Do you agree with children being beaten?

Question

Do you agree with parents beating their children? What is your religious attitude to this? Did you get beaten as a child, and how does it feel for you now? Share your opinions and experiences please.

Ok, when I say 'beaten' I mean like when your parent gets the belt out and starts whipping you with it. Like 'beaten' you know? A spank on the butt lasts for 30 seconds but a beating could last up to 5 to 10 minutes or more than that.

Answer 1

as a child,i was beaten for any mistake i did,for my grades at school or anything,actually i was clever but i dnt like that..
and i swore that when i get married i won't beat my children specially for study because every person has certain abilities and not all children can be the top..

beating left an impact on me and my sister,we both lacked confidence as we grew up specially my older sister,till now she can't ask my father for sth coz she's afraid for him to say no,and she's 23 and independent,
another thing,it really made us hate home,there are many times that my sister dreamt of leaving the house...
i actually have a phobia from throwing up because my dad once beat me because i couldn't do a math exercise so i was sick to my stomach and fluids was coming from everywhere and i was sick for 2 days,since then i get scared whenever i feel I'm about to vomit....

but anyway i never hated my father,maybe it's because of him am good at school,but i wished there was a better way to do this,and he learnt that it's not right too,as he rarely beats me little sister,he said he can't raise her up like he did with us,because kids now are more independent....
saying this,i'm afraid that i'd be like him,so am keen on insisting on the idea that i will never ever beat my child,there are many good kids and they turned out to be succeful men and women and they were never beaten in their lives..
i think as a muslim,i've never found any rule that allow beating kids,and the prophet Mohamad(pbuh) never mentioned that he beat his children,on the contrairy his daughter Fatma(rAa) was really close to kim and he used to kiss her between her eyes and he asked for her when he was dieing and told her that she'd be the first to join him and she was happy that they'll meet in heaven...

and by beating i mean hit..physical

Answer 2

What are you calling beaten? do you mean giving children a spanking on the butt as discipline? If that is what you are talking about, then yes I do support it. I as a child received many deserving spanking with a belt or switch. But not one time out of anger but always out of love. Do I spank my kids? you bettca, there is nothing that gets their full attention than just the treat of a spanking.

Now to beaten? no, no child should be 'hit' slapped or hurt. Busting ones bottom will lead to an improvement in attitude and behavior, beating is not the way to go.

Answer 3

I've already answer a Q like this before. I was disciplines when I was younger but here's what I think. Parents should use physical punishment a last resort. When we're young we're like animal somehow so pat in the back or maybe an ear twitch or something can help us realise what we're doing wrong. I don't like the idea but sometimes we need to do it, otherwise we get what we have know spoiled children who are told to do whatever they want, we set no limits and they go loose without any kind or instruction. Humans tend to learn the hard way.
Now, I'd like to make clear that beating children for no reason and even with a reason but beating them brutally is just mean and wrong. Like a said, something soft maybe a slap is as far as I would go. But kicking them or so, I don't know... I don't think I would do that.

Answer 4

"Beaten"??
There are different definitions of this word, especially when it comes to children.
No, I was never pistol-whipped, nobody ever broke any bones, or drew any blood...I can't even remember having been bruised...but I'm sure that I was spanked if I misbehaved.
In my opinion, people who are horrified at the idea of spanking a child never had any of their own.
I have attended a "parenting class" which purported to teach alternative methods of discipline...my favorite was the one about making the kid kneel on rice that you had scattered on the floor. Yeah...that works! The only thing that was never explained was...how to get the kid to willingly kneel on the rice?
And these folks thought spanking was cruel!!

Yes, dear, I do agree with spanking a child who has been disobedient or disrespectful. Sometimes it is the ONLY form of discipline that actually gets the point across.

Answer 5

I wouldn't say beaten, but I was punished with a whip, belt etc. I have been a better person for it. My parents did not whipped me every time I did something wrong, but I was verbally corrected time and time again and when that did not do the trick, the belt caught my attention. Today I can truly say, that that saved my life. I am a mother of two and my children was brought up the said way. Now my children would thanked me for the whip. The most important part of all, it was done in love. The verbal abuse will always leave a deeper mark than the whipping.

Answer 6

I do not agree with beating, I agree with smacking - the two are totally different and can't be pigeon-holed into one box.

I was smacked when I was (very) naughty as a child (a light tap that did not leave a red hand mark - as is legal in this country) and I certainly benefitted from it. I grew up to have manners, self discipline and respect for others which is sorely lacking in this country. My boyfriend was treated the same and thinks exactly the same.

In fact, I wasn't smacked often as most of the time the fear of being smacked was greater - not the pain but the mild humiliation.

Parents are too liberal these days with chastisement hence society's problems. I will certainly use the same methods as my parents when I have kids.

Answer 7

No. I don't think that accomplishes anything other than your children hating you for it. There are other ways to discipline your child. I do believe in discipline.
No, I was never beaten as a child. My parents were loving parents who talked to me when there were problems, which I don't remember many problems. I don't beat my kids, and I know they love me, and I love them.
When I was young, I had a friend who lived next door to me. His mother used to whip him with a belt or a cord of some kind. He had lash marks on his back. I remember crying when I saw them, and I didn't understand why she did it. I can't imagine how HE felt! I will never forget that. I'm sure he hasn't either. That was a time, though, when people could do that without being arrested for it. Lucky for her.

Edit: For those of you who say "Spare the rod, and spoil the child", let me say this:
Do you actually know what the Bible means by a "Rod"? It was a stick or a staff shepherds used to GUIDE their sheep. Not HIT THEM WITH IT! It means to gently GUIDE YOUR CHILD, NOT BEAT THEM!
Jesus said, "Whoever harms one of these little ones would be better off if he tied a millstone around his neck, and cast himself into the sea!" So, do you think Jesus wants you to hit your kid?? I don't.

Answer 8

It is necessary in certain situations.

If the child is out right giving you an attitude and saying things they shouldn't be saying, hitting, biting, doing anything that is dangerous they should get put over your knee and spanked, in front of all of their friends.

Actually hurting the child is wrong.

I was not beaten as a child but I never did anything worth a beating. I respected my parents to their face all throughout my teenage years.

Answer 9

I do not agree with children being beaten though i believe that kids should be disciplined. As a Christian, bible talks about not sparing rod but at the same i feel that parents should not beat kids in anger or frustration.

I never liked being beaten but had no choice..

Answer 10

Sometimes a spanking (or the threat of a spanking) was the only thing that got through to me that my behavior or actions were unacceptable as a child.

If I got spanked for something, I never did it again.

I don't agree with "beating" children, though. And I don't believe in spanking for every little thing a child does wrong.