theres this boy and i love him with all my heart but my brother dont like him and the boy that i like is in the hospital. should i go and visit him or what? but my foster family wouldn't know about me going there to see him?should i go or should i just let him go? he had a concusion, he fell into a coma,and now he has eternal bleeding in his brain? help me please!!
2007-10-25 08:54:04 · 60 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should inform your family that you truly love this person, although how old are you? Are you old enough to know what love really is? Or is it infatuation? Either way, it would still be nice for you to go visit this boy. On a sub-conscience level, maybe he could sense that you were there. Miracles do happen. Try to make your family understand, but don't go sneaking around their back. If they have a problem with him, there may be a valid reason why.
2007-10-25 08:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by defying_gravity_92 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you tell your foster family that you would like to go visit a friend in the hospital, would they still object? You don't have to explain about how you feel, just go as a friend. If you explain what happened to him, maybe they will let you go. But are you prepared to see this person in such a bad shape? Being in a coma and having internal bleeding, you don't know what his chances are for complete recovery. I understand that you want to visit him, but as long as he is in a coma he will not know that you are there. Don't go if you have to sneak around - not a good thing to do to your foster parents.
2007-10-25 09:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by sixftrd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him, you should definitely go see him. Your family can bugger off. It's not like you're going to get your groove on with this guy in a coma in his hospital bed. Nothing wrong with visiting someone in the hospital. Besides, if he loves you, too, maybe your being there will help him.
Oh, and hon it's "internal" bleeding. No big deal, just thuoght that might help if you wanted to look it up online. :-)
I hope he's OK!!
2007-10-25 08:58:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it's important to respect the wishes of your parents and try to follow them as far as they are right, there are some instances where parents have it wrong and make bad judgment calls. Even if your parents have good reasons for keeping you from this guy (I'm not saying they do), I don't see why visiting someone in the hospital, possibly on their death bed, could be wrong.
I think the greater good here would be to visit him.
2007-10-25 09:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by sickblade 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell a foster parent .. one you trust that you are going to the hospital .. if he's in that bad of shape he's not a threat to your safety and a parent should only be afraid of that... or you can ask them to take you ...for a few minutes at least .. if the nurse will let you in, talk to him.. say anything to him... he'll need to hear you. and know that your there. but it's great that you want to go. and if he passes just know that you knew what love felt like and you got to say goodbye and dont ever blame yourself for anything that happened.
2007-10-25 09:03:35 · answer #5 · answered by harold y 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, with the boy being in a coma and all, I can't see the harm in visiting. It's not like you're sneaking out to be alone with him. I hope he's gonna be okay!
2007-10-25 09:01:00 · answer #6 · answered by Fred M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Tabbie..so you are in love with this boy, huh. Now, if your brother hates someone that you love, that's his problem not yours. If you are going to go to the hospital to see him, please let your parents know. Let them know that you have a friend in the hospital whom you would like to see. If they do not approve of you having a bf at this time, don't mention it. Just consider him a friend.
Best of luck for your friend.
Be smart. Be careful.
2007-10-25 09:03:33 · answer #7 · answered by Jetish 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you need to do what you think you need to do. It's not a copout answer, but if he's as bad off physically as you say he is, how would you feel if he died and you never said goodbye to him? This isn't to bring you down or anything, but you may need that one moment later on. It may help you through your grief and bring you closure.
Maybe if you can't go, you could call the nurse's station and get them to hold the phone to his ear for you to talk to him briefly. Sometimes they'll do things like that if they're not superbusy and you're really nice about it. Or send him a card or something for them to read to him.
2007-10-25 08:59:30 · answer #8 · answered by Bridey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go before it's too late. Eternal bleeding in the brain is nothing to sneeze at, it can lead to eternal infections!
2007-10-25 09:04:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would definitely encourage you to honor your parents and go. That means, sit with your mom or dad (whoever you think has a softer heart :)) and ask them if you can go. Also, ask them if they would go with you. I think a wise decision like that will honor them and show them that you respect them.
If they say you shouldn't go, then don't. But, you can send him a card to his family and ask them to read it to him (even though he is in coma). I'm sure they will appreciate it!
But, I hope your parents will let you go. If not, tell them to speak with me :)
2007-10-25 09:01:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋