That's one of the only parts of a traditional wedding I've always envisioned... Dad says his knees are too bad for the walking but he'll meet me at the front and say he gives me away...
Plus, money's been tight the whole time we've been trying to plan anyway, but I don't want my Dad to feel like I think he ruined our plans...
So should we just do a less formal ceremony without all that, or still do it the way my Dad suggested?
2007-10-25 02:52:18 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If that's all that's standing in your way - keep the church! Your dad will appreciate being part of your wedding, and nobody's going to care that he wasn't walking you down the aisle as long as he was there by your side.
2007-10-25 02:55:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
First off let me say that I was in a similar dilemma until recently. My dad is not a part of my life by his choice. However, like yourself I also envisioned my dad walking me down the aisle. So I was trying to decide whether it was worth having it in a church or some other place. I am getting married in May 2008 .......and my uncle will be walking me down the aisle and giving me away at my church. I said all this because you are truly blessed to have your dad in you life and wanting to participate ......You should definitely have it in the church. You could either meet your dad in the front or if you have an uncle,cousin, or brother etc.... walk you down the aisle to meet your dad to give you away. Congrats....Good Luck !!!
2007-10-25 11:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by kekoa 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask your father to meet you 2 pews/rows before the alter. This way he is taking the last few steps with you before he gives you away. I would keep the church wedding and keep your father as much involved as you can. I also liked the idea of you mom walking you down the asile and then meeting your dad 2 rows before the front so they both can give you away. That would be a special way to encorporate both your mom and dad. Even if you do a less formal ceremony you are still going to encounter the same issues.
2007-10-25 10:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by texascutie 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He can meet you at the front. I've seen a father in a wheelchair escort the bride.
Dont assume that the more traditional a ceremony is, the more expensive the reception must be. You can do it perfectly formally & traditionally and still have an inexpensive reception. Any time of day, a traditional church ceremony is in good taste.
Think about what time of day the wedding is. That determines the level of formality of attire, and how much food is expected at the reception.
2007-10-25 10:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by noname 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do it the way your dad suggested, by all means. The walk down the aisle is really a small part of the whole ceremony, and if you skip church just because of that you'll probably regret it later.
My dad died when I was 20, so I walked down the aisle by myself, and I was fine! My mom met me at the top of the aisle and gave me a big hug and kiss.
Good luck and have a great time! Don't forget to smile as big as you can when you're making that walk!
2007-10-25 12:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont have anyone else walk you down the aisle. i dont know how bad his knees are but maybe he could even walk you half way down the aisle. let this be your day. dont worry about tradition. you do want ever traditonal stuff you want. if you want the wedding at a church then have it at the church. this is your day. you can pick and choose the traditions you want to use. And when it comes to decoration, if you have craft stores in your town watch your ads. Almost every week there is a fifty off coupon. get one thing at a time. it depends on how long you have also. i could help you more if i knew a little more
2007-10-25 11:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by m t 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A ceremony in a church is more than just the moment he walks you down the aisle and gives you away. He has offered a suggestion to make it work for him and he still can give you away. I know it isn't everything you wanted, but at least he has tried to work it out for you. A church is actually rather affordable compared to many venues (except a courthouse) when you don't go all out with the flowers and decorations. Go ahead with the church ceremony. I think you (and your father) will be glad you did!
2007-10-25 11:11:34 · answer #7 · answered by Kim 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as your dad can still meet you at the front, go with the church wedding. Walking down the aisle was such a blur for me, but the part I remember the most is when I gave my dad a hug before he handed me off to my fiance (I am tearing up now). We have tons of pictures of that and I absolutely love them. Just hold tightly to your flowers and you will be up to the front with your dad in no time! Best of luck hun!
2007-10-25 11:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by vaya 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want a church wedding, don't let something like this deter you. You can definitely still have it in a church, there is nothing wrong with your dad meeting you at the front of the church!!
2007-10-25 13:58:25 · answer #9 · answered by Just Me 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We got married at a hotel and my dad still gave me away. the aisle was smaller.
Can he walk with a stick. Tell that as long as here's there it doesn't matter. The dress I really wanted was £790 and we couldn't afford that but it didn't make the day any less special.
2007-10-25 11:08:33 · answer #10 · answered by scattycow 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋