ok me n my ex of 3years 9 months broke up 4.5 months ago and she got a new b/f 2 weeks after we broke up and she wouldnt leave me alone she said that she missis me and wants to be friends and she wants to talk and blah blah...well i really do care for her even though i thought i was over it....and we broke up b/c she thought i gave up on the relationship (witch i didnt)...so im guessing that the attarction was just gone...i honestly dont think shes as happy with him as she was with me ( but thats just me) well what im askin is girls have u ever done this and gottne back with him after, like was the attraction rebuilding enought to get u back together? girls help me out please with ur comments/stories ao opinions...THANKS
2007-10-25 07:24:43 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I remarried my ex husband after 6 yrs
2007-10-25 07:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by Linda S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One question you need to think of is how long did she know this other guy and how long were they talking before u broke up. If she was with you for almost 4 yrs and started dating someone else 2 wks after u broke up, then obviously there may have been something going on prior 2 u breaking up. I am not saying anything physically either. You need 2 think 2 yourself is she really worth talking 2 if she broke your heart by dating someone so soon.
Do you want to deal with getting back together & possibly having her do this 2 u all over again? Think of how u were together and if anything seemed fishy toward the end of ur relationship. Nothing is fair 2 u at all if she is trying to play mind games on u. And that is what it sounds like she is doing 2 u. I am sure u r a sweet man and r not ready 2 get involved w/ anyone else right now. But the next time she tells u she misses u, tell her it is her own fault & she has someone & u can do better than someone who is going to be playing these games w/ u. Remind her of some stuff u had done 4 her & some stuff u did 2gether. Remember u will always have those memories. At the same rate, u can find someone else who u can give ur unconditional love 2 and vice versa & maybe live the rest of your lives 2gether. Maybe this break up was b/c she is not the one. Maybe not the next girl, or even the girl after that, but maybe u will meet if u already haven't the person u r supposed 2 spend the rest of ur life with.
Let ur x know u will always love her but it is time 2 move on.
2007-10-25 14:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by want2giveb/fababy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like her new boyfriend was a rebound. She sounds like she doesn't like to be alone, and alot of women don't. I am not sure how you two were in the relationship, but it is possible that when you 2 broke up, and she started dating this other man, that she realized how much you two had, and that she really does love you and miss you. I would stop talking to her for a couple weeks, and see how she is with this new guy, if you two were ment to be together than you will, but give her the space she needs, even if she is saying that she wants to still be friends and see you, blah, blah, blah. Thats what alot of us do. I did it to my last boyfriend, had a real slow, drawn out break up, just because i was scared of letting go of my old relationship, and really scared that this new one would not work out. I figured if the new relationship didn't work then i could always go back to my ex because we were still friends, i realized i was playing them both, and in the end i got played. You do what ever your heart tells you to do, but dont let her keep you on a string because she can. Good luck, hope everything works out, and this helped a little.
2007-10-25 14:34:25 · answer #3 · answered by ldr5455 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want me to be honest then you should move on. It will never be the same again. I was married and we tried to rebuild what was left of the relationship and It really didn't work. We both knew it, feelings change and you cannot do anything about it. We are still friends now because we knew we would only end up as enemies if we didn't split up. I was married for nearly ten years. We both have new partners and we are happy. In time maybe you can be friends but at the moment I would not contact her if it is too painful, you have to think of yourself as your g/f has a new man. Don't go looking for a new relationship it will happen when you least expect it and then when you know you are over her it would be less awkward when you do See her. best wishes
2007-10-25 14:41:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not be friends with her. I bet she does love you and misses you, she is not lying. But she wants the best of both worlds: you still in her life because she is not completely ready to let go yet and a new boyfriend to fulfill her relationship needs. I am not a mind reader but I think the chances of getting back together are slim and if it does happen it may not last. (you guys broke up for a reason) Just don't set yourself up to get hurt, be careful. Keep your guard up and keep looking for a new love if you decide to be her friend. She dumbed you so dont be so eager to take her back, everyone likes a challange.
2007-10-25 14:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by LoLo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were with this girl for so long, it's easy to see why you wouldn't think she would be happy with someone else. The truth is, that other guy she's with is offering her something she needs right now, which you weren't in the last months of your relationship.
Why not be just her friend? Go on with life, date others, so you can see what other girls have to offer. Who knows where all if it will lead for either of you?
If it is meant that the two of you to come back together, time will ensure that it will happen.
2007-10-25 14:30:09 · answer #6 · answered by RetroDiva65 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont need a girls opinion you need a guys opinion ive been through this kind of thing before.My ex girlfriend broke up with me which was my fault i was to blame and 2 weeks later she was ******* some other guy behind my back and when i found out it really hurt.i know mate it hurts bad you want her back but she isnt having any of it.Im afraid there is nothing you can do.If she did really like you she would be till interested and wuldnt be going with other guys.If your lucky you can try and prove that you still love her and she will accept it but if not you will just have to find sombody else to love you.
2007-10-25 14:32:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a story on things like this (because my relationships never really lasted that long, and either I end up not talking to my ex or we're just acquaintances).
Here is my opinion, if you are on here (Yahoo! Answers) asking us (random) people for advice, then I guess you really don't love her. You really don't need to ask us what we think or what did we do in similar problems. You need to decide this on yourself, you're not supposed to let us Yahoo people pick your path of life.
PS. I'm not being mean, smart, or anything.
2007-10-25 14:34:46 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is prolly doing this for attention from you. She broke up with you cause she met that new guy, started dating him, but wants you in her life for a back up plan. She's just keeping you on a leash..
When they break up in 1wk, 1 month, or 2 yrs you WILL be the first person she calls. I promise.
Forget about her, I know its hard believe me. But she will hurt you more in the future
2007-10-25 14:34:02 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she realizes that the other guy wasn't what she wanted, so now she wants to go back to you, girls often do that, leave one guy for another but try to hang on to the ex just in case things don't work out, she has you to fall back on. Don't let her play these mind games with you she is subject to do it again, find somebody else that values you more.
2007-10-25 14:32:58 · answer #10 · answered by onyx1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋