does that make sense??
2007-10-25 07:08:39 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the trust is gone cuz he has cheated on me about 3 times now, and i know he will do it again but i just love him so much i would die without him. my mind is so messed up with this that i just hope whoever he does cheat on me with he doesnt have feelings for, that its JUST sex. but i love him to death.
2007-10-25 07:20:58 · update #1
ABSOLUTELY NO!!!!!!!!
NO TRUST = NO LOVE
2007-10-25 07:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by STROMBOLI-KRAKATOA JR 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Yes, you can be "in love" and not trust the person all at the same time. Unfortunately, this is not all the love you can give, and if they are not trustworthy, then it is not all the love that they can give you. This will be a very difficult relationship and it will be a struggle. Trust doesn't make up love, but it should be a big part of it and an even bigger part is trustworthiness.
2007-10-25 07:13:12 · answer #2 · answered by sadmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been dating my current BF for 5 years now we have been dating since high school
For a long time I was soo jelous and i have 2 admit at times i still am. We have had many fights due to my jelousy and my incapability to trust him. I have really tried to stop this flaw i have & I really feel that our realationship would've ended a while ago due to this flaw. I am glad i have given my trust to him he has really earned and never challenged my trust.
Its hard to trust people now adays but try to give people the benefit of the doubt. Just always b on ur toes!
2007-10-25 07:15:19 · answer #3 · answered by MiniMargarita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation! I am so in love with my boyfriend. But it's really hard for me to trust him because of how many times I've been let down by men. But the longer we're together the more I start to trust him, because he's not doing anything to make me not trust him. He just keeps gaining my trust. It just takes time. And you have to realize that you just have to live life to the fullest and just enjoy the ride. Yes, you will get hurt, but that's part of love. So just enjoy what you got, while you have it.
2007-10-25 07:14:43 · answer #4 · answered by heather_wind2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Makes total sense. And there are a lot of reasons why this could be. You want to make trust happen, I assume...
Communication, talking, expressing what you feel, what you need, and where you'd like to see the relationship go would be helpful. Talk about things that bother you, ask what bothers them. Find out what they need and what they want from life, from your relationship.
The more connection and openness you have with each other, the more trust you'll have, and the more amazing your relationship will be!
2007-10-25 07:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by ktkansas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe that love would be possible in such a relationship. How can you truly love someone that you don't trust 100%. It is a bit different when it is a child or something and you know that they are capable of taking things or stealing from you, you continue to love them and accept them with this bad habit until they outgrow it. But in a loving relationship trust is very important and necessary for love to continue and blossom.
2007-10-25 07:12:43 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most certainly you can, But it is, "more of a compliment to be
trusted then to be loved." Love and trust go hand and hand
It makes for a better relationship with both. You can loose love without with out trust.
2007-10-25 07:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by jenny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can and I have. If you think you will never trust again then you need to move on. If it is because they cheated then they will cheat again.
give yourself some respect and not settle.
I left that relationship because trust or lack thereof tainted it. I now have a wonderful relationship where we both feel trust is an important must to have.
You can love again.
2007-10-25 07:15:40 · answer #8 · answered by MARILYNN S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's possible, but the Bible says it's good when a man finds a wife. God should pick your mate.
Proverbs 18:22-
He who finds a wife finds what is good
and receives favor from the LORD.
It's also written in 2 Corinthians 6:14:
"Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?" (KJV)
This means Saved (Born Again Christians) and Unsaved people shouldn't marry.
2007-10-25 07:22:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT makes complete sense. sometimes we get caught up in the way we want the relationship to really be, but sort of denie what it really is and make ourselves think we are really in love and its what you want. But the truth of the matter is if you can't trust your partner where exactly do you think the relationship is gonna end. Obviously you have reason to doubt. Just let it go if it was ment to be it will be. It sucks but !!!
2007-10-25 07:21:12 · answer #10 · answered by cookingstar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love and trust are two different elements, distinct and must be treated as such. But one thing is certain -that you cannot love a soul you can't trust. Love is trust in custody of another who has equally agreed to protect and trust you for what and who you are. Care, must,however, be taken as thereare false love seekers who claimed to be loving someone only for what they stand to selfishly gain. For there to be true and genuine love, the element called Trust must be unassumbly consumated.
2007-10-25 07:20:41 · answer #11 · answered by Great Shallom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋