My parents stopped supporting me after 4 years of being in college. They are not helping me with anything. I moved out so I could be close to the university (currently in a University apartment) and have asked them for help for school, but they refuse to give it to me, because they are mad that I moved out even though I am 23. I am a full time student and I have to have a full time job in order to make it on my own. But it is so difficult to keep up my grades and my parents refuse to help me. The said they would rather support my dancing that would cost thousands of dollars even though I cannot make any money doing that than helping me with my future. Do you think this is wrong?
2007-10-25 08:30:42 · 7 answers · asked by brighid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe they consider supporting you the 4 years it takes to get a degree as completing their obligation. Your obligation was to go full time and get the degree in 4 years.
While we have supported our kids with any schooling....not all parents feel it's a lifetime obligation. Both of our daughters changed majors which we approved of and continue helping them. One was even married at the time and we helped her husband continue his education also. (His parents quit supporting his education and we felt it was important)
Maybe your answer lies in the reason you didn't finish in the customary 4 years. They may have felt it was long enough to get the degree if you were sincere in doing so. College is expensive and no parent wants to feel they are throwing away that kind of money while the student puts forth little effort.
2007-10-25 08:47:15 · answer #1 · answered by momwithabat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your parents already did a lot by supporting you through your first 4 years. At 23 you should be able to support yourself. I'm planning on paying for college for my kids but also not forever. They get their bachelor's degree that's it. If they want to go longer for master's etc. they are on their own. I have to think of my retirement too...
2007-10-25 15:58:34 · answer #2 · answered by delina_m 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think your parents are pouting becasue you moved out, and now that they can't control you at home, they are trying to control you from where you currently live.
Your parents do have the choice to help or not, but their reasoning is a little whacky.
2007-10-25 15:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no I don't......I think your parents have done enough after 4 years....your 23 ....you should have a job and your own place......and be paying your own way......its hard for you but your doing it ....and your doing it by yourself.....that should make you feel great once you get done with college.....stop wanting a free ride and be thankful they paid for 4 years......some parents don't even do that....you can do it
2007-10-25 15:47:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think parents should do all they can to help their children, but i do think at 23, and left home you should and can support yourself, however the rest of your parents logic makes no sense at all
2007-10-25 15:41:44 · answer #5 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on each family and their finances.
This is something you can only sort out by talking with each other.
Have a totally honest discussion and tell them how you feel and ask them their reasons.
The internet cannot solve this one.
2007-10-25 15:43:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Priya,
Hope you still remember me. I really feel for you. I wish I was there to help you.
Take Care, Bye.
2007-10-25 16:34:11 · answer #7 · answered by harish L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋