im starvin myself?

Question

my boyfriend is a teenager and he smokes weed and smokes cigarettes and he told me he would try to stop just cuz he doesnt want to ruin our relationship and he would only do that for me not for any other girl cuz he rlly likes me. and like hes been tryin but he cant. he never wanted to do it from the begginin he was under alot of peer pressure cuz hes friends with alot of older guys. and like only me my bestfriend him and his best friend no thats it. and i can only talk to her bout it i dont want to tell him how i feel cuz its really botherin me and im in so much pain i dont want him to get harmed i care bout him wayy too much. :[ and im under so much pain that im starvin myself. please help i need adviceee!!!!!!

Answer 1

WHAT'S YOUR QUESTION? are you trying to find out a way to get your bf to quit? Or are you trying to figure out how to start eating again? I'll just answer both...

QUIT SMOKING: I think he should try a nicotine patch for a while. Or, he can replace cigarettes with gum. OR, he can start to smoke less and less everyday (for example. if he smokes 10 cigs a day, make him smoke only 9. and then the next WEEK, make him only smoke 8...etc). If he's one of those people that can quit cold turkey, then he should do that. When I say cold turkey, I mean he has a day on the calendar where he says.. "i'm gonna quit everything on this day,..etc"

STARVING: You need to eat. OBVIOUSLY. I don't understand what you mean by pain because I can't read crappy english.. =D

WHERE ARE YOU GETTING THE PAIN FROM? do you mean depressed? go get counseling. Or talk to someone. You just need a little fun in your life,..ya know?

<3

Answer 2

First off, WHY are you starving yourself? That can cause great harm for you forever. Your body needs certain things now for growing. You say you love him but you need to love yourself first. No guy should come before your own personal well being.
It seems that it would be a good idea for you two to separate for a little bit and concentrate on your own healing and the like. Perhaps then you two can be better together.

Answer 3

He was lying about wanting to quit for 'you', weed is very powerful! Probably wanted to get you off his back.
Peer pressure is always blamed for everything nowadays, why shud that be the case?
What is this about starving yourself, that is crazy. Do you think anaroxia is cool. Believe me you do not want to be that girl!!
You know the only thing to do is to leave his *** and concentrate on better things. Dont throw your life away, 4 what?

Answer 4

there are plenty of fish in the pond, and if smoking cigarettes and weed are something you dont want in a partner, then you dont have to settle for him. That is a very important point to many people, and its not something you should have to compromise yourself for.

Leave him. Let him straighten himself out. Go back to him if he does. If he doesnt, chances are you'll find someone more suited to you.

Its hard while your in the middle of it, and you think you love him, but this is a serious point, and it doesnt bode well for your or his longterm future if this doesnt change.

Think long term..not short term

Answer 5

The best reason to cease and desist from any thing that harms your body, spirit, mental well being - is for yourself - not another. Because you want to rise above - resist temptation - making every attempt to DO THE RIGHT THING. Not for another - FOR YOURSELF.

I understand his desire to do it for another - but such a goal is often a 'temporary fix' and not a solution to the real problem - how you feel about yourself, self-respect and esteem.

If you care about him, encourage him to do the right thing...that's all.

Goodluck dear...being young is work - AND, its about thinking well enough of yourself, that you aren't going to succumb to the whims and opinions of others, rather, BE YOUR OWN PERSON - MAKE YOUR OWN DECISIONS - SET YOUR OWN WORTHY GOALS in life...

Grace

Answer 6

fine let me told u a fact when some one smokes cigret nicoten gets in his blood and after that he would not be able to leave it. if you will ask him he will promise and will leave for a while but when his blood keep circulating slow he will again smoke so dont feel bad if he is somoking there are people who are smoking since ages but they are healthy I even seen doctors somoking so dont worry it will not make any effect

good luck

Answer 7

First of all, you state that your boyfriend is a teenager? Are you? If not, this is extremely unhealthy. Please check him into a rehab center where he can get professional assistance from those who have experience in dealing with this kind of thing. You might not be harmed by some time in rehab either, or at least some professional counseling/therapy.

Answer 8

He needs help. Get him to a school counselor, etc. I understand addiction, it's hard to get rid of. But, he can only stop if he really wants to for himself. I know it's romantic if he does it for you, but that won't help him. He needs to be able to do this for himself. You need to eat. Force yourself to. Even if it's just a glass of milk and a piece of bread. You both sound like you're really trying to make this work, so please, keep trying, and don't give up. God bless!

Answer 9

Oh baby! Don't hurt yourself to help someone else! I am recovering addict/alcoholic baby and I know( from experience) that abusing yourself will NOT make the situation better..You need to love him, but love yourself MORE! NO ONE is worth killing yourself over! NO ONE! God Bless you hunn...

Answer 10

Starving yourself will rob your body of muscle, becuase your body will use the muscle to survive.

Go to a local christian church and find the program Celebrate Recovery. It will really help you as a co-depantant.