moment. I have no real knowledge of his culture. He seems very respectful...giving me flowers, holding doors open and and pulling out chairs for me etc. I just would like to know if anyone knows how Turkish men normally treat their partners? Am i in for a huge shock somewhere down the line if we get serious?
I don't want to be one of those silly girls that gets swept away with a bit of flattery and then used for a visa etc.
Please don't make judgemental comments, i am trying to keep an open mind and would like answers from people with personal knowledge, if possible. Thanks guys.
2007-10-25 02:50:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Immigration
Like all eastern men Turks are very dominant with their partners, as long as you do what he wants you'll be OK.Good luck.
2007-10-25 02:58:39 · answer #1 · answered by thenetsurfer 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's impossible to generalise. Some Turkish men are great some are @arseholes - bit like men from anywhere else.
Cultural differences can lead to misunderstandings and difficulties. You need to get to know him really well before making a serious commitment - but again, that would apply to anyone.
There are plenty of people that will give you horror stories; not all cross-cultural relatioships go that way, but many do.
So beware of the pitfalls. And it is a possibility that he only wants to find a way to get a passport. Nothing wrong with wanting a passport, but a good idea to talk about his status and future plans at an early stage. If this is an issue for him, why not make an appointment to go together to the Citizens Advice Bureau; this way, you may get clarification about his status and passport, and he may discover that being with you won't necessarily get him a passport.
As for the language, well you can help him learn English, but if you are going to get serious you should think about learning Turkish as well.
Good luck, and be careful.
2007-10-25 04:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have many Turkish friend and they are all friendly. People can be different, we should not put all Middle Eastern in the same box. Depending on where he lived in Turkey, his culture might be more like Eastern than Middle Eastern. Screw all those who say that he will make you slave like they do in the the Middle East. Turkey is not like Palestine or Lebanon. It's geoggraphic position makes it partly European, partly Middle Eastern. My Turkish friends are really nice and it's not only because he is turkish that he open the doors for you. It's because he is polite. In my country, we do the same too. Girls and boys open the door for each other. This is a precious value that you can't find anywhere. As I said the way Turskish treats their partner will depend on the education they received. My turkish guys friend are so sweet and nice with me and their other girls friends that someone who does not know us might think that they are in love with us. But they are just extremely nice and polite with girls. For the language barrier, tell him "Merhaba". Doesn't he speak english? You should ask him things about his country and go on a Turkish embassy website to learn about their culture. You can maybe start to learn Turkish. Ask him to teach you. What an advantage will you gain by knowing a new language? Go girl, be openminded and try to discover his culture. You don't need to beTurkish to appreciate it. Anyway you are not married so if something wrong happen you can always get out of the way. Just to make it clear, tell him that he is not in his country anymore and you are not Turkish. So he can not make you live the way Turkish society make women lives. Good luck
2007-10-25 03:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by blank 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Enjoy his company but keep it platonic. Don't be too quick giving out with sex as I think in his culture you'd be considered a s lut even if he says you won't be. Get to know him over a very L O N G time before you make any sort of commitment. (Not weeks or months or even just one year....a long time. Actually, I'd say this about any relationship which might lead to marriage but with knobs on if it's a different culture as well.) Learn his language and get him to learn yours so you can both understand eachother better. Any differences that'll cause friction will come out of the woodwork the longer you are together and you'll have time to work out if it's just a visa thing. If it is, he won't want to hang around too long will he. Sad you have to be suspicious, but in the long run I think it's wiser. Meanwhile, just enjoy his company and all this flattery etc and see what happens. You already appear to have your wits about you so good luck.
2007-10-25 03:48:13 · answer #4 · answered by chris n 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Close your mind and run a mile. DO NOT TRUST HIM especially if he is being well mannered and buying you flowers etc. He wants something. And I am not being, horrible or anything else. This is not how Turkish men behave with women. He is planning on using you for something. Sorry to tell you
2007-10-25 02:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've lived in Europe most of my life, and while YOUR Turk may be different, all the Turkish men I've ever met would screw a knot in a tree! They are overly horny 24/7 and even approached me as a 13 year old in the airport saying "Fik? Fik?"
As I said earlier, yours may be different, and I sincerely hope he is -- otherwise he's going to take what he wants and you'll never see him again.
2007-10-25 02:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let your heart lead you, but you must be willing to integrate into his culture aswell and there are massive cultural differences. But don't assume he is after a visa. I am marrying a foreign person soon. Everyone thought we wouldn't last more than a couple of weeks together. Everyone said to me all your boyfriend wants is a visa. Actually he doesn't care.
2007-10-25 02:55:18 · answer #7 · answered by Ginny Jin 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
RUUUNNNN Far far away. In 2 years you will be living in Turkey, have no rights, will be knocked up, forced to freely give yourself to this muslim with no say in your life what so ever. This is not a culture you want to be involved with.
2007-10-25 05:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by qwerty111158 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good Luck!
But I think is better to be with someone who at least can speak the same language.
2007-10-26 01:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by Ñusta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Proceed with caution, if you will. Sounds like you are having strange feelings about this person, or else you would not be questioning.
Best of luck.
2007-10-25 05:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetharttt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋