Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 5 years now. she is 110% committed to me and I love her as she loves me. I never cheated on my gf and she never did as well.
two weeks ago, I met this girl at my church. my parents are close with her parents, and since she just moved to ny, she dont have any friends, so her parents asked me to be her godbrother and show her around.
she sure dont act like a godsister. she picks me up after work, treat me out, calls me at night... she gives excuses calling me late at night because her computer dont work well... when i go there next day, its fine... she is aware that I have a g/f and dated for 5 years but apparently it seems like she dont give a fukc.
i dont know what i feel about her, but i know for sure i dont want to hurt my g/f. how do i put a stop to this? it seems like im trapped. i'm afraid she will attack me (sexually) and i will give in. i dont want to hurt her (godsister) feelings either... WHAT SHOULD II DO!!!!!!!
2007-10-25 04:45:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u guys are right... i needed some nasty harsh words and i got plenty of it. i will make sure that godsister would stay as godsister...
2007-10-25 05:07:19 · update #1
I think you should explain the situation to your girlfriend. She will understand. Just explain to her that you are afraid this female will attack you sexually. Maybe you and your girlfriend should sat down with this girl and explain to her that there is no coming in between yal. If harsh words are necessary than let it out but unless this girl starts acting a fool play it calm.
Also another thing I would do about this is talk to your parents about this. They may not believe you but it’s worth a try. Tell them that you don’t want to show her around anymore because you are losing quality time with your girlfriend. Try anything to keep your distance from this so called GODSISTER.
Goodluck man, I wish the best for you!!
2007-10-26 02:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to back off & mean it. What do you mean "I'm afraid of hurting her feelings?" You sound like you actually mean "I want to bang her but I don't want to get caught." You don't just "give in" to stuff like this, at least not the way you are describing it. Don't be a douchebag. Either break up with your current girl and bag the godsister or tell the godsister to take a hike and stand by your decision. Be a man instead of a whiny bag of indecision.
If she doesn't back off, then tell her to take a hike and avoid her like the plague. I think that you are giving her signs to continue her little advances. If she doesn't respect that you have a girlfriend and that you aren't going to cheat on her, then don't worry about hurting her feelings as a godsister. Obviously that means nothing to her.
I can say that while I've been tempted, I've never cheated on a relationship. I always ended it and then started seeing the other girl. To do anything else shows a lack of respect for all that we had before.
2007-10-25 11:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl probably just likes putting you through this. In the end, if you do end up cheating, she won't be long term and you will be single. Tell your parents, and the 'godsister' that you are busy and you have things to do with your girlfriend and besides, your girlfriend doesn't like how close you and your godsister are getting. You need to cling to your girlfriend as much as possible otherwise you will end up without her. If you are left in a situation where you are stuck with your godsister and you are about to give in, think of living the rest of your life without your girlfriend for that one moment and I'm sure that will put you off.
2007-10-25 11:52:09 · answer #3 · answered by Nic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a man and just tell her! If you even have to think about not being able to control yourself with your godsister, then you obviously don't love your girlfriend as much as you thought! I bet your girlfriend doesn't have thoughts like that! If your that worried, tell your girlfriend that your godsister is hitting on you and stuff and you don't know what to do! She will respect that you came to her and maybe she can get the girl to stop because your having a hard time doing it!
2007-10-25 11:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by autum_mist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should you do?? Are you a man, or a helpless little worm?
If you don't want to cheat on your gf, then DONT. If you're afraid that you're too weak to resist your 'godsister' if she makes a pass at you, then simply make it clear to her up front that you're committed to your gf and that you're NOT looking for anything else. What's the problem here? You CAN'T be so weak and spineless that you're afraid of being victimized by some random girl. If you truly are that weak, then tell your gf about it and let her go to find someone who isn't.
2007-10-25 11:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell ur stupid godsister to get over herself and that you have a girlfriend. i think if you feel uncomfortable around your godsister because shes hitting on you and calling you and stuff, you should probably keep your distance from now on. like, when she calls, say "oh, i have to go to (insert place or party or whatever) ttyl bye" and if she picks you up after work, tell her you already have a ride. ur gf trusts you and if you break her trust...man is she gonna be piiiiiiiisssssssed.
2007-10-25 11:51:39 · answer #6 · answered by Halley T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u dont allow her how can she dare to behave more than a godsister to u m8 ?
tell her seriously that she is JUST a godsister to u and u r happy with ur gf and if she wants to be ur godsyster give u a call and else ask her to plz not damage ur relationship with ur gf.
btw u MUST tell ur gf about this ***** , girls can solve it better :D
2007-10-25 11:53:11 · answer #7 · answered by Salman T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truely love your gf you wouldn't even think of cheating. Just because a different girl shows you some attention doesn't give you the right to step out on YOUR girl. What if a guy was doing the same thing to your gf....how would you feel if she cheated on you? If this chick doesn't understand how much you love your gf then you need to set her straight! If she doesn't get it then tell her you can't hang out any more. If she can't respect your gf then she doesn't respect you. Get a clue and grow up.
2007-10-25 11:52:43 · answer #8 · answered by nicknateky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHOW SOME SELF-CONTROL! You are making us guys look bad. So your saying that any girl that looks decent that wants to screw, you have to sleep with? I hope you sleep with the church girl, get caught, and then your fantastic girlfriend that you don't appreciate and obviously don't love can find someone that can treat her right.
2007-10-25 11:54:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW--- First of all I would limit the amount of time with her and ask her to call the house at a reasonable time. If you want insurance then you should tell your girl. Not everythign just tell her you need to get rid of this chick because she gets clingy and needy and you are tired of her. Trust me your girl will get rid of her
2007-10-25 11:51:22 · answer #10 · answered by nyjae 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋