I am trying to figure out what is going on with my boyfriends daughter. He reciently moved out of his house and is getting a divorce, his wife has some mental problems. I have heard the mother telling the 2 year old daughter to tell him to come home. Now apparantly the 2 year old is making up elaborate songs about how she wishes her dad was coming home. The mother swears that she is not telling the little one to do this. I have talked to a couple child psychologists and they have both said that this was obvously coorsed, but I would like to get some parents thoughts. I have a 9 year old and when she was 2 she would not have done that.
2007-10-25 04:41:38 · 4 answers · asked by Brianna T 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Ok so apparantly I'm not clear about this. I don't think that there is anything wrong with it. I know that she will miss her father and she should. My daughter missed him when he left us when she was that age, yes its the same man. I just want to make sure that the mother isn't skrewing up the daughter. I really do care about her and I want to make sure that she is not being manipulated into doing these things. My daughter missed him when he left but she didn't do these things.
2007-10-25 05:17:04 · update #1
Thank you alll for your answers. I really care about the little one and we just want whats best for her. If you could have heard the song and the detail that went into it you could better understand why I'm asking this question. There were parts of it that were saying that he abandoned them, and parts that say that if he loved her that he would stay with her mom. It just seems to be too much for a 2 yr old to be coming up with on her own. Again, thank you and please don't judge me, this is my daughters father too and I really do care about his other daughter, I would love to have her living with us, but thats not right to her mother.
2007-10-25 07:43:40 · update #2
Whats wrong with a child wanting her father to be home? I dont think theres anything strange about a child wanting their family to be whole, or atleast their father to be in their lives every day.
If you already know that the mother was encouraging her to ask him home, then she already knows that where he is is away from them. Thats more than enough to spur a desire in her heart.
She's not retarded, she's two. She can miss her dad and want him home. Theres nothing wrong with that.
2007-10-25 04:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A 2 yr old does not have the mental capacity to come up with all of this on her own. The mother is definately putting the thoughts and the songs in her head. Dad needs to put a stop to it immediately before the little one reaches the age where she really understands what her mother is coercing her to do.
2007-10-25 04:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by mrsdeli 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kids have their own feelings. Once they're old enough to speak they're old enough to voice how they feel about things. It's possible that it's working both ways. The mom's telling the child to tell her daddy to come home but also the child probably really does miss her father and is just singing it .
2007-10-25 05:38:52 · answer #3 · answered by adrianne M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
probably picking up on the moms influence or maybe mom is singing that stuff and kid is hearing it..
parents who put kids in the middle are terrible, but I suspect it happens 98% of the time...
2007-10-25 04:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by MandB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋