me and my bf have been together like 1 week but i think we r going too fast. we do all the kssing, cuddling without clothes on and stuff. i even jacked off for him. it's just because we cant help it. do you think it;s too fast?
2007-10-24 19:09:43 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks for all the answers. my bf and i actually have known each other for like 3 months cuz we r flatmates. but just officially going out for 1 week.
2007-10-24 19:17:18 · update #1
yes. is eveything based on sex? well if thats the type of relationship you both want then, there shouidnt be a problem,but if one of you feels your moving too fast then that means you are.
2007-10-24 19:13:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The kissing is ok......but cuddling w/o clothes and jacking off is too fast. Try to take things a bit more slowly and actually give yourselves a chance to get to know each other without letting lust rule you. I know how hard it can be to do that, especially if the physical chemistry between you two is really strong. But....if you actually do like each other beyond the physical and see the potential of a real relationship, I would ease up a bit on the physical. If he gets upset, doesn't understand, and/or wants to break up....then he was there for the physical or is too immature to take a step back and do what is best for the relationship. Best of luck! Remember....if you are concerned.....which you must be since you have asked this question, it is something you def should think about. If you are uncomfortable, you are entitled to feel that way and should let him know. Don't do anything that you will regret later, just for a few moments of pleasure. It's not worth it. Take care!
2007-10-24 19:19:22 · answer #2 · answered by Ananda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Facts:
-sex/mutual masturbation is illegal if you are underage
-the meer fact you had to come on yahoo questions to try and settle the feelings you have about wether or not you're going too fast means yes, you're going too fast.
-telling him you want to stop/slow down shouldn't make him adore you any less, there is no penalty for not being physical
-being comfortable with your relationship's more important than anything, you don't want to have to feel like avoiding that person, to keep you both from going too far too fast
2007-10-24 19:15:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you can tell he is worth keeping around, there is no sense in moving too fast. i would stick to just kissing and maybe a little touching outside the clothes. being physical means so much more when you really know the person and can tell they are just using you for physical pleasure. the best kind of relationship is one that starts out with emotional attraction.
2007-10-24 19:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by niugirl1114 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be serious, that is pathetic. You can help it, you choose not to. I can see you asking one of those idiotic "can I really be pregnant" or "could I really have an STD" questions in a few weeks. Of course you are moving too fast, way too fast, my 12 year old could tell you that. What a pathetically obvious question.
2007-10-24 19:19:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you are going too fast. Have you had sex with him yet? have you met the parents? have you moved in? if not...your going at the right pace. I went way too fast with my last boy friend. I ended up with 6 kids and 9 pets. The sad thing is my last boyfriend was a clown and he left me for the bearded ladie. :'(
2007-10-24 19:15:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, in my own thinking, don't get into bf relationship if you do not have the following points: observe his body language..eg to you like him as gentle or rough, soft spoken or loud mouth, thoughtful or egomaniac,etc. if there is even a slight defect or conflict in your mind...give some more time for observations. Lust of the flesh is only for a few momonts of pleasure but could be a lifetime of miseries. For me love is beautiful and with it goes wonderful and sacred sex activities.
2007-10-24 19:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me, i think it was kinda way too fast. better slow than fast and end up breaking each other's heart, unless you do well know that you really like AND love each other even with or without the things you're doing.
2007-10-24 19:13:05 · answer #8 · answered by bebe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does seem a bit quick but each person and relationship is different. but if it seems that the relationship revolves around sex then I would slow it down a bit. unless of course you're not looking to be serious. then just play safe.
2007-10-24 19:13:11 · answer #9 · answered by Vesper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend waiting at least a month or two until you get to know the guy better. There's no rush, you have a whole lifetime ahead of you.
2007-10-24 20:13:48 · answer #10 · answered by KKLOH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋