Unfortunately, I sometimes have to deal with unwanted attention from guys. How can I reject them in a way that doesn't hurt their feelings?
2007-10-25 07:54:47 · 32 answers · asked by tangerine 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's nice of you to be considerate, but I don't think it's possible to not hurt someone's feelings when you reject them. It's only natural for them to feel hurt by it.
What you can do is be gracious about it. Even if you think they're repulsive, you can simply say "I'm flattered, but I'm not interested. Sorry." It really shouldn't take more than that. If they don't get the message, you might have to be a little more harsh.
And please, don't follow the suggestions saying "tell them you have a boyfriend" or to pretend to be married. I'd rather get an honest rejection personally. Too many women pretend to be taken, and it gets me assuming that they're all taken when plainly they are not.
2007-10-25 08:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you say you're not ready for a relationship "right now," they'll think there's hope for the future. If there isn't, you have to say very politely that you are not interested in a relationship *with them*. Not everyone gets the subtext. If a polite brushoff doesn't work, then you can be a little more direct and less polite.
2007-10-25 08:03:27 · answer #2 · answered by VeggieTart -- Let's Go Caps! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well u see, guys may act like ur gonan hurt theyre feelings, but theyre actually reallie strong inside. i mean if u reject a guy and then the next thing u noe, he never wnats to be ur friend again that means that he only wants u for your looks.
if u dont liek a guy and u want to reject him without hurting him, then the best way is juss to tell him straight out and in person. juss tell him that sorry u dont want to go out with him , and he will understand. or if u dont want their attention, then juss tell them politely that sorry u dont want too much of their attention:]
2007-10-25 07:59:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Us men are a proud, horny species... the only thing you can do is be honest. Just be upfront and state with a smile "Thanks for the compliment but I am not interested." Really that easy... our feelings might be hurt at first but any real man is going to be glad you were up front and honest which is rare now a days.
2007-10-25 07:59:19 · answer #4 · answered by L A 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you decide dont say lets be friends. Guys have plenty of friends as do most girls. Its a cheap lie. It makes everything ackward because the guy is thinking hey if I work this right..........
Be honest it will hurt him if he really cares for you but his pain will be short and intense rather than a protracted bout of suffering.
2007-10-25 08:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
sadly to say , this world has become a mating ground with no cooth about it you have boys/men showing off their briefs not owning a belt .and us girls/ women are to find that attractive when you cant properly dress your self? NOT !all i could say is this when they dont care about them selves to dress properly why would they care what they say or do to you? sad HuH ? so, my answer would be to ignore it . i do every day there is not a polite way i always say if you have nothing nice to say ,dont say anything ,right?
2007-10-25 08:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by b.johne k 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Thank you but I'll pass". That's as polite and nonoffensive as you can be without sounding insulting.
If we persist, "I'm not interested in you romantically. I'd like to keep things as they are". You have to be direct. Some of us think we are mack daddies and that if we're persistent we'll wear you down.
2007-10-25 10:22:31 · answer #7 · answered by Standing Stone 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say get lost! No, kidding, don't do that. Just politely say, I am not interested because I am dealing with complicated issues in my life at the moment.
2007-10-25 07:57:25 · answer #8 · answered by Liberal City 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
uh hello! If you don't want them to do whatever they are doing ask them to plz stop. That doesn't work? No need for politness any more. You ask politely ONCE. If they keep it up, politness is OUT. email me w/ more Q's if u want
2007-10-25 07:58:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see no reason to lie. Just be straight foward and tell them you are flatterd, but not looking for anything in your life right now.
2007-10-25 07:58:33 · answer #10 · answered by Jengi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋