Hi everyone. My girlfriend has this guy friend whom she knows from her grad schools and they have been friends for over two years now. I've been with my g/f for over 07 months now and things are okay between us. However, I find it really annoying whenever my g/f hangs out or talk about this guy. Lately, when I was away for two days, I called her to say hi and found out that she was home alone with that guy all day long to work on their school project or something. Should I be worried about this guy hang around with my g/f too much? What should/ can I do? Please help! Thanks.
2007-10-25 04:38:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most people here will probably tell you to relax and let your girl do what she wants. Thats the popular thing; however I wouldn't tolerate it. You need to talk to your girlfriend about this guy and let her know that you are not comfortable with her being around him by herself. There is nothing wrong with that. If she gets defensive or angry that you request that, then it shows that a good portion of her heart belongs to him and not to you.
It's not being selfish its just protecting what is supposed to be yours. Her heart. She may not realize the damage to the relationship that that can do, so i'm not saying she's evil or anything like that. I'm just saying that its a bad situation for her to be in.
What if he try's to seduce her? she already trusts him so it might be easier to happen. Do not let this continue. She's your girl, she shouldnt be alone with other guys, just like you shouldnt be alone with other girls. Its just asking for trouble
2007-10-25 04:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by bakerchris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should have already told her how you feel about her and her guy friend hanging out together from the very start. You shouldn't blame her if you complain and she gets defensive about it when you didn't open it up before. She might be thinking that it was Ok with you for her to hang out with her friend.
You two should probably talk it over and convey your feelings.
On a side note, maybe they are just teaching each other how to use cosmetics. Don't you think he's a she?
2007-10-25 04:54:55 · answer #2 · answered by mountain_laurel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that ur paranoid but give it a chance. Maybe she is talking to him like she would any friend! Dont get upset by it! She is with you! Another thing the longer u are with someone the more feelings u have for them! Maybe ur a bit scared that u will let her in and she will break ur heart! Its natural! But most of the time it doesnt happen that way! U need to let her in and dont be so uptight about it! When u first met her ur feelings werent really strong which is why u didnt notice these things before but now ur feelings are getting stronger so u r more protective over ur relationship and thats y u now see it! But i seriously doubt that anything would happen there!
2016-04-10 04:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you guys should sit down and talk about it. Express how you feel when he is around but don't get angry of up set. It needs to be an open conversation. She needs to see if you are going to go anywhere seriously that she has to focus on having a one on one guy relationship with you. It isn't a good idea to be around another guy alone when your in a relationship with someone else. She needs to compromise if she is with him it needs to be public or people have to be with them. Being alone just leave opportunity for someone to get hurt.
2007-10-25 04:44:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be worried but you should keep your eyes and ears open because you are a man and you know what a man is capable. If you trust your girlfriend then you should trust that she can handle herself if he tries to make a move. You are fairly new so I wouldn't make any demands if I were you.
2007-10-25 04:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by nyjae 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that there is anything to worry about. My best friend is a guy and though my boyfriend does get jealous, he trusts mea nd he knows that I would never do anything. I think you should trust your girlfriend
2007-10-25 04:51:01 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabeth R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmm maybe you should look into it it depends on what type of gurl she is cuz i kno i got a few guy friends actually more than a few n i have done somthing with them lol soooooo i dont knooo
2007-10-25 04:44:22 · answer #7 · answered by kandi gurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they wanted to be together, they would have already been together and you never would have been in the picture at all.
2007-10-25 04:42:14 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u should trust her but if things starts to get werid talk to her
2007-10-25 04:43:40 · answer #9 · answered by Mother of 3 boyz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont worry, only if you see signs that either of them is interested, then worry
2007-10-25 04:44:57 · answer #10 · answered by kary f 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋