family issues!!!?

Question

me mum n dad separated. i went with me dad my sis n bro went with me mum. its been like this for the past 2 months. but recently we have been noticing slight changes on my sis attitude n my brothers attitude why? i dont know. lol. my brother takes advantage of the situation taking me mums car to school giving rides to everyone his girlfriend and stuff while me mum is waiting for the bus or geting a ride to work. my sis goes to school walking were they live its a bad neighborhood. anything might happened. me dad received my bros progress report all f's he might fail his senior year we told me mum bout it she hasnt done anything she hasnt punish him lets just say me mum lets him get away with murder lol. my brother then treats my sis like crap when she is being made fun off or yelled at by my g parents he doesnt stick up for her when my mum needs something he gives some stupid excuses n gets away with it how to make me mum understand?????? jeez im sick n tired of it i cant stand him

Answer 1

Your mother is AWOL as a parent.
If she does not get control of your brother and sister FAST, your father needs to step in and take custody of them, and become quite the disciplinarian. This must be handled hard and fast.

You need to explain it like this: they have a window that is only so big to be able to turn this all around before the kids are totally out of control and heading straight for the streets and nowhere else. Your mom does not want to spend the next few years worrying about bailing them out of jail or having to ID their bodies on a coroner's table. It really is a matter of life and death.
It is up to the parents to teach the skills they will need to make a good life for themselves: self-respect, discipline, morals, ethics... and they only have until age 18 to get that all across to them.
If they have to learn all this by way of a slap across the face or a belt across the behind, then so be it.

The parents provide for all of their needs, so while they are under their parents' roof, the kids must obey the rules. They must go to school, keep their grades up, do their homework, pick up after themselves and do whatever chores you ask of them. If they will not comply, the door is that-a-way.

Answer 2

Rev. Suzanne hit the nail right on the head. If Mom can't get a grip on the situation, get Dad involved (whether she likes it or not)! 1st thing I would do is take your bro's driving privileges.

Answer 3

he's probably just rebelling from your parents situation and is dealing with it in this way. my cousin did the same thing when her folks split and it really made her suffer. you need to talk to him and let him know that he needs to get it togethter for his sake(because of the whole school failing thing) and that its not the end of the world. and your mom is probably just coping in her own way and i dont think that shes not doing anything on purpose...she just needs time.