my husbands knows about my past..but my problem is whenever my mother in law visited us and stayed for 2 days I felt bad not bcoz I dont like her..she's good 2 me but I just cant stand it anymore not 2 tell her abwt it..my husband refuse to tell until I got a second child.Do I have to tell her now?pls help
2007-10-25 00:31:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like you feel guilty for not telling her and that is eating away at you. YES, tell her.
As a grandma myself I would adore having another little one around. Blood related or not. She could very well welcome your child with open arms. I know I would.
Also PLEASE try and like her. You say she is good to you, she doesn't deserve to be disliked just "because".
2007-10-25 04:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by proud grandma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to tell her ever if you don't want to. it's really none of anyones' business. i can only assume that you gave the child up for adoption or something like that. i'm sure at the time that you did it, you felt it was the best decision at the time. i don't know if you plan on meeting this child and having a relationship with him/her. he or she might seek to find his/her birth mother and come looking for you. so perhaps you are feeling that it's gonna surface and it's eating you up. perhaps you are feeling that she will change the way she feels about you once she finds out about the other child. you should talk more to your husband before you reveal it to her. i personally think that it's none of her concern, but the decision to tell is yours. i personally don't even feel that comfortable with telling a spouse or an in law so many personal things. my ex would take information i told him about my family to use against me. at any rate, its a very personal decision that you should think carefully before making. i wish you all the best whatever you decide to do. just don't beat yourself up about it.
2007-10-25 07:51:38 · answer #2 · answered by thecatmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very best thing is to be honest. You don't really know what, if anything ,ever, happened to your mother in law. I have two daughter in laws, its really a privilege to know their history. and that they shared it with me. Let her know that you did not know how to bring it up, but there never is a perfect time, so I will tell you now, type of thing.j You are a mother of children so dont wait for the man of the house to do your talking for you, that went out with the dark ages, good luck to you
2007-10-25 12:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by Carol I R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be agonizing over this. Why the urgency to tell your mother in-law? Did you give the child up for adoption?
I would respect my husband's wishes. He has a reason for wanting to wait.
2007-10-25 07:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by joy55js 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit being a scared little 5 yr old and tell her like an adult.
If she is REALLY a decent person she will show some understanding.
2007-10-25 07:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you feel the need to tell her and why your husband feels the need not to. I would resolve this with him as if you do tell her you will end up having a problem with your husband.
Apparently, he knows his mother better then you and he doesn't want her to know leave it at that.
2007-10-25 09:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Really its none of her business, you are married to her son not her, if the guilt of not telling her is to much tell her - all grandmothers love grandkids, whether blood related or not. Why is your husband so afraid to tell his Mom?
2007-10-25 07:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by nomo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't completely understand the question...where is your child? only tell her if you feel you need to...if she is as good to you as you say then i don't see a problem with telling her...
2007-10-25 07:38:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your past is none of her business. Keep it that way.
2007-10-25 08:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should you tell her? its none of her buisness we all have a past thats life, i wouldnt worry about it you dont have to answer to her.
2007-10-25 07:57:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋