This is a brutally honest question... Answer Honestly?????

Question

I've met and spoke with many who say they must stimulate themselves with pornography or thoughts of perversion to be sexually gratified. Some admit it openly---Most Don't.

Do you believe that the current structure of media and political correctness is driving humans into perversion? Back when boys were told they should not (X??) and girls were taught to be chaste; men & women enjoyed a spiritual and sexual bond not often known today. Were previous generations correct in teaching the young to withhold their urgings or should their be more perversion? (you tell me). I (personaly) think the last couple of generations have failed their kids. The truth is that men and women cannot enjoy each other properly when their minds are stuck in perversions..... There is no fantacy in sexuality! Sexuality only works properly between a Man & Woman and only then in a loving marriage relationship!! Answer how you feel you must. I asked this? in R&S. Don't answer arbitraily. Sex is for H&W! ?????

nobody important.....
Is no "Body" important to you???

Andrew... Honesty is "Good" in a relationship that is made together.... A bond is built, with age it changes but it is pure and unadulterted. A couple can only be honest when they are honest....

dmb .. or shoiuld I address you as dumb.....You appear one and are just the oposite... Do you love your wife is she apealing to you???? Do you need perversions to feel love??? Lust is not love! Perversion is perversion! Fact is Fact!

DMB .. Raise Your children right!

Answer 1

Actually you took my words already....

Good to see someone else is concerned..

Answer 2

I must honestly disagree with you for the most part.
On the one hand, you do have a point about the level of exposure to sexuality, and sexual 'perversions' that we have today. Overexposure to sex is like too much of any good thing. Sometimes, it can raise the arousal bar a little high. When people have limited exposure to sex, it takes alot less to get them aroused.
However, where I disagree is twofold.
One, I think your references to the 'good old days' mentality is a bit naive. Old fashioned (i.e. repressive) thinking towards sex left so many people (especially women) completely dissatisfied and leading a life devoid of real sexual pleasure and intimacy.
Two, the exposure and acceptance of what you call 'perversion' is mostly tolerance to different ideas. The world we live in today, where we can be tolerant of one another, and not just a one-size-fits-all mentality is much healthier from a psycho-sexual perspective.
Also, consider this...
No one ever became a pervert from being exposed to perversion. It only reveals what was there anyway, and probably would have found an outlet anyway.

Answer 3

Your conjecture would have more validity if pornography, sexual violence and what you might call 'perversion' had only emerged in the last few generations.

The fact is, that as long as recorded history, and probably before then, there has been lustful behaviour, fornication and adultery.

Why, for example, would the Ten Commandments tell people they were forbidden to commit adultery if there was no such thing? If all were only good and pure, no moral laws or teachings would ever have been made!

As we all live and exist together in this world, there will always be temptation to behave in ways that are not condoned by society generally.

It is our own response to temptations that arise that give us our character and principles, not the absence of temptation.

To be good, one must have the chance.

Cheers :-)

Answer 4

Wow, I thought someone in R&S was actually asking an open question about sexuality.... You jumped right up on that soapbox while nobody was looking, didn't you!!!

Sexual perversion has only increased because the population has increased. Take prostitution for example... It is called "the worlds oldest profession" for a reason. Did you know that the FBI originally was founded under the name of "Bureau of Investigation" for the sole purpose of determining if individual prostitutes were operating under their own free will or within "white slavery".... This was over 100 yrs ago.

What ever happened to the Jesus Police praying for the sick and feeding the poor??? Stay the hell out of my bedroom!!! (And everybody else’s for that matter!!!)

Answer 5

This is a great question. I think much of the problem stems from our cultural programming. We told that we can have sex however, whenever and with whomever we like, as long as we don't hurt anybody and as long as we use protection. This is really symptomatic of the spiritual problems of humanism, hedonism, materialism and general self-centredness. Hence sex and therefore relationships are not viewed as things to give to someone else, but rather what I can get out of them.

while movies, magazines, TV shows and music do a lot to contribute to the problem, they are not the first cause. The problem begins and ends with people and will only be solved when people turn themselves inside out and start loving their neighbor. Only then will people discover that life isn't all about pleasure, success and whoever dies with the most toys (or sex) wins.

Answer 6

I guess you are homophobic,they were around long before the name jesus was ever heard of ,I guess the "perverts" you questioned were catholic priests? pedaphiles love that church so much,what an innane question.
The bible is full of abuse and perverse hatred why blame modern society as a whole,if I ask my wife if she fancies role playing Iam not being perverted,just a little raunchy is all,you people need to chill out and ditch reading these depressing novels masquerading as factual truths ...I do agree that somepeople now use sex in such a manner that they must have no self respect.as far as getting off on porn nope I would rather get stuck into the real thing....

Answer 7

I think you are making a leap to say that this "spiritual bond" is "not often known today." I also think you are making a leap to say it was common in the past. After all, in our not so distance past, girls were essentially married off at age 13 to the highest bidder. It is not wise to make assumptions.

I believe the growing acceptance of alternative sexual options is just an addition to the existing ones, including your "spiritual and sexual bond". People who want to still have that close bond. People who don't still don't. They all have more options for fun.

I, personally, think we romanticize our past entirely too much. I mean, we don't encourage racial segregation the way we used to. Isn't that a step in the right direction? We don't own slaves. Women can own property. Seriously, you are making the people of the past out to be far more illustrious than they really were.

What you call "perversion" I call "mixing it up".

Answer 8

I think that sex before marriage is perfectly fine. There's a physical aspect and an emotional aspect to sex. If you have sex purely fo physical reasons, it's completely different from having sex with emotional attachment. This is probably why so many girls get hurt also, b/c they can't distinguish the two. I'm not gonna lie, I've had better physical pleasure from someone other than my wife, but in terms of emotion, my wife is at the top.
Side-note. If you stay a virgin until marriage, yo and your partner will both be terrible, and the whole thing will just be bad. Sleep around, gain some experience, then give your significant other all of it.

Answer 9

Don't delude yourself that there was no perversion in days gone by. There were perverts, they just didn't have such an effective podium as the internet.

I think the problem is not so much a matter of resisting urges, the problem is a lack of real commitment. We aren't expected to commit forever any more.

Answer 10

well how could u say in back days there were no perversions???
may be tat time those people were not knowing tat its there.
thanks to media tat we now know all these things and we can definately sit down n explain things to our childrens and then its upto them to choose the way.
how could we say tat sex between male n female is correct just coz 90% people do it..Then wat abt dual ones who love men n women both.This is indeed a complex subject where the answer cannot be a YES OR NO or RIGHT OR WRONG.
we need to understand the emotional factor behind it.it may be an organic cause also.
i think we all need to take out the judgemental mind.
love every one the way they are.

Answer 11

Kind of repressed, aren't ya?

Seriously though, blaming the media and political correctness is nothing more than looking for a scapegoat (kind of like blaming music for causing kids to commit suicide in the 80s).

Sex is something that has been going on for millenia. The difference between earlier generations, and now, is the openness that we have about it. We, as a society, have begun to accept what is part of our basic nature. Like it or not, the only purpose that we truly have, as a species, is to create more of the species.

Whether or not society was right in teaching people to hold off on sexual activity, is not for me to say. Personally, I disagree with the attitude of repression.

America is far more repressed than many other parts of the world. Our government, on the federal level, still insists on teaching abstinence only education; something that has been proven, time and again, to create more problems (by withholding information), than it has ever solved. We tend to treat our sexuality, as more of a burden than a natural part of our being.

In other parts of the world, the naked human body, is considered beautiful...a work of art, some might say. In the US, we generally treat any form of nudity as distasteful, at best; or dirty and something to be ashamed of, at worst (bear in mind, I'm speaking of socially). Honestly, it's a throwback to the Puritanical roots of the colonies.

Now, having said that, there is nothing wrong with how 2 consenting adults go about pleasing each other. Your feelings only apply to you, and the one you're with. Raise your children how you see fit, but don't try to deny them the right to gain as much information as they can about not only the functions of their bodies; but how to protect themselves, and the consequences of their actions. Personally, I prefer my kids to have all of the information, and make the most informed decisions that they can.

There's a reason that humans are one of the few species who has sex for reasons other than procreation. The human brain is often called the most potent of our sexual organs. Fantasy is an extension of that; and is perfectly natural in a sexual relationship (personally, I would worry about someone who has NO fantasies whatsoever).

There are quite a few people, homosexual and not, who vehemently disagree with the statement that sex only works between a man and woman, in a loving relationship. Again, if that's what works for you...fine. However, that detail does not give you the right to dictate terms to the other 5.9 billion people on this planet. Sex, like religion is a personal thing.