why do we get so much grief off people. i fell pregnant ith my son wen i was 16 had him when i was 17. i am 20now and havin#2 i have my own car, house and work full time yet still get looked down on
2007-10-25 01:36:02 · 26 answers · asked by lovestoned 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
surely it is good that we take responsibility for our actions and dont rush straigh to the clinic to get an abortion
2007-10-25 01:42:50 · update #1
nina m i bought my house its not much but its mine
2007-10-25 01:49:34 · update #2
wi mom thats very hars i am educated as i live in england and finished school before i fell pregnant and attended college and got 4 alevels whilst i was pregnant. oh sorry i will sell my house and car then if they dont matter and live in a box and not be able to taken my children for family days out it seems i cant do right for doing wrong
2007-10-25 04:15:46 · update #3
You go girl and to all the other young moms out there you go too. I'm a young mom myself and I'm also educated, independent, and a wonderful mother. I was 19 when I had my daughter she's 6yrs old and I make sure that I work my butt of for her. To me having my child motivated me and made me a better person. I don't know where I would be if I didn't have her in my life she's my everything and I make sure that I give her the best supporting environment because I want her to do her best in life. Keep doing what you are doing and ignore the haters that look down on you, because they are jealous of you. You are doing better then them and you have a child and your young. I say kill them with kindness.
2007-10-25 03:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by tootsiebrownie 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Haha.. Im 30... I had my kids at 17 and 19 so I know what you are going through. Even now telling people how old i was I feel ashamed, but then I think who cares, look what I have- two GREAT kids!!! :o) even better is that when my kids are 18 ill be under 40 still!!! Sounds to me like you are in a much better position than I was when I had mine so kudos to you for doing so well... and I think what gives us young moms a bad name is that so many young moms dont step up and do what they should, they think its a game and then when they realise it is REAL they end up doing something dumb and lose their kids, or they live with Mommy and Daddy for the first 5 years of their childs life... Dont get me wrong I was at home with mom til my second child was born, but I was married and we had out own apartment so to speak. Moms basement was compltely finished with living room, bedroom and kitchen. We paid rent, utilities and ran a seperate household. Nice thing was I had a live in advisor, friend and sitter when needed... Just keep doing what you are doing!!! If they are a person whose opinion matters then eventually they will see you arent "typical" :o) Good luck with everything...
2007-10-25 11:11:55 · answer #2 · answered by rebeccajo19 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Huh. My wife and I had our first child at 20, and now have 3 at 27 and are looking to adopt more. We struggled until one of us made ith through school, but now we have the house, minivan and picket fence. I guess some people feel that if you don't have to struggle, why put yourself into that situation. I can tell you it is tough to do without an education. My wife is an RN and I work in Nuclear Medicine. People now admire us because we are going to be young enough to enjoy when the kids are out of the house (we will be 44 when our youngest is 18). It'll turn around. Just be patient with those who feel sorry for you.
2007-10-25 08:42:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jason B 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You know what sweetie...thats just the stereotypical world we live in. If anything is ever out of the most "ideal" sequence, people have the need to turn thier noses up. I just had my first baby girl 2 months ago and im 19 years old. I have my own car, my own place, and i am engaged. And now i feel ok about my life. It was hard to get thier though. People would always say "oh my god your so young"....or.. "what about college"....i hated it. Forget all those people. Just think about your kids and what blessings they are....and thats all that matters! You'll get through it. Good luck with baby #2 !!
2007-10-25 10:12:47 · answer #4 · answered by Tina L. 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Kudos to you...I have the same problem I am pregnant with #2 and just turned 21. I have my own place, car have always kept a full time job and the only assistance i receive is insurance for my daughter. And still people look down and its like i am doin better then alot of 30 yr. olds with kids. So i dont worry about it. But Congrats for you and hope everything goes well !!!!
2007-10-25 08:57:02 · answer #5 · answered by Brodie_Knows 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Well just some advice use spell check next time. There are mothers who are 40 and sucky parents so I don't believe just because we are young that automatically makes us bad parents. There are some young parents who defiantly shouldn't be parents yet but that doesn't apply to all of us. I am 27 about to have my third, but I have an 8yr old and a 6 yr. old already. I have been married for 10 years and we have been on our own the entire time. My husband works and I raise our children. My kids are my life, just because I started young doesn't make me a bad mother neither does it you.
2007-10-25 08:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by ME 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
i agree, people looked down on me when i had my first aged 17, i had another at 18 and i am now pregnant with my third (although i have left a 5 yr gap this time round lol i am 23 now). i am a doting mother, i always have been even as a teenager, i don't drink, don't do drugs, my kids are never with anyone but myself (exept if they are at school) and my kids are in a well established routine of which ends with bedtime at 8:30 every night.
we do get looked down on but just ignore, and give two fingers to those that critisise you. you know you are better than they think you are. â¥
2007-10-25 10:24:12 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I say congratulations to you, you have done very well to provide an excellent living environment for your child and you deserve a big round of applause. You are very brave, and well done for standing up for yourself. Plenty of my friends got pregnant at a young age, and I have supported them fully (I'm 22 and married but not even thinking babies yet!!), not look down on them. Just ignore those who are to ignorant to see what you have acheived, you do not need people dragging you down.
And to those of you having a pop at people living in council houses, I grew up in one due to my parents divorce. My mum and stepdad work extremely hard but do not earn enough to afford a mortgage on a house that would be big enough for them as they are supporting 3 children (not me), living at home, so a council house is their only option. Not all of them sit of their backsides doing nothing - some people are forced by circumstances beyond their control.
Take care and good luck with number 2!!! xxxxxxxx
2007-10-25 10:10:18 · answer #8 · answered by gemma_florida 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Due to religious reasons some people are opposed to children( and even sex) outside of marriage. It's a lot easier to raise children in a two parent household but you seem to be doing just fine on your own. I'm impressed that you have taken responsibility for raising your children. Hopefully the fathers are as responsible as you and are contributing and helping out.
2007-10-25 08:45:44 · answer #9 · answered by Diane M 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Do you hope that your child "falls pregnant" at 16?
Ideally you should wait to have sex, get a college degree, get married and build a family before having a child.
Babies do not benefit from having an uneducated mother who has to work full time while they are dumped into daycare.
Life isn't about stuff (car, house, etc). Your baby deserved so much more. If only you could have kept your clothes on for a few more years...
2007-10-25 10:47:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋