I'm 17... he was 21... we started dating 2 years ago... fell madly in love with each other and just last week he broke up with me and it hurts so bad. I cry every night cause I miss him and it hurts me I can't cuddle with him anymore or ever talk to him again. Everything I do reminds me of him cause we were best friends and everytime I was sad he would make me feel better and I could tell everything to him. Now I feel like I'm never gonna meet a guy like him again and I'm going to be lonely and sad. He was my first love and I was his...he left me cause he moved and hes like 2 hours away from me and the long distance relationship was too stressful for him but our plans were to move in together in 5 months... he couldn't wait for me anymore =( I can't eat I went from 110 pounds to 100, I can't sleep it's 3 am and I have been crying all night and I don't know what to do. I think he likes another girl.. I know hes still single but I think theres someone he likes =(
2007-10-24 17:53:27 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i posted this again cause your answers help me. Thank you for your replies
2007-10-24 17:57:14 · update #1
*Its obvious that he has taken u for a ride !!!
Since he has someone else whom he likes, it 's best to try & forget him ...... he is not worth yr love & affection, the cheat !!!
It will take some time, but believe me, time heals such wounds & wn u find someone better, u will thank yr stars ...... that u moved on !!!!!!
2007-10-24 17:59:22 · answer #1 · answered by ๏๓ รђคภtเ, รђคภtเ รђคภtเ ....... ! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it 100% over? Because if he still has feelings for you, I'm sure this is not how he would want you to be reacting. As much as it hurts, like your heart is ripping slowly apart, stay strong. It really really hurts, i understand, but really, it's not the end of the world. If you can, think of the real pain other people are suffering around the world. It helps for some people. And if it's not 100% over, give it some time. Maybe after a couple of weeks or months, you guys will get back together. If he was stressful about it, he probably needed some time off to think about what he's doing, and how's he doing it. Maybe he'll realize that he can't live without you. There are a lot of maybes, but you don't know, so I suggest in the meanwhile you take care of yourself no matter how painful it gets. Do it as a chore. You HAVE to take care of yourself. Cry it out, do what u can to make yourself feel any better at all. It's good you're noticing your weight and all that, just make sure you don't lose anymore. Best of lucks.
2016-05-25 17:51:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...I sympathize with the pain that you are feeling and I wish that there was a way I could comfort you besides typing to you. However, there isn't so I will give a little advise.
I was at 16, now 33, in the same situation as you are now. I was 16 and he was 23. We were madly in love, inseparable, alike in so many ways, etc,. Then, out of nowhere, he dumped me. :( I was devasted beyond belief. I had been with this man for 2 years (I met him when I was 14) and he up and left me because (as in your situation) I was moving 18 hours away from him and he couldn't handle the long-distance relationship we were headed for.
I was feeling the same way you are right now....Cried every night and most of the day, everything I did reminded me of him, missed what we had together, how we were when we were together, etc,. He was my world and I was his. We had even made plans to get married when I reached 18.
I know that the pain you are feeling seems like your world will end, however, it won't. The crying, feeling sad, wondering if he has or wants another, are all part of the healing process when someone "breaks your heart."
I will tell you that it will get easier as each day without him goes by. I won't say that it will ease the pain of losing him, but it will get better.
Honey, you are still so young and still have so much life ahead of you. There will be another like him who comes your way, but don't look for "him." He will come when you least expect it.
Do cry, feel sad, and remember all the good times you two had, but don't feel like taking your life because of it. The heartache will pass eventually and as you get older you will see that it is just part of (as they call it), "growing up and going through lifes trials and tribulations.
Hang in there, friend. It will be okay.
I did get over him and even after 17 years, sometimes wonder how his life turned out. But, now, at 33, I am married to the most wonderful man (in my eyes) and I have two beautiful children.
If you need to talk some more, don't hesitate to email me at:
mameiam2xs@yahoo.com
Keep your head up!!!!
Hope this helps. Let me know how you are doing....... :) Take care and be strong for yourself and your sanity.
2007-10-24 18:12:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change so much between 17 and 21. When you get to be 21 you will understand that you don't have much in common with a 17 year old. You have a ton to look forward to like college, parties, clubs. There will be many other guys and the truth of the matter is at 21 he is taking advantage of you. He took advantage of you when you were 15. He doesn't like another girl he likes another women. Go out with your friends and enjoy your youth. Find someone your own age and have fun.
2007-10-24 18:07:18 · answer #4 · answered by JK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOOD ! It means you're normal and healthy ! I would be scarry to see human that cannot sad or not broken when the loved one abandon him/her !
He dumped you - so what - bad thing sometimes (often) happen - it doen't make you less , unless you think so !
Enjoy the mourning - chew the sadness - eat the fact - it'll gonna be hard but after done with that, it's a new chapter, you could find your freedom of dating someone else - there are so many charming & unique character out there - just don't fall to the bad one !
Your soulmate is out there - but waiting to be found - how can you find him if you are not moving !
2007-10-25 22:37:04 · answer #5 · answered by Tanya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey, that's sad! What you're feeling is natural and it feels like it won't get better but it does! I know I was hospitalized in the psyche ward for suicidal ideation over breakups.
When one girl left me, out of the blue, I went to a Santero and got some baths and candles and prayed to the Orishas everyday for like two weeks or more.
I prayed bring her back or help me get over her and bring me the right one. Well I also got a reading from the Santero, it helped, she said she would be back in one.
Well, she came back in one month. We were parted for two.
Young love is always the hardest...actually if you love deeply, all breakups are hard as well.
Mourn, feel te feeling. If it gets too bad go to psyche ward on pills for short time. During my mess, a good therapist was great (but not all therapists are created equal). But you're right, the rest of day was hard! Don't isolate! Be honest with those you love how you feel (ie close family and friends) and the rest fake it until you make it. It's hard but you got to keep busy and get out there.
If this love is meant to be, he'll come back. You guys are young and have to sow your wild oats a bit. After all the statistics for marriage surviving are bad these days.
If not, get out there...I know it seems prince charming isn't out there, but you never know.
In the end, let this draw you closer to the Divine, try some group meditation (try different ones to find what you like, check out meetups.com)
*It's in pain we grow, especially closer to the One that Manifested us. Have faith and let Him draw you to better things. That b/f was a part of your earth lessons, your karma, pain is fast way to balance past-life poor karma. Thank his soul and ask Divine forgiveness and to have Grace.
You will survive because you are a survivor. Your ex is an a@@
2007-10-24 18:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by Jack Bent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there, the last answer was correct..you just need time. Dont focus on the situation, it will only make you feel worse, get up and get your mind off it. Plus, trust me..Ive been there..we started when I was 13 and were together for 11 YEARS! The statistics show that teenage love, regardless of how strong it is..wont last because as we grow older we grow as individuals and what 1st brought us together once somewhere disappears and all those common things are no longer there..and thus.. people grow apart. So honestly, its better that it happened now than if you put in 5+ years into the relationship..you'd feel even MORE worse because you'd be kicking yourself in the butt because you'd feel as if your "best years" had been wasted on a loser who for some reason..could toss you aside like nothing...
See what happens? ;)
Trust me on this, you'll be ok.
2007-10-24 18:01:47 · answer #7 · answered by Tammy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey....i know you don't want to hear this... but it is going to be ok. Now is the time to focus on YOU..... if you need some sleeping pills...take a couple... and by a couple...I mean follow the directions on the box... so then maybe you can get a good night sleep... you will feel better. Then get some girlfriends together... go get a new hair cut...get your nails done... watch a chick flick... and in time... you will feel better... Only time can heal a broken heart. But trust me... you will move on... and if you guys are meant to be... then maybe someday you will get back together... if not... then there is someone out there for you!!! Good luck!
2007-10-24 17:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anna J 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel i met this guy through my friend and we were both in love in a heart beat! we went out and we told each other everything i love to snuggle up to him and all those things you said but if you think he likes another girl that is his loss not yours you are a beautiful girl that deserve to be loved and respected if it makes you feel better i would look for someone better it may be hard to forget him and move on but trust me if you make a fresh start and date someone else you will be way much happier
2007-10-24 18:05:06 · answer #9 · answered by Mary Alice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no trust me long distance relationships are hard especially on a man... really... my sweetheart lives about a 10 hour drive away from me thats like 500 miles.... so i know... but honestly there are tons of guys out there life will resume... one thing you can do which will be hard at first is to become active... everyday do something not by yourself but by people you trust and love and that love you. this should help get your mind off him... after you achieve this thought of him fading change something about yourself learn something such as guitar, or maybe pick up an activity such as running everyday or reading this should help you with those small times he might come into your mind. i know its hard to control these thoughts but about a month to a month and a half he will be nothing but a memory a great one at that.
i hope i helped.
2007-10-24 17:59:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he has another girl! I know it and you know it. You just don't understand how he could care so much and then drop you. Where would you be if you had moved in with him and then he asked you to leave, or worse, ask you to share him with her. Oh yes he would have! Love is lasting (that is why you are hurting) lust is short lived (that is why he found another). Count your blessings, forgive yourself for your mistakes and move on to a true love. You have wasted enough of your life over him, please don't waste anymore. Someone is waiting for you.
2007-10-24 18:03:33 · answer #11 · answered by T C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋