I had broken up with my girl for about 2 weeks now.. she called me yesterday and she broke down to tears and told me on how much she missed me .also she confessed to me she thought it was easy to forget about me but its not possible. I tried to stay away from contacting her beacuase I was moving on with my life already , but now Im so lost .... I dont know whats the right thing to do.. I dont want to lose her but at the same time I do beacuase I feel shes not the one for me... :( HELP OPTIONS
2007-10-25 08:30:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you need to add more details to your question. How long where you dating for? how old are you guys?
Think about this.. If you like her give it a chance, you'll never know if she's the one for you, yet, if you know for a fact.. then I suggest you be honest with her and tell her exactly your feelings. Be really nice to her, yet straight and to the point.
By the way, why do you say you don't want to lose her? you already dumped her once and you doubt if you like her..
2007-10-25 08:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your situation is not uncommon. The confusion is coming from on or both of 2 things: You fail to make a decision and stick to it, or you are succumbing to her communication. Crying is a basic and universal communication device. If you see anyone in china, japan, russia, or anywhere in the world cry, you know what they are trying to communicate ("help me") just as you know what a smile or a scream means. Her crying is affecting your emotional brain center. And since your motivations are controlled by our emotions, and our actions by our logic, this is sending you in a spin. Logically you know you wanna leave, but emotionally she is pulling you in a different direction.
Take a hold of your emotional brain center and see how it is affecting your thought process. Learn to control it, while at the same time celebrate your vulnerability... it means you're human.
2007-10-25 15:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You move on..in 2 weeks huh...she didn't mean that much to you then...
You are confusing..." I don't want to lose her but at the same time I do because I feel shes no the one for me" No one deserves to be led along a string like that...You are playing with her emotions...How dare you!!! Let that poor girl go...
the best way is to gently break it down to her that you do not feel she is the one for you...apologize for hurting her and wish her well...it's the only thing you can do.
2007-10-25 15:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by Nemos Mom 2.2.10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are a young guy. If you are still in high school let it go. Relationships like that don't usually last. Especially if you already feel like she's not the one for you. She probably isn't. Maybe in time you can be friends (but honestly probably not). Keep moving on. It might be hard for you and she might start to resent you for it, but it's the best thing to do for both of you.
2007-10-25 15:34:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah if a part of you is saying shes not the one, then maybe shes not, but on the other hand why would you feel lost without her. Maybe you should give her another chance and see where it goes.
2007-10-25 15:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by Terri A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you are the one who dumped her, now be man enough to leave her alone so that she can get over you. She has to sort things out for herself.
And what do you mean by, you "don't want to lose her"? You've already lost her. HELLO! That is what it means to "break up" with someone.
2007-10-25 15:35:11 · answer #6 · answered by Grandpa S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her extacly what you told us. "I dont want to lose you but at the same time I kind of do. Only because I think your not the "one" for me." ..say you want to be friends, and that you guys can still be close.. and mean it.
2007-10-25 15:35:56 · answer #7 · answered by All-About-Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be her friend and if your feelings start to come back then you allcan try it again but other than that i dont know what to tell you
2007-10-25 15:34:15 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Marcus Pleasure P Cooper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. You already know what to do, and you were doing. If you don't want to be with her, and you know that she is not right for you. Let her cry out to somebody else. She'll get over it eventually, we all do.
2007-10-25 15:34:09 · answer #9 · answered by ldr5455 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give into her guilt trip. Tell her you're sorry she feels so bad, but you made the right decision and you won't be changing your mind.
It's tough, but it's life. She'll get over it.
2007-10-25 15:33:48 · answer #10 · answered by monicanena 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋