we've known each other for 8 years - way before he was married and it has been on and off since then. we can't even be in the same room as each other without something happening - the chemistry is like nothing else I've ever experienced. up until last night it was just texting but now it's moved on. I feel bad because he is married and she's pregnant but I'm young free and single, should I be the one feeling guilty? I know what we are doing is wrong but I can't help how I feel. I've got nothing to lose. should I call it all off before I get too attached or throw caution to the wind and just go for it, I'm really confused!!!
2007-10-24 23:23:50 · 40 answers · asked by gemma r 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're not confused! You have to think some,you've got nothing to lose??????????? Your young,single and free!
You seem to have no morals!
So,it like you've come on here to brag as well!
Believe me,life will make sure you get pay back!
You BOTH ARE EQUALLY WRONG!
I hope you at least are using protection, his wife & baby don't deserve to catch some disease. Oh, that's right I forgot YOU"VE GOT NOTHING TO LOSE!
2007-10-24 23:42:41 · answer #1 · answered by need2know 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Who is in the wrong? You know the answer. You are both in the wrong and shouldn't be doing what you are doing. You ae free and single and he is married with an expectant wife. This isn't a game; this is serious and it is a number of lives that are involved. This man isn't leaving his wife for you. You are just an extracurricular activity and you don't seem to worry about his family at all. Don't say you have nothing to lose. You will lose self respect, other people's respect and you will end up the loser when and if this relationship ends. Why put yourself in the position of the other woman? Don't you feel that the wife of this man has any feelings? He is a jerk who cheats. Walk away from this situation and don't look back. He doesn't have morals; wants to have a wife and a lover (and does it without guilt! What a guy!) I feel very sorry for his wife and child. Both of you are adults and should know better. Do not lower yourself to do this. Find a single guy who will give you respect, love and will be true to you; not a married run-around who uses women for his own personal pleasure. If you can't be in the same room without something happening; then don't be in the same room, same building or same town. Stay away from poison; it only can do damage if you are willing to accept it. Get away from him and then figure out why you allowed this to happen. Both of you are responsible for your lack of judgement. Start to believe in yourself and look for someone without a girlfriend or wife. Don't destroy your life by ending someone else's happiness for selfish pleasure (you can't think that it wouldn't hurt this woman if she found out about you); it is NEVER worth it.
2007-10-24 23:40:18 · answer #2 · answered by turkeybrooknj 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A married man should definately not "see" a single woman - unless his wife is present. If you choose to meet him, demand that his wife be included. If he has some excuse, than he's trying to do something behind his wife's back - and why would you want to be involved in that?
2016-04-10 04:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur both in the fault. How dare u get involved with a married man and how dare he get involved with someone since he is married and expecting a child. get out while u can. U are committing adultery. I don't care if ur single and free but dang woman don't u know to keep ur hands off of a married man no matter if there is chemistry between u two or not. If it was like this before he got married than he shouldn't have gotten married in the first place if he's that attracted to u. But since he's married he is off limits to u and every other woman in the world. He has obligations with his wife and soon to be son/daughter. U need to move on and find someone else that is single and gonna be faithful to u and only u.
2007-10-24 23:31:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
You are both wrong. You will eventually get hurt too. Don't you know that guys classify girls in only two ways. One kind they marry, the other is for sex. You are never going to be the one he spends his life with. That might be fine for now, but eventually you will fall in love with him.
Secondly, how can you respect a man that cheats. Don't you realize that if he will cheat on her, he may cheat on you with other girlfriends too. A cheater is always looking for a fresh piece!!
Thirdly, she is pregnant. Have some respect for yourself. How would you feel if you had a husband and were in the same situation? Here she is having his child, and he is out getting some elsewhere. Just think about how miserable the child is going to be when she finds out and divorces him.
Fourthly, you deserve to have a full time man that will be able to spend holidays, and weekends with you. Someone that you can plan vacations with, and possibly even plan a future with. Don't sell yourself short.
Last of all, if he is a coworker, and either you split up or someone finds out, your workplace will become a miserable place for you, him and your coworkers. You will be able to cut the tension with a knife. Why risk your job too?
Hope I have helped. I have seen this situation so many times, and it never turns out good!!!
2007-10-24 23:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You do have something to lose: your self respect & morals.
He is a married man that is more than comfortable cheating on his pregnant wife. What if the tables were turned & you were the pregnant wife? You would hate it. She is a person & a woman too.
Don't be selfish. You are just thinking about yourself right now & don't want to face the truth. You are cheating with a married man & ruining his relationship. It doesn't matter how eager he is for it, you are still seeing him so that makes you every bit as responsible. Just because he knew you first doesn't give you the right to have sex with him. He married that other woman.
Please leave him for your own sake. I won't guarantee that he won't cheat on his wife with another woman or that it will save his marraige, but it will save you your dignity & self respect. Cut off all ties with him. He is using you because you are easy. If you really meant anything to him he'd be married to you & not her or he would have left her for you before the two of you even got started.
2007-10-24 23:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hey, it's easy to say your wrong, but there's normally so much more to these situations than can be explained here.
Firstly, no one is perfect so don't beat yourself up, my questions to you would be Do you have major feelings for this guy or is this more like a Booty call type relationship where you use each other for excitement and flirting etc - there's a big difference.
If your feelings are serious then you know it's highly unlikely he's ever going to leave his wife and you need to realise this now.
If it's a physical relationship without strings and your both consenting adults and aware of the consequences, then yes it might be immoral but who are we to judge.
It's your life and you have to lead it the way you see fit.
Good luck.
2007-10-25 18:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing good will ever come from this relationship - just hurt. You shouldnt encourage him as he will blame you if his wife finds out - anything to save his ***. He is only using you for sex, he prob likes you alot but any afair you could have with him would be just sex - he has too much to lose. It is completely his fault - he is the cheat - however i do feel for him and think that the sex you had with him could of been his reaction to his life all of a sudden becoming settled and finding himself with resposibilities - i wouldnt think hed be calling you again and if he does tell him you got the sexual chemistry out of your head and are not interested - that way you come out on top. Good luck girl and dont feel bad! x
2007-10-25 03:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you doing this man is taken if he wanted to be with you he wouldn't have gotton married to someone else. More than likely i would say that you are just going to be a casual fling he has while his wife is pregnant cause he ain't getting anyting at home so he figures that he can get it off of you. He is also in the wrong cause he should not be trying it on with you just cause he can't get anything from his pregnant wife. Ditch him before its too late and move on or you will feel guilty for being a home wrecker
2007-10-24 23:54:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sorry to tell you this, but you are both in the wrong Genna.
Just put yourself in the shoes of this man's wife for one minute. Her husband is certainly wrong chasing after a single woman. And it is wrong for the single girl who knows this man is married not to resist his advances.
There are about a billion unmarried males out there, and only a fraction are gay. So go for some unattached guy and make him your own.
You like the excitement of a married guy's advances. He's used to making love and in a way you can sense that. You also know you are playing with fire, cruisin' for a brusin', etc. and that adds its own excitement. But it is time to stop girl -- right now. Jump a single guy's bones.
2007-10-24 23:42:15 · answer #10 · answered by SpaceCoaster 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Both of you are wrong. But c'mon girl have some respect for yourself.. he is married. Do you want to be the one at fault for ruining his marriage, his family is growing, his wife is pregnant there is no room for you in that relationship. Leave now, yeah you say the attraction and chemistry are there but im sure you can find someone else in a heartbeat. He is not for you leave him for your own sake... you will end up getting hurt in the long run. How would you feel if you were in her(his wife) shoes?
2007-10-24 23:31:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋