Me and my boyfriend have recently got engaged but currently both still live with our parents, as we are saving for a deposit as we dont wanna waste money renting.
I've been recieveing a fair bit on critism from people who say that you shouldn't even consider getting engaged until you have your own property. I was just wondering if this is the norm.
2007-10-25 06:33:01 · 26 answers · asked by Kelly M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Buy the house AFTER the wedding or else make sure that the deed to the house is titled in both names.
2007-10-25 06:56:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I have been engaged 7 months and both still live at home with our parents. I am finishing school, so we did not want to get a house until I was working full time, which will be in a few months. It is perfectly acceptable to be engaged before buying a house, and I think your decision to save money so that you can buy rather than rent is very wise and well thought out. Congrats and Good Luck!
2007-10-25 13:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetheart14 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Most people can't afford houses. I got engaged and married and my husband and I are currently living in his parents house saving up money for a few years before we find a place to live.
2007-10-25 17:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by Manny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard that in my life. There is NO WAY I would get into something like buying property with just a boyfriend. I don't even feel comfortable having the same cell phone plan with my fiance until we are married. Call me crazy but I have too many things go wrong with people doing stuff like that before marriage. It's always best to wait until you're married before buying any major purchases together. Any lawyer will tell you that.
2007-10-25 14:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by Peace 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I lived with our parents until we got married, then we got an apartment, it was the best thing we did because we saved so much money doing it that way. We just closed on our house in July (3 yrs after we were married) so don't worry about not having a house right away.
2007-10-25 14:36:36 · answer #5 · answered by Jellybean had her little bean 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard that you have to have a house before you have a husband. In fact, it is quite the opposite where I come from. Right now my husband and I are renting until he finishes his job. There is nothing wrong with staying with your parents to save money as long as everyone involved is okay with the arrangement. Don't worry about what other people think, in the end it is between you and your honey.
2007-10-25 14:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by vaya 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I still lived with my parents and my husband lived in the barracks when we got engaged. We rented a house shortly before we got married, and bought a house two years later.
I don't see why you need to own a home before getting engaged.
2007-10-25 13:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by War Games AM 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I have been engaged for almost a year and a half and have been renting longer. I think it's best to see what living with the other person is like before you decide to marry them or not. Little quirks and annoyances come up from two people living together that you wouldn't think of when you live separately! I'd say it's best to live together for atleast 6 months before you decide any big commitments like a house or marriage!
2007-10-25 13:40:53 · answer #8 · answered by chaychayolei 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Don't believe them. My husband and I got engaged first and then started looking for our first home about 6 months before the wedding date. We bought the house together and started fixing things up in the few months before the wedding and got it ready to be lived in. We didn't actually live in the house until after we returned from our honeymoon. It was the perfect way to start our lives together.
2007-10-25 14:54:06 · answer #9 · answered by Marra's mommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is stupid that people tell you that. If you are financially stable and he can support you- even if you have to rent for a while, then get engaged.
You should not own property together unless you are married or close to it. I have seen too many people get burned from buying things together before they were married, and then they called off the engagement.
I think you are very smart. Don't live together until you are married- that is even smarter.
2007-10-25 14:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋