or maybe she dont like the others that well, so she wants you there. Or maybe she does like the others, and thinks you would too if you got to know them outside of work.. You should talk to her and tell her, you enjoy going out with her and kickin it, but you dont want to go chill with others you dont like; unless you dont really know them and then I would say, GO! Try and have fun, loosen up and try and get to know your co workers; mayber there not all that bad!
2007-10-25 16:19:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try telling her that you'd like to go out with just her? Maybe she keeps asking you to go with everyone else because she's too shy to ask you to go out with just her and someone else told her to ask you as part of a group to keep the pressure off. Of course, she could just asking you because she's invited everyone else and she doesn't want to be rude. The point is, if you don't talk to her and take a chance, you'll never know and you'll always wonder what might have happened. Go for it!
2007-10-25 16:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you prefer not to go on these excursions then don't. More than likely she's trying to get you involved so you don't appear so lonely to her. If you're happy being the way you are, then do as you wish. Take in a Museum or something that interests you. IF you need companionship see if there's a local group that takes trips to places of interest. Office relationships just don't work. That's from experience!
2007-10-25 16:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by Steven D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if it would be ok if just the 2 of you went out somewhere. Let her chose were to go so she feels more comfortable about it. She might always ask you to go with her and her buddys because she feels uncomfortable about being alone with you right now.
2007-10-25 16:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you value your job, go. In many companies, particularly small ones, it is important to be friendly with your associates.
Set a timer (watch, cell phone, etc) or make up an excuse and leave early yourself, or just leave a few minutes after she leaves.
2007-10-25 16:22:05 · answer #6 · answered by HyperDog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she might be asking you to go so that she can spend some time with you to but with everyone else..and the second answer of course you doing the right thing.. but just try asking her out and her only tell her you want to go on a date with her or something.. but maybe she wants to get to you know better before you guys go out, out but she will want to be in a group before you guys do go out with each other by yourselves... good luck
2007-10-25 16:20:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well give it a try when she asks again say yes and see what happens,some girls are like that,she maybe a bit shy going out with you on her own the first time,maybe if you were there she might stay longer,you will know if yourself then if she only wants to be friends
good luck
2007-10-25 16:23:50 · answer #8 · answered by meg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She asks you to go because she wants to spend time with you and is still more comfortable going with a group. Go occasionally but don't go every time if you don't want to and casually invite her to go out to something once in awhile. She could be waiting for you to do that before she ditches the group.
2007-10-25 16:17:30 · answer #9 · answered by kiki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time she asks you to go out with the co-workers you can do one of two things:
a) tell her no but you would like to go out with her alone sometime.
b) go out with her and the co-workers and when she gets up to cut out early, excuse yourself as well and walk her out and talk with her.
If you do one of those things, you will come out winning. Oh, and to answer your other question...yes! Never go out with people that you really don't like...I surely don't.
2007-10-25 16:18:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋