How do you feel about others correcting your child?

Question

I know the "It sounds good to say answer" is yes, but are you really okay with someone correcting your child? I'm fine with it especially when I'm not around. I do believe it takes a village......

Answer 1

In public, if I were already handling the situation and someone was just trying to be nosy, it would aggravate me. It just depends on how the person was "correcting" my child. If they weren't overstepping their bounds, cursing, touching my child, etc.. it wouldn't bother me too much, especially if they had done something to that person or something that I didn't see. I don't think that their correcting my child should be any more than a verbal warning though. If it required more than that, I would like to take it into my own hands.

Of course, at school or somewhere like that, I would hope that proper procedures were followed to discipline my child......

Answer 2

Oooo....what a question. Now this is tough. Of course no one likes the idea of someone else correcting your child, but it does need to be done on occasions. The problem tho is the way the corrections are handed out. I do not permit anyone to yell at or physically hit my child....this in my book is a big no-no. However, as long as the punishment is in another form (time outs, grounding from certain things during their stay, etc.), I don't mind.

I guess what I'm trying to say, it that I don't care if corrections are made, as long as it's along the same lines of punishments that we carry out. It's best in a child's life to have that consistency. However, for those parents who do tap their child's bottoms, I believe that should only be done by a parent.
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Oh, I completely forgot...yeah, this is completely different if one of the parents are actually present. Then it is always the parents responsibility. As some one else, you should tell the parent what the child is doing, and let them dish the punishment out. Before I was only speaking of, if the child was staying at someone's house or at school, w/out a parent present.

Okay...think I'm done...haha

Answer 3

If I'm unaware of something that's going on then I really want other parents to correct my child then let me know what's going on. Like you, if I'm not around I'm all for other people correcting my child. I agree it takes a village to raise a child. Truth is; you can't see everything your child does wrong. Most of the time it's better for the problem to be corrected that instant rather then waiting for someone to tell me. However, I would be upset if someone corrected my child and didn't tell me about it.

Answer 4

I have no problem with it at all obviously if I am not around, or if my child is in danger or is endangering another child. Or any other major issue. But I have to admit if I'm present and its a little thing (like she's not sharing, etc.) then it does annoy me if someone corrects my child. I consider myself to be a conscientious parent, and I'm very strict and watch them carefully, so I will definitely discipline them. If nothing else for consistency sake I like to make sure discipline is the same.

Answer 5

It really depends on what she's doing... if it is endangering her or anyone else...

And how they go about correcting her. If someone attempts to discipline my child in a way that I or her father don't. She may not understand. Communication is a huge thing when you're trying to teach a child wrong from right.

In general I'm ok with it... I hate correcting other people's children though. I feel like there's a line there that I shouldn't cross without permission.

Answer 6

I tend to get a little Mama Bear-ish when other people correct my children. For that reason, I usually make sure to stay right on top of them at all times :) If it were a case where someone would get hurt or something like that, I would probably not be as defensive as someone asking my children to be quiet or something. In that same sense, I try to avoid correcting other people's children at all costs unless it appears that their parents are ignoring the situation or are unaware of the situation.

Answer 7

If it's someone in my family or even say extended family, by all means do it. If the hubby and I aren't around and my son needs correcting, of course this is alright and that's a given in my family.

Yet I have a friend (who has no children) who seems to think it's completely alright to "correct" my son when we're out shopping or hanging out. It irritates me to no end.

It's like she jumps on the chance to do it and that's annoying. If the parents are around, it's their business and their child, they should do the correcting.

Answer 8

I agree that it takes a village, but every village has its village idiots.... So while there are some people who I trust to correct my children, I am not comfortable with complete strangers or some people who I believe are not the right roles models to be addressing behavioral problems with my children...

Answer 9

Generally speaking, there should be permission, unless it is needed immediately and the parent is not around. I have had a mother tell me to correct her son, if he needed it. But I would not because she would not! I told her so! The father would, but the mother would not! The father was in another Country as an engineer. She would bring him over allot to visit. He, as most children, are precious, but they always will test a parent and others to see how far they can go! God bless, Earl

Answer 10

It depends on the entire situation. There have been several times that someone else has said something to one of my kids and it really pissed me off. When someones says something before I even get the chance. If I am right there then Its my place to take care of it. If Im not there then the adult should handle it.
& if they are very gruff or too hard on my child. That makes me mad! that has happened before, too.
Most of the time I am fine with it, though.