A man that you really like even though he did something really tacky at my place of business and made me look bad?? We have a lot of things in common but I think he may have a different perspective about what is right and what is wrong. He tried to take something that didn't belong to him and when I approached him about it he got kind of defensive instead of understanding the whole situation and why it was not right-what he did.
2007-10-24 19:21:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Anyone can make a mistake. If this is the case, perhaps give him another shot.
However, there are some glaringly concerning issues at hand right off the bat. Taking things (AKA stealing) is alarming--do you really want to be involved with someone who steals? Depending on the circumstance, (maybe he didn't know it wasn't up for grabs?), this is not a promising, trust-building trait for a guy to have.
Also, you yourself say, "...but I think he may have a different perspective about what is right and what is wrong." THAT is a HUGE problem right there. Sure, enough fights about putting the dirty socks in the hamper can end a relationship, but when the basest of understanding, the moral fiber which holds you two together is in discord, it isn't likely to be pretty.
There are a few more subtle factors here to consider.
First, if you two actually get together, there will be future social events and situations. Behavior that was somewhat awkward now may become grating and downright dreadful very quickly in future events. Who wants to go somewhere worrying that their date in tow may very well make you both look like a**es?
As well, examining how he reacted to his mistake also speaks volumes. Hey, we ALL make them--and many times. Do you feel this was an isolated reaction, or is this a preview of what is up and coming, should your lives become entwined? If, every time you need to talk about something he did or something that needs changing, he reacts like this, it can leave you really hurt, isolated, and angry.
I realize I have no idea who this guy really is, nor the situation you described. In the end, you will have to weigh all at hand and see what has been blown out of proportion, and what has been highlighted for rightful consideration. However, my gut feeling is, you can do better.
It may be too soon to answer these questions yet. Just keep them in mind, as more times than not, couples that end knew what would do it them in within weeks of knowing each other. You may be able to save yourself a lot of time--and heartache.
2007-10-24 19:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by Gauffsa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drop the pursuit. If this guy is into stealing things, even small things, that's a red flag. Despite the fact that you think you have a lot in common, unless you've actually gotten to know him personally, it's more in your mind than reality. Also, it's a natural thing for people to get defensive when accused of wrongdoing. Nobody likes to be accused of anything.
2007-10-24 23:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Len 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Defensiveness isn't out of the ordinary even if he's in agreement with you.
Drop him a hand written note that explains essentially what you've expressed here.
Explain that you like this person and that you thought that you feel that he's better than the act you witnessed. Tell him that it wasn't so much an admonition as an attempt to discuss.
If he's what you believe, he'll be reflective or reply.
"Pursuit" should be only in view of the consequences - for all.
2007-10-24 19:34:39 · answer #3 · answered by B C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is not worth it sluggish. She isn't trouble-free and she or he in all risk lies to you better than you be conscious of. Get a club at an area gymnasium or YMCA and connect some outdoors activities and meet a girl like that. no longer on the internet.
2016-10-13 23:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah! He is absolutely not worth pursuing! Most of us try to get our partners to drop their bad habits as and when we become aware of them. Many of us are faced with the dilemma of forgive or not to forgive certain bad acts committed by our partners! Why on earth would you want to start off with someone who is already on the scorecard with the particular act that even showed you in bad light??? You deserve better and there are plenty of good guys around Sweetie!!!
2007-10-25 00:12:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesn't sound like the kind of thing worth pursuing.
There are better men out there who aren't thief's, ya know?
2007-10-24 19:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by BigTip$ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone knows that you do not take what is not yours. I would not pursue it.
2007-10-24 22:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋