How do you stop your 7 year old from crying all the time, when he don't get his way??

Answer 1

its simple, don't give him his way when he is crying.
when he stops crying, talk to him/her and explain that if he/she cries next time, u won't get anything. get him to talk about his feelings. and he will learn.

Answer 2

When he is crying after he doesn't get his way, are you going up to him to try and make him feel better?

I would suggest that the next time this happens, send him to his room if he's going to cry like that and make him stay there until he realizes that you are not going to coddle him.
I had a very short lived problem like this when my kid didn't get his way. He would put up a fight and cry and cry - my wife would coddle him and try to make him feel better. But it wouldn't stop. So I finally put my foot down and when he didn't get what he wanted, I sent him to his room. I held the wife back and after 5 minutes the crying stopped. After a couple times doing this also, when we told him "No" he realized it meant no and that he couldn't Cry his way into a yes.

Answer 3

My son would just throw himself to the floor and scream.

We just ignored him. We would always think of something fun to do when he did it and when he asked to join in, we told him he could not if he was crying over not getting his way.

Be sure the event you choose is different from what he wants to do. For example if he is crying because he does not want to eat his veggies ... You could say well we have ice cream for everyone who does.

Of course the situation will be different each time but you get the idea. You are going to have to ignore him when he cries over nothing. When he realizes it no longer works he will stop. I hate to be the one to tell you this but the reason he does this is because he knows it works. You have given in to his whims when he cries, so he continues to do it.

Of course when he he cries because he is hurt you will respond differently. Also at this time is when you explain that it is OK to cry when things lke that happen.

Answer 4

There really isn't enough information here to just say "ignore it and it will go away". Are you talking about not getting his way when he wants a new toy? Not getting his way with his friends? Not getting his way when he wants to watch tv instead of doing homework?

Some kids get overwhelmed with much less reason than others. If you think he is trying to manipulate you then I think you have to say. "Jonny I know you don't want to do this right now, but you have to. If you don't do it then...." and list whatever consequence is fair and you are willing and able to follow up on.(Such as going to bed 1/2 hour earlier).

If he is just oh so sad that he can't do what he wants, I think you need to put your hands on both his shoulders, look him in the eye and say"I'm sorry you are so sad. You need to go to your room until you can get yourself together."

Sometimes kids think you just don't understand how very very badly they want to do something or you would let them. You need to make eye contact, say clearly "I understand you don't like it, but this is the way it is". Then go on with your day and when you see he is calm, say "I'm glad you settled down" then give him something positive to work with... like ask him what the best part of his day was or ask him if he wants to help you get dinner ready.

Answer 5

The rule in our house is to ignore any tone that is not normal and calm. We will wait silently until all whining, screaming, attitude stops. This has been as long as 15 minutes but never longer. Once he realizes that we're not going to respond, he usually takes a deep breath and changes the tone to a suitable one.

Answer 6

I may be out on a limb, but it sounds like perhaps your child just needs a little help with emotional regulation and distress tolerance.

There are many routes to this. One I would reccommend is yoga. This is good for preventive maintanence.

When he is not in severe distress you can show him some techniques that he can use when he is upset, such as naming his feelings, or taking a deep breath.

Then when he is distressed you can prompt him and say "What is the name of the emotion you are feeling?"

You could say "Let's take three deep breaths together."

My son recently began doign "focus hands". When he gets distressed I say "Let's put on our focus hands." This involves gathering up our energy and putting it in an imaginary ball in our hands. Then we take a deep breath and when we are ready we can begin to talk rationally.

There is lots of information out there about techniques that might work for you.

Answer 7

Ignore him. Act bored of it. even in public!!! some people will think "ugh can't that woman control her child" and most people will think " that woman is doing the right thing by ignoring him and not giving in to him" that is if you might be worried about what people will think. You just got to really get it under control now, you don't won't this behavior to go with him into adulthood do you? Just think about that, you aren't raising a child, you are raising a young man.

Answer 8

patience.. i know it's going to be really hard but you have to completely ignore it, it may take time but you have to recognize when he is crying only to get what he wants and be non responsive, first explain you are not going to get what you want then leave him to it... completely ignore any tantrum they are fast learners and will soon realize that crying is not going to get him what he wants and give up..... as i say it can take a good while but eventually he will get the point.

Answer 9

When he asks his question, you give your answer. Then you walk away. If he cries, ignore it, or send him to his room until he is finished. If he's screaming, send him outside as there's no screaming inside. Period. Do not give him any more attention than that.

Answer 10

It sounds as though maybe sometimes you give in to stop him from crying. If so, be firm. Don't give him what he wants. He will learn - eventually :-(