Okay so i went to visit my sister whos in college in Chicago and we went out with some of her friends. She told me that this one guy was a complete ho and he did come onto me . He spent the night flirting with me and when we got back to her house he said i was beautiful but then he went home soon after. I messed up because I dont have much experience with guys and I wanted to ask him to walk me back to my hostel but was too nervous. I saw him in the distance this morning but he didnt come over .Im going back there in 2 weeks and was wondering if you think he really liked me ?
2007-10-25 09:08:55 · 36 answers · asked by actingout 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for your help so far guys. I know hes not into a relationship - neither am I really and he did tell me he liked me last night but maybe he tells everyone that . Just thought that if he was attracted to me we could go a bit further next time . I'm 18 and want to have some fun as I didn't in high school.
2007-10-25 09:19:01 · update #1
Actually my sister was the one who introduced us and couldn't believe that I didn't make out with him at least.
2007-10-25 09:25:58 · update #2
Talk to your older sister about it, obviously she has an opinion on this guy, so she must know his dating habits, if they are good or bad. And since your not experienced you don't want to get off on the wrong foot, so I bet your sister has the best advice for you. Good luck and make sure to take things slow, you still have a long life in front of you.
2007-10-25 09:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by Star City Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously consider what gives him the "ho" status. Maybe he's a pro at telling the chicks what they want to hear and laid it on thick with you. Do you want to really have a relationship with someone with that kinda reputation? If he was interested in you he sure would have approached you this morning without a doubt. You said you dont have much "guy experience", keep in mind that you will have lots of guys tell you how beautiful you are, you just have to see who's being truely sincere about it. That's the one I'd wanna date.
2007-10-25 09:23:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two thoughts sprang to mind as I read your question. Both are true, but they simultaneously play both sides of the idea field. First, people get reputations (some well-deserved, and others way off base) through a variety of behaviors. Everyone can lay claim to occasional stupid actions, but the reality of the matter is, we aren't, or shouldn't be, defined by singular actions within our lives (otherwise we'd all be doomed to condemnation and come up far short of ideal living). Your sister identified this guy as a "ho", and maybe this is true of him on some levels (or maybe it was at one time...I really have no way of knowing for sure). But if life has taught me nothing else, it has shown me with certainty that folks (both males and females) can never be so simplistically categorized accurately...everyone has more than one dimension to their character. So, it's generally wise to give folks the benefit of doubt regardless of other people's accounts, and assessing their character for yourself by your own observations.
Second thought: Your self-professed inexperience puts you at something of a disadvantage where making assessments is concerned. There are folks who sense inexperience from miles away and prey on it relentlessly. So taking things extra slowly and cautiously is well-advised. Think on both these dynamics since they both apply here. Good luck.
2007-10-25 09:49:10 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont wanna break your heart or anything but.... not if hes in college i didnt really believe the whole college stereo type until i was in college its so true fro college guys its all about taking someone home from a party and then they quickly forget about her. i dated a guy while i was in college and again "guy rule" he told me alot of stuff and he basically said its true, nothing is off limits and nothing matters there are no standards and no one really cares cause there is no such thing as being used for s*x to college people, needless the say that relationship ended pretty quickly and i just decided to stay single through college.
Sorry hon but really dont put any hopes on it
2007-10-25 09:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by ... 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless you really want to be treated in a disrespectful manner by someone who could really care less about you other than to add another notch on his belt and you refuse to pay any attention to the "words of wisdom" given by your sister (a person who truly loves you), then I guess nothing that anyone says could change your mind. However, you must also remember that YOU will be the one to pay the consequences for you actions......not your sister!
Be Smart!
2007-10-25 09:17:30 · answer #5 · answered by diamondgirl_jus4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your sister already warned you about this guy, I would take her opinion, as she has been around him longer than you have. If you see him again in two weeks, flirt but don't get carried away. This doesn't sound like the kind of guy you want to get "experience" with.
2007-10-25 09:23:07 · answer #6 · answered by sixftrd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he did not acknowledge you the next day ,the chances are the hound dog was just looking for a good time. im glad you didn't mix up with that .with life moving faster and faster every day . take it slow that one somebody will come along and you will feel from head- toe. theres no way to say protect yourself because those wanna-be in your britches are on the prowl
2007-10-25 09:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by b.johne k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister, whom I'm assuming is trustworthy, probably knows what she's talking about. If you liked flirting with him, have fun, but acknowledge his history as a "ho" and keep it in mind when you're with him. Keep it as light as he does and don't get too involved.
Now with that information in mind, this guy may actually like you, but I would still be careful.
Guard your heart from guys who aren't worth it.
Good Luck doll.
2007-10-25 09:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by kn_novak 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well he probablyt was attracted to you, but maybe he didnt see you this morning? If you know for a fact he did, then thats messed up and he didnt like you at all. There is so many damn hotties in chicago, so kick him to the curb and find another one! My family is there LOL ill hook you up with one!
2007-10-25 09:14:06 · answer #9 · answered by CORAZON QUE NO SiiENTE 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
act like it doesnt bother you, he might have been feeling you out to see if you was easy, to see if he could get one over on you. guys like that are only along for the ride for one thing. dont chase him though, and be very careful with your feelings. like dont let them show too much, and dont get attached before it even begins. cuz after he gets what he wants, he'll be on to his next hunt for something new. thats just how guy ho's are. they only look out for number one, no one else. im surprised yur sis didnt tell you that.
2007-10-25 09:13:31 · answer #10 · answered by Mandy G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋