i finished my boyfriend on wednesday, then kissed a guy on wednesday night, thinking it would help me get over him faster. i have NEVER done this before so please dont think i mess around lol. anyways the reason i finished with my b/f was because he cheated on me, treat me like sh*t, did stuff to me in my sleep and took explicit pictures of me when i was asleep. anyways, my question is, after he did all this is it normal that i still feel heartbroken? i was with him for 2 years and we got engaged. im 18, anyone know what i can do to cheer myself up? thanks
2007-10-25 05:36:20 · 32 answers · asked by ~"*Make Me A Mammy*"~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thankyou for all the help.. the only reason i got with him in the first place is because my parents split me and my ex boyfriend up (as he raped me - im not doin too well am i?) and he was there for me. i thought he was nice and got with him 2 weeks later. i think i just went on the rebound and got stuck?? anyway thankyou all soooooo much for being so helpfull. i did tell him i would go to the police for the photos if he did it again (this is the fourth time i found them) but i'm just scared incase they say it was my fault that he took them or he's deleted them?? thanks for the support everyone i feel better that people know what im going through x
2007-10-25 05:55:07 · update #1
Yeah...don't immediately date someone else. Residual feelings from the past relationship will surface REGARDLESS of what the other guy did and it's going to have an effect on your current partner. This is why people make time for themselves and being happy staying single for a while before being with someone else.
2007-10-25 05:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by Class 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How and why would you get engaged with someone who mentally and sexually abused you? And if he really treated you as terribly as you say he did then it's good that you left him. Possibly the only reason why you still have feelings for him is because you were with him for so long.
As far as what can cheer you up, just go hang out with friends, and don't try to dive head first into any relationships like you just did. It sounds like doing so will only bring back memories of your old boyfriend and that's not something you should try to do. Just busy yourself with activities that are less likely to evoke feelings for him.
2007-10-25 05:44:08 · answer #2 · answered by Deveran 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not an expert but it seems normal that you still feel heartbroken EVEN after all those horrible things he did to you. You were engaged and that sounds like a serious relationship.
As far as getting over him I think it just takes time. Don't fall victim to other rude dudes who are looking to get laid. They WILL use the opportunity to their advantage. You're young so have fun and keep yourself busy with positive activities.. workout, swim, or have girls night out (only girls)
2007-10-25 05:43:29 · answer #3 · answered by LV 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a daughter that went through the same thing basically.
She thought that her life was over, and moped around the house for the longest time. She wouldn't take our suggestions to go out and forget about it.
Well, finally she met another guy at school, and she was fine again. She just needed a replacement for the jerk that she was going with.
It is not as serious as you think it is now. Just start looking around and you'll find someone else shortly.
good luck.
2007-10-25 05:42:17 · answer #4 · answered by Fordman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think it was the best thing you could of done (breaking up) and that much better things would come out in the future, perhaps a nice boyfriend that does really care about you.
Don't worry everyone is been heart broken, you will get over it, try to do things like a sport, study or something else you like to help you out in getting it out of you head.
2007-10-25 05:43:33 · answer #5 · answered by TXgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MAKE OUT WITH ANOTHER GUY!!! I'm 18 and in a 2 yr long relationship. We broke up temporarily in the summer and I kissed a guy that night we broke up, and then hooked up with my best friend's brother the next day. I fell hard for her brother and that helped me get over losing my boyfriend. My bf never took pictures of me in my sleep, so just remember that your ex is crazy. If he wants to lead another girl on, gor for it, cuz you wont be there witness it! For me, the only way to help get over it would be to keep seeing this other guy!
2007-10-25 05:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is normal for you to feel bad. You didn't end things because you weren't interested any more or because you found someone new. You ended the relationship because he betrayed you. You feel very hurt. Your kissing another guy was a way to try to hurt him the way he hurt you.
About the only way you can feel better is to tell yourself that you got out of a bad relationship and they you are better off.
2007-10-25 05:41:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly take your time to process the relationship. It is similar to that of grief processing- anger, sadness, etc. then till you reach acceptance. If you hurry then you won't fully learn from your relationship and are bound to make similar mistakes.
While processing spend time reconnecting with your girlfriends. I am sure that while you were in a relationship they missed you. They will have a ton of fun things for you to do together to reconnect and move on.
Good luck!
2007-10-25 05:41:20 · answer #8 · answered by julie744527 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow, what a jerk! Well, in times like these I would say to just keep yourself occupied. Do things to keep your mind off of him. Hangin out with friends as much as possible usually works. Try to have some fun. Nothing wrong with dating other guys as well.
2007-10-25 05:41:07 · answer #9 · answered by nuniestar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you gotta do is buy yourself a box of chocolates. Buy your fav sitcom and sit there for 2 days watching it and eating your chocolate. Then have a bath and get on with your life. 18 is still young baby and theres plenty more fish in the sea.
2007-10-25 05:40:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋