Divorced PArents?

Question

This afternoon during lunch my mom told me I can't call my dad anymore and can't talk to him unless he calls me I felt hurt that this is all b/c of the relationship between my mom and dad and they don't get along my relation ship w/ my dad is fine he helps not alot but it's something i don't know what to do rite now i'm holding it all my anger in but i know that my moms idea of distancing myself from my dad is wrong she says that he needs to realize he's missing something in his life idk it's so confusing doesn't make any sense to me

what to do?

Answer 1

Kill her, lol no only messing. This is unacceptable by your mother and she can't stop you from seeing your father and she knows that. Unless your father is an alcoholic or something like that you should call him anytime you want your mother needs to learn that its about you not her! Your mother is being selfish and needs to grow up.

Answer 2

Ah yes, the age old idea of trying to turn the kids against a parent after/during a divorce. You need to tell you mom just because she and your dad don't get along, isn't an excuse to try and turn you against him. He's your dad, don't let her do that to you.

Answer 3

Juicy sad fact that many parents use their children as bait with their spouses when things go sour. I would recommend that you talk with your mom and let her know how upset you are that she doesn't want you contacting your dad. Let her know that you are aware that they are not getting along at present but fact of live is that he is still your dad and that you love him and want to keep in contact with him. Certainly your mother isn't foolish enough to believe that you are planning to keep in contact with your father whether she wants you too or not. Mom needs to take off the blinders and deal with her problems with your dad on her own and leave you out of it. Continue to love both your parents and try not to get involved in their relationship. Best of luck.

Answer 4

You need to talk to your mom. Try to explain that you love her but you love your dad too. Tell her it is not fair to put you in the middle of their problem.

If that doesn't work, ask your dad if he can buy you a cell phone that you can use to call him.

Answer 5

My ex-husband left me and my Mom wanted me to go after him for everything because she was abused by my real Dad. I guess she is trying to make up for her by my situation. Tell your mom that you need a relationship with your dad. Good luck.

Answer 6

I think your mom is wrong.
She is trying to teach him a lessong that he is missing something in life. However, she is allowing her bitterness get between you and your dad and I think that that is very bad.

I think you need to explain to your mom and you need to keep a relationship with your dad and that it is very good for you to keep a relationship with your dad.

Good Luck.

Answer 7

Dang shame the kids get caught in the middle. Honestly, if you are underage, there's really nothing you can do that I'm aware of.

Answer 8

just tell her even though she wants him to realize what he is missing it ends up hurting you. look if she is head strong about you not seeing your father maybe the best thing is for you to ask to live with him.

Answer 9

Ask her to please understand that you love your Dad, and her problems should remain her problems with him. And to please not put you in the middle. Tell her it hurts you and makes you sad. Mom's shouldn't inflict pain like this on their children. We love our parents, divorced or not, in our own way.

Answer 10

How old are you? I suggest you show her the question you have written oin here.. Maybe that will get through to her.