I'm a 19 years old good looking and tall asian but I haven't had any girlfriend in my life. I don't know what the hell is the problem except that I'm a shy one. I've been patient from like I was 14 or something thinking I'm not old enough but now my close ones like friends and cousins (even my mom!) persuade me to have a gf. I just can't help getting afraid when get close to a girl. Please help! If I continue like this I think I'd be lonely for more like 10 years.
2007-10-25 00:54:08 · 11 answers · asked by s and w then d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well it sounds like like your shyness is holding you back, better find a way to get over that. I mean everyone fears rejection, no one likes walking up to someone and trying to start a conversation and sound cool and ask for her number, but "ya gotta do whacha gotta do!" I have a girl friend who is also like this, I mean PAINFULLY shy, even around me and other female friends sometimes. She is 26 and has never had a bf, or even been kissed or a date even! So listen to your own words: "IF I CONTINUE LIKE THIS I'LL BE ALONE FOR 10 MORE YEARS" So what are you gonna do about it?
2007-10-25 01:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any guy could be handsome.. but what a girl really looks for the first time meeting.. is CONFIDENCE, if you do not have that, you will not get a girlfriend, no matter what.. so, how do you acheive this obstacle? welll, for starters.. I would say, start small talk with people at a mall, or something similar, it does not have to be someone you find attractive, or even your own age.
Start by just asking "do you have a watch? can you tell me what time it is" or something about the weather, or a friendly hello.. then, after enough confidence to ask someone those things without hesitation, start going up to girls you find attractive, if you like lets say, a certain band or artist, and you see her in the cd section looking at a artist you like, go up and try to show interest that you like the band, look her in the eyes, or near the head, don't show panic, or stutter, talk clear, but not demanding, crack a few jokes, girls love a guy with a sense of humor, then.. after a few minutes say "oh this has been fun, but i gotta go" and if she shows interest, she will ask you if you can give her digits, myspace or something like that.. if she does, then shes showing interest. The first few times, it will probally be more failing then acheiving, but you will learn from experience. If you need more help, i can give you some.. add me on yahoo messenger: xaiver_jax
2007-10-25 01:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes shyness is mistaken for something else. If you are a handsome guy and are shy, girls might think you are conceited instead of shy. I would find a common ground with a girl, something you have in common that you can talk about and the more you talk, the more relax you will be and the more the girls will like you and then they might start asking you out. Now how cool would that be!
2007-10-25 01:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by April First 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be shy! Be romantic... Girls like that. Sweet, kind and good-looking, just the traits a girl wants as a boyfriend...
It's normal for guys at your age since you're afraid to get dumped, but if you're really that handsome, why not? GO FOR IT! Don't be scared, if you really want a girlfriend, you have to be confident.
And by the looks of it, you do have confidence. I mean, what kind of a shy guy would say that he is good - looking? I'm total support for you! =)
2007-10-25 01:04:04 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Chanelle Jasmine♥ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just remember us girls are people too...we are not so unlike you...We have hopes, dreams and desires just like you,
Don't be scared...we gat scared too!!!..Just be yourself...usually the most attractive thing to a woman is for the man to be comfortable in himself...When you feel awkward the girl feels awkward too...just relax and be totally yourself...don't let anyone pressure you...if you make the time to be totally happy with whom you are ..them others will feel that and really enjoy being around you...ease creates ease...just relax and know there is nothing wrong with you...It is kind of nice to be shy and humble...but try and show that you are special too and let your light shine...out to the world...I am telling you ...people notice when your light is switched on!!!...you know the moths are attracted to the light thing....Your perfect partner is on her way...smile and wait...
2007-10-25 01:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by missy m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants You to be Handsome. Simple. if your skinny, eat alot, go to the gym, make some muscles on your bones ! Gain some weight ! Girls like V shaped body and abs !!
2016-04-10 04:13:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry. heaps of people havent had a partner when they are 19. It will happen just make friends with lots of girls eventually you will find a partner.
2007-10-25 01:01:39 · answer #7 · answered by mixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
open up! you have to crawl out of your comfort zone and get out there in the realistic world.
boys have to learn to make the first moves, so ask your buddies to help you along. let them try and give you courage. when you think you cannot do it, think of your future being single and go for it! give it your all!
gd luck!
2007-10-25 01:01:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explore all your options. Read books on how to open up to others. Be yourself.
2007-10-25 01:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by cooter726 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just relaks and calm down and joke around with them
2007-10-25 01:03:52 · answer #10 · answered by shawty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋