Would You Let Your Child Live At Home After The Age Of 18?

Question

I moved out when I was 18, along with every one of my friends that I know of. We're all from a small town.
When I moved to the city, I met a guy who was still living at his parents' house when he was 28, paying nothing... only doing small chores around the house.
We bought a house together, have a baby... and now I'm realizing how irresponsible and immature he is when it comes to bills and living "in the real world."
I'm assuming it has to do with him living at home until such a ridiculous age.

How many of you would allow your child to stay at home, well after the age of 18.... why or why not?

Answer 1

I'm almost 17 now. My mom said that if I'm still living with her once I'm 20 she is going to charge me rent. She said she would wait until I was 20 because by then I would be in college should have a part time job and could have a shared apartment. She also wants me to help contribute to the electric bill and the food costs. She said that she is going to put aside the money she charges me for rent and when I move out she is going to put half of that money into a checking account for me and half into a high intrest savings account. So that way I have some money saved up for my own place and some money put away for the future. I thought was a great idea so I'm going to do that for my children someday. Thanks mom!

Answer 2

That is something you should have picked up on when you first met him.

I don't know if you should say right at the age of 18 or right when you graduate high school. I believe that it depends on the individual and their maturity. If someone has a job and is responsible at that age then get out in the real world and give it a shot.

Some people mature at a slower rate and therefore should not be let out of the parents house for example the father of your child.

Do I think 28 is too old to live at home?? Yes! A good range is from 18-23 years of age.

Good luck and I hope your boyfriend has a job to support his family.

Answer 3

I feel your pain. When I met my husband he was 30 and living at home. I know I know what was I thinking. We have been married over 11 years now and have one child. We love each other very much. I wish people would have told me that most marriages are not equal. If you can get past that you will have better coping skills. He is very loving and affectionate, communicates, doesn't drink to get drunk and would rather be with me than anyone. { I could use a break} ha ha so when I think of the stuff that pisses me off I have to look at the long run that I have an awesome companion for the future. He was living at home because he had moved from a different state a few months before.


For our child unless she is going to college and working I think they should be on their own. They cant grow unless they have to fend for themselves. They will always be a child at "home" I have a sister age 24 with two little kids living with our parents and it is driving everyone crazy.

Answer 4

I think his attitude has little something to do with him still living in his parents house despite being 28... For instance, in our culture , children live with their parents until they get married and they move out to start their own family. The typical age for marriage is around 25. But they help their parents in the chores and in the bills. And those children seem to grow as responsible adults and they're not as immature as the guy you're talking about. I guess the problem is the guy's attitude, he was very dependent to his parents.

I would allow my child to stay at home even he/she is beyond 18? Why not?

Answer 5

I would let my child stay at home beyond the age of 18 if my child was in college and working at least part time. I would give them time to get on their feet and decide what they wanted to do with themselves. As long as they helped around the house, respected the house, and conducted themselves like I rasied them it would be fine. Children live a t home for numerous of reasons, just this fact alone does not mean they are irresponsible or cannot maintain themselves in the real world.

Answer 6

Well, I certainly wouldn't let my child live with me until the age of 28! If s/he were attending college in the same town and wanted to save money on the dorms or something like that, it would probably be ok. BUT until age 28?!? No wonder you've had problems with this guy. . .most people are READY to move out by age 18 (if not before). Sounds like he was babied and sheltered my momma and daddy. . .probably doesn't even know how to balance a checkbook or do laundry.

Answer 7

My children are always welcome in my home. Once they become and adult then they will have to start become a bit more responsible for themselves. They can pay a bill or some rent. They have to learn personal responsibility and that is our job as parents. It sounds like this guy was just mooching off his parents for an extra 10 years. Living at home with his parents is no excuse for being a mooch. I don’t stand by the logic that being 18 makes you an adult. You are an adult under the eyes of the law, but everyone progress’s at different rates. I moved out before I was 18, but I was ready to be out in the world.

Answer 8

WOW 28 years old is ridiculous. And that is exactly the reason he has a hard time with things....because his parents never put any importance on making his own money and paying his own bills because they did it for him for sooooo long....his parents babied him for far too long of a time.

I moved out at the age of 22 but I paid for my car and gas and all that....I worked and went to college at the same time. Im on my own now and pay bills and all.....Its a common responsibility all adults MUST have to survive in life. His parents never made that clear to him when they footed the bill for everything for so long.

Good luck with things. Just make it known to him that if he wants to live life with you then he has to be an adult not only by age but by his ACTIONS!

Answer 9

I would and have allowed my son to return to the nest when he was 19 years old. He had just moved back to town and was trying to straighten out his life and stay off of drugs at the time. We were able to do some much needing bonding and learned many things about each other. The fact that he was aware of how I abused drugs and alcohol during my youth also helped him to be open and honest with me regarding his substance use. He was responsible and held a job and did many things around the house also. But to baby a child over that age is probably not doing them any favour as they need to learn many life lessons on their own.

Answer 10

VERY good question. I guess there is not really a set age. However, I think I would teach my child at a VERY young age about work. That way, when they hit 15, they are ready to do things correctly. I am 30, at home ,but will out soon. I have been in and out of my folks house since I was 21. I plan to never return here. So yes, teach them how to work and that way, when they are older, everything will be ok as far as them living.